Refuse tactfully but not impolitely

Refuse tactfully but not impolitely. Sometimes it is necessary to reject others for various reasons. In life, there will always be Many people are embarrassed to refuse when others ask for help but they don’t want to do something. The following is a tactful and polite refusal and related information. Tactful and polite rejection 1

If you want to reject others in a conversation, first of all, your rejection must be reasonable and acceptable to others; secondly, you must accept it first and then change it, avoid being direct, so as to reduce the consequences of rejection. Unhappiness and disappointment; and finally learning to strengthen one's position.

1. Rejection must be reasonable and reasonable

How to reject others is an art. The key point of this art is how to say rejection to make others feel reasonable and reasonable, and then make the rejection more reasonable. Others are more receptive.

Human life is spent in constant acceptance and rejection. If you refuse without using appropriate methods and corresponding techniques, it will easily hurt the other party, cause resentment and dissatisfaction, lead to the breakdown of interpersonal relationships, and put yourself in a very passive situation.

Even if we don't have a serious dispute, the conflicts caused by rejection will make the other party feel stuck in the throat and very uncomfortable.

2. Inherit first and then transfer, avoid being direct

Sometimes the other party’s request is reasonable to a certain extent, but it cannot be done in time due to limitations of working conditions. be fully satisfied. In this case, the words of rejection can be in the form of "affirmation first and then denial", so that they can get some spiritual satisfaction and reduce the unhappiness and disappointment caused by rejection.

On the other side, avoid saying no directly when the other party first says yes. Instead, express sympathy and compassion, and then honestly state the reasons why you cannot accept it, gain the other party's understanding, and let the other party give up. ask.

3. The powerful weapon of rejection lies in the other party itself

In the process of seeking how to politely reject others, we should realize one thing: the powerful ideological weapon of rejection is often in the other party. Oneself or one's own words. In communication, when they are in an unfavorable situation, in order to find a turning point and strengthen their position, they also need to find an excuse to reject the other party.

At this time, if you can use the other party's words to refuse the other party flexibly and tactfully, you can make the other party no longer need to insist, so that you can achieve the purpose of politely refusing the other party.

Rejection must be because you are unable to do anything or you are extremely disgusted with the other party's request. When you can help others, you should still lend a helping hand. This way you can continue to expand your interpersonal circle and enrich your network resources. .

If you can follow the above principles when rejecting others, then congratulations, you have been able to politely reject others. Tactful and yet polite rejection 2

1. Keep responses concise

If you want to reject someone, be simple and direct, you can use phrases, such as: "Thank you Look up to me, but now is not the time” or “I’m sorry, I can’t help you.” Try to use your body language to emphasize the "no" without being overly apologetic.

2. Quote a famous saying or proverb

When you want to reject someone, you can use a famous saying or proverb to express your meaning. The advantages of this method are obvious. It can save a lot of explanation time and make the language more vivid.

3. Provide alternatives

When you cannot help others, you can think of other ways to replace help after explaining the reasons. Ordinary people will have a compensatory mentality. If the solution they come up with is not ideal, but they have tried their best, it will also reduce the other party's disappointment to a certain extent.

4. Relaxed humor, subtle wit

Everything we do must be based on principles, and we must never do anything that is not in line with the principles.

If someone asks you for help and it is against principle, then don’t agree. This is called adhering to principle. But at the same time, be careful about how you speak. Flexible strategies should be adopted based on the characters, environment and other circumstances at the time. Refuse tactfully and politely 3

Your behavior is a direct expression of your attitude

When your behavior is inconsistent with your words, most others will believe your behavior.

In relationships, the best way to reject someone is often not to say "no" verbally, but to remember that you have rejected the other person when you say no.

I encountered such a thing when I was in school.

Qiqi is a pretty good-looking girl. She was complained about by her real name on the school forum. The other party said that Qiqi accepted his pursuit while continuing to have an affair with others. She was a female "Sea King" (referring to People who have a lot of spare tires).

The Qiqi in the post is a girl from the dormitory next to ours. She is actually not a bad person, but she is too naive about love.

She always thought that those people were her suitors, and she had the right to decide who to be with, and she was also qualified to accept gifts from them.

And from her point of view, she has already said that she does not want to fall in love, but those people are still chasing her and sending gifts. It is a matter of fighting and suffering.

However, although Qiqi really refused, she never showed it in her behavior.

Yesterday I told others that I don’t want to fall in love yet, but today I can accept the necklace from others. Yesterday I told others that I have no idea about him, and today I still want to go out to watch a movie with him.

No matter who encounters this situation, they will think that they still have a possibility, so it is inevitable to continue pursuing it.

When facing relationships, what you fear most is someone whose words and deeds are inconsistent, because when your words and deeds are inconsistent, it is easy for others to misunderstand you and act according to their own understanding.

After all, people who really like you are not willing to let go of any possibility.

Therefore, when it comes to relationships, when you really want to reject someone, it is never about what you say, but about what you do after you say it.

All "keeping distance" can have the effect of rejection

I really like a sentence in "Western Conference":

"Keeping the distance between different identities in an appropriate way intelligently is the essence of maintaining any kind of social relationship."

Will your rejection hurt another person? The key to how to learn to be polite and not lose your proper demeanor in the process of rejection is to keep your distance.

Just like Fan Shengmei in "Ode to Joy", although he was already in love with Wang Baichuan, Chen Jiakang did not give up the idea of ??pursuing her.

However, Fan Shengmei's attitude has always been very straightforward and clear.

Chen Jiakang was about to send Fan Shengmei home. Fan Shengmei said that Wang Baichuan would come to pick her up from get off work, and subconsciously distanced herself from him. Chen Jiakang gave Fan Shengmei a gift, but Fan Shengmei declined every time. Even if she had no choice but to accept it, she would return the money to Chen Jiakang.

Fan Shengmei, who is in love, can be said to have not given Chen Jiakang any chance. She knows that she must be responsible for her feelings, and she also knows that keeping a distance is a silent rejection.

It is also because Fan Shengmei "can handle things clearly", so even if she has a boyfriend, Chen Jiakang is always poaching her.

Moreover, when Fan Shengmei and Wang Baichuan officially broke up, Chen Jiakang pursued him even more persistently. Only at this time did Fan Shengmei seriously start to consider him.

In "Qi Pa Shuo", I remember Chen Ming said something, he said: "It is the rejection with the highest emotional intelligence."

When you can't simply say "I don't like it" It really doesn't matter, because simply distancing yourself from the other person is also a way of rejection, and even more effective.

Just like when someone asks you to go out and you are embarrassed to refuse, you can always tell the person that you are inconvenienced, or you can just not reply if you really can't.

As time goes by, that person will be able to understand what you mean, no matter how slow he is.

The more important point is that when you don’t respond to the other person in the relationship, no matter how passionate the person is, they will give up because they are tired after giving it for a long time.

At this time, your goal has been achieved.

So, when you want to reject someone but don’t know how to say it, you can try to keep a distance from the other person.

Because the best way to reject someone politely is to just keep your distance.

Your actions represent your intentions.

The person who is sincere to you will understand what you mean and will not embarrass you anymore; the person who is not sincere will give up sooner or later because of tiredness.