First, if you are poor, don't leave your relatives, and if you are rich, don't return home

If you are poor, don't leave your relatives, which means that people will look down on you.

It's a cruel thing in this society that people are warm and cold. When you have no money, everyone will be just like the God of plague when they see you, and they are afraid that you will borrow money from others. Moreover, when you are poor, you will visit relatives' homes and have no money to buy gifts. Everyone likes to reciprocate. If you visit relatives empty-handed, relatives will look down on you.

Then your sudden visit is likely to be a kind of trouble for others. In their eyes, your visit is just "nothing goes to the Three Treasures Hall".

This society is very realistic. People who don't have money can give you very little help in the snow, but there are many people who don't ask questions or throw stones at you. This is also a reality that we have to admit. Everyone is money-oriented. Although it is more cruel than cool thin, it is actually an understandable reality.

If you are rich, you don't return to your hometown. That is to say, when you are rich, you'd better not return to your hometown. Relatives will think you are showing off, which is actually the weakness of human nature.

When people return to their hometown when they are rich, there will be an endless stream of people who come to cling to and curry favor with them. Generally, such people are snobs who follow suit. You say you are not helping, and you are not helping. Therefore, it is best not to return to your hometown when you are rich, otherwise you will be asking for trouble and adding trouble.

Zhu Zhiwen, a grassroots singer, is a typical example. Before he became famous, the whole village hated him: lazy and stupid, just singing blindly without doing anything, and not doing farm work.

But he became famous overnight and became rich, and the attitude of the villagers changed immediately: because he became rich and had a lot of money, the villagers began to borrow money from him.

Therefore, what our ancestors said is very reasonable and realistic. If a person is very poor, even if you live in a big city, there is no interest. If you are a very rich person, even if you are in a deep forest, someone will come to see you. The reality of human nature is really the most creepy and chilling.

two, neither deaf nor blind, not worthy of being the master

There is an old saying: "It is hard to be confused". If everything is too clever, it may not be a good thing for others.

everyone has a small abacus in his heart. As long as it has nothing to do with the principle, it is good for others and himself to turn a blind eye. It is difficult for anyone to get along with each other for a long time.

when the water is clear, there will be no fish, and when people look at it, there will be no disciples. When you are alive, it is most valuable to learn to tolerate others. To tolerate others is to tolerate yourself, and to see through is the great wisdom of dealing with people.

third, the sky is not arrogant, and the earth is not arrogant.

this sentence means not boasting, saying that you should be modest and not show off yourself.

Heaven and earth never talk, but they are daunting. And some people talk big and show off their cleverness all day long, but they don't know that it is a joke in the eyes of others. The more a person shows off, the more he lacks. Showing off all day just shows that there is not much ink in his stomach.

truly wise people always cherish words like gold, but what they say is hit the floor. It is more convincing to talk less and do more, and prove your strength with practical actions.

In The Book of Rites, there is a saying that "a gentleman does not flatter himself, nor does he reward himself for his work, in order to be affectionate." Said. It means that a gentleman does not exaggerate his own deeds or show off his own merits in order to conform to the truth. Moreover, it is necessary to "show the goodness of people and the merits of beauty, in order to be a sage."

show the good deeds of others and praise their contributions, so as to treat the sages humbly. "Therefore, although the gentleman feels inferior, the people respect him." Therefore, although the gentleman is humble, the people respect him.

four, people can't be all, melons can't be round.

If a person likes something, you can devote your time and energy to it, instead of doing it step by step, as if you need to be restrained from nine to five.

people are not perfect, and melons are not round. Ten horses are not complete, and ten fingers have lengths. Proper regret is the highest wisdom in life. Often the pursuit of perfection will lose the motivation and direction of progress.

We can't make the sun rise in the west and set in the east, and we can't turn back the clock. We can only meet the uncertain future. However, we can follow the rising sun and setting in the west, follow the extension of time, and courageously and steadily move towards the future in a favorable environment.

the meaning of life is not looking back, but grasping the present. As a philosopher said, our past is gone and our future is gone, so we don't have to worry about the past and the future, we just need to live in the present seriously.

Life is the same. No one's life is perfect. If you always stare at your own shortcomings, you will never be happy. When you are alive, learn to tolerate yourself and reconcile with your past self, so that regrets can be relieved.

The four classic sayings of our ancestors are well-written. Read them carefully and avoid many detours!