There is a famous movie in America, which tells the story of a woman who was confident and able to think independently. Under the careful psychological manipulation of her husband, she doubted the reality and questioned herself, and finally she was almost completely controlled by her husband mentally. The most classic scene in the film is that the husband deliberately turned on and off the gas lamp at home. When the wife expressed doubts about the abnormal change of lighting, the husband firmly denied that it was her illusion and insisted that her ability to perceive reality was problematic, so the wife began to doubt her perception and judgment. With more and more similar incidents, the wife is more and more skeptical about the reality of this world. Finally, the wife basically completely gave up her perception and basically lost confidence in her perception and judgment. Instead, she took her husband's opinion as true or false.

Psychology has passed this level? Distort the truth in the eyes of the victim? To control each other's emotional manipulation, called? Gas lamp control? . This kind of manipulation seems sensational, as if it will only appear in movies and novels, but it is actually very common in relationships and quite powerful. This manipulation is common in all kinds of intimate relationships.

Especially between intimate partners, it will be more typical and prominent. The controller not only wants to be the one who holds the power in the relationship, but also wants to be the only one who can influence the other party. In order to achieve this goal, they will continue to brainwash their partners, demonize and demonize people around them in front of their partners, and then let their partners' self-esteem be constantly degraded or attacked by moral and emotional kidnapping. Do you really believe that you are? Not good enough? Yes? Only he will like people like me, and the controller enjoys the feeling of having the only absolute control over his partner. .

In order to get rid of mind control, I offer two methods.

1. Start with small things and re-empower yourself.

The controlled person has no ability to make decisions for himself and needs to be authorized to make decisions for himself again. Try to make decisions and choices from small things, from what to eat for lunch, what to wear when going out, and who to contact. Should I tell the controller? No? Slowly, you can regain your confidence and strength in yourself.

Step 2 ask friends and family for help