Some people say: "Most of the losses you suffer in life are because you don't know people well, and the other half are harmed by others!"

Yes, in today's world In a society that values ??human relationships, if we don’t understand how to treat people, we will suffer a lot.

In life, we must make the right friends and stay away from scumbags, so that we will not waste our sincerity in vain.

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A friend of mine has been sighing a lot lately.

Some time ago, after she joined the new company, she was assigned to the project team and was directly led by the department leader to do business.

But she has been busy for three months, but her work has not improved. The leader said to her: "Don't be anxious, take your time, everyone has an adaptation process."

My friend thought the leader was very good, just like a friend. From then on, she and her boss talked about everything and told him all her work experience.

Unexpectedly, one time, Xiaoxiao heard her boss complaining about her in the corridor:

"She is too stupid to sign big orders, and all she signs are small ones." Shanzi, I really don’t want to take her.

If she hadn’t been so active at work and running errands for everyone, I would have fired her now.

When she can't bear it, she will resign, so that I won't appear heartless..."

My friend never expected that the "close friend" he thought he would do this behind his back Discredit her.

Half a month later, the leader blatantly plagiarized Xiaoxiao’s project plan and looked at her sideways and with hostility.

She became so angry that she had a big fight with her boss and left the company. My friend can’t understand. Is it true that there are no friends in the workplace, only interests?

This made her completely lose confidence in the workplace and began to hate work. I comforted her and said:

"The more despicable and shameless a villain is, the more he likes to talk about benevolence, justice and morality, and even "morally kidnaps" you, advising you to sacrifice more and contribute more without thinking of anything in return.

In companies, many leaders like to use this trick when they deceive their employees.

So, don’t be too sad. This is a bad encounter. You need to make friends in the future. Keep your eyes open..."

She suddenly realized: "It's all because of my careless personality that I have suffered so much, and now I realize how stupid I am!"

In fact, people are the most difficult to understand and are also good at pretending.

In casual acquaintances, you will think that he is gentle and amiable. Once something happens and he is faced with immediate dangers, his cunning will suddenly be revealed.

Therefore, when interacting with others, it is best to pay attention in many aspects in private to know whether this person is worth getting to know deeply.

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Zeng Guofan once said: It is better not to be illiterate than to be ignorant of people.

Knowing people is a kind of great wisdom. You must first know a person clearly before you can have the possibility of further communication.

Knowing people is also a skill. Only by learning to know people can you make better use of them.

Hu Xueyan is such a person who is very discerning about people.

When Hu Xueyan was still a bank boy, he met Wang Youling, a poor stranger.

At this time, Wang Youling was not only poor but also had a bad temper. He spent all day doing nothing in the teahouse.

Unlike others who ridiculed and snubbed Wang Youling, Hu Xueyan felt that he was not a thing in the pool.

Not only did he show more concern for him, but he also sent him 500 taels of silver to cover the cost of going to Beijing to take the exam.

Facts have proved that Wang Youling lived up to his expectations. After entering Beijing, his official career was prosperous, and he even became governor of Zhejiang.

Wang Youling is grateful for Hu Xueyan’s help in times of need.

After becoming an official, he used his power in the officialdom to pave the way for Hu Xueyan's bank, tea shop, pharmacy and other businesses, and helped him become the richest man in Jiangnan.

Smart people will learn to know people before employing them. They know that only by knowing people can they better make the most of their talents and make the best use of them.

Throughout the ages, there have been many smart people like Hu Xueyan. They seemed to be helping others, but in fact they were helping themselves in disguise.

The success of a person's career is inseparable from knowing and employing people, and knowing and employing the right people will make the career and marriage more effective with half the effort.

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In life, recognizing human nature and making the right friends are already a required course in life. So, how can we know people better?

In fact, it is very simple. "Hanshu Biography of Du Qin" advocates:

"You can know people from six aspects.

One is to treat them as When he is prosperous, observe who he promotes; secondly, when he is rich, observe how he spends his money; thirdly, when he is poor, observe what he "does not do". ; The fourth is to observe whether he adheres to the principle of "not taking" when he is in need. The fifth is to observe what he does every day when he is close to him; the sixth is to observe what he does when he is far away. Advocate for something. "

If you meet the right person, you will survive the storms when you are down. If you meet the wrong person, he will deliberately set a trap to trap you.

Therefore, we must learn to recognize and identify people. Knowing people is the highest art in life. I hope you and I can keep a clear mind.

At the same time, you must first do yourself a good job, cultivate yourself, and become a truly big-picture person, so that you can stand higher and see further on this path of life.