Yesterday, the "Change Your Shanxi Group" had a new member. Traditionally, they should introduce themselves. Later, several people also introduced themselves in response. Everyone's introduction is concise and clear: communication company, after 70; In the financial industry, the post-80s generation ... at this time, the group owner raised a question: If everyone's labels are torn off, how can everyone introduce themselves? This question is familiar, but it has not been thought deeply, but it is worth thinking about.

Yes, we are easily labeled, but you are not your identity, you are not your role, and you are not your career. So, besides that, who are you?

It's really hard to be yourself; But what is more difficult than this is that you have to know yourself first.

Mu Xin said, "Why should people know themselves? First, improve and perfect yourself; The second is to see the universe by yourself; The third is to know that you are lonely in the world. I want to find a partner, but I can't find one. The only reliable thing is yourself. "

I translated these three sentences: first, only by knowing yourself can we become a better self; Second, only by knowing yourself can we better understand the world; Third, only by knowing yourself can we truly believe in ourselves and live a unique life with confidence.

Then, go back to the original question and tear off the labels such as "civil servant, second-born mother, post-80 s". Who am I?

I tried to do some analysis:

Core layer: little girl who doesn't want to grow up. It seems that the sensitive little girl is still living in her 30-year-old body and needs unconditional care and acceptance. After learning a little psychological knowledge, I realized that this stems from the lack of unconditional love and insecurity in childhood. Therefore, growing up with children and enjoying lasting love, joy and peace in parenting are lifelong lessons.

The second layer: the contradiction between inferiority and self-confidence. There is a deep sense of inferiority in my bones, but the experience and occasional brilliance along the way have given me intermittent confidence. Inferiority cannot be overcome, but it can coexist peacefully. The path is: create more success stories and keep telling your brain: you can. Remodeling the brain circuit also requires long-term practice.

The third layer: dreamers eager for change and freedom. Heidegger said: "People can live poetically on the earth". There are romantic genes in the bones, longing for a poetic life, or longing for a poetic life. Although the body is sleepy, the soul can travel far. But I often indulge in fantasy, lack of action, lack of action, resulting in all my dreams become fantasy.

It's hard to know yourself. Perhaps, what you know is only the part above the "iceberg", and the rest needs constant excavation, constant learning and constant cultivation. It may be more efficient to move forward with a group of people who want to wake up from their dreams and live their own lives.