This is an era when chicken soup literature is popular. When you approach a bookstore, the first thing that catches your eye is usually a variety of books on success and chicken soup for the soul. And why I oppose Chicken Soup for the Soul is not because what they say is wrong. On the contrary, the principles in Chicken Soup literature are all wise sayings, and they can no longer be correct. But the problem is that most Chicken Soup for the Soul is telling you that this is the right thing to do. They are right, but they never tell you why they are right. They never demonstrate a truth, and they never tell you how to really think and do things. So there’s a good definition of chicken soup for the soul: it’s a bowl of good soup served hot, but without a spoon.

“The best way to get something is to make yourself worthy of it.” This sentence was said by Charlie Munger. Maybe most people are not very familiar with him, but when it comes to investing He is a Taishan Beidou-level figure in the world. Warren Buffett once said modestly: Without Charlie Munger, there would be no Buffett today. This shows its influence in the investment community. However, this sentence uttered by such an elite was mistaken by many people as a chicken soup article, which is actually a misunderstanding.

Anyone familiar with the investment field knows that Buffett once said: The best strategy for investing in stocks is to hold it for the long term. Many people then randomly bought a stock from the stock market and left it alone for a long time. However, many years later, they were surprised to find that the price of the stock not only did not rise, but fell completely, so that He no longer even had the desire to redeem it, so he became angry and accused: Buffett, an old man, misled me! This is a misunderstanding that many of us think about. We always believe that there are many shortcuts in this world. We all think that we are the pig standing in the wind and will always be favored by fate. We wish we didn’t have to do anything. , someone has paved the way to wealth and honor for us, and we just need to lie down on it. Is there such a thing in the world? Maybe, but I don't believe it will happen to us.

Many of us cannot think deeply, but prefer to take quotes out of context. Buffett tells investors to hold them for the long term, but the real focus is what kind of stocks to hold and what kind of stocks are worth holding for the long term. This is the key. If he really just randomly selects a stock from the capital market and puts it away for decades, wouldn't this approach make it easy for everyone to become Buffett? The prerequisite for choosing a stock and holding it for a long time is that you have done a lot of calculations and investigations before doing so, because if you choose to hold a stock for a long time, it means that you are full of confidence in its future and believe that the stock is issued. The company will create real value in the future. This is the core of the appreciation of a stock. Therefore, Buffett warns us that stocks need to be held for a long time. He wants to tell us: Don’t treat the stock market as speculation, but turn it into your investment. .

So we know that for the growth of anything, it is better to dig inward than to look for opportunities from outside. This is not only true in the investment field, but also in our lives.

Many boys pursue the girl they like and try their best to please the girl and satisfy any request made by the girl. But in the end, the girl still ignores them and ends up sleeping with someone else. The boys are together. And the only "comfort" this boy gets from this girl is: you are a good person. At this time, the boy will be very depressed: Is that man good to her as long as I treat her? I have treated her like this, why can't I make him fall in love with me?

In fact, the answer is very simple, because when your value and personality are shaped by the needs of the other person, it is difficult for you to get the true recognition of another person. Two people are attracted to each other because they each exude Characteristics and personality that fascinate the other person, rather than trying to gain another person's favor in an almost flattering way. Of course, you cannot make the other person fall in love with you in this way, even if you really moved the other person in the end and made the other person agree to be with you. At the same time, don’t you think that there is a lot of pitiful elements in such a touching feeling? The fact is that the other person has not really fallen in love with you yet.

Li Xiaolai gave an example in the article "Give Up Your Ineffective Social Networking". The reason why two people can become friends is because of the exchange of resources. Of course, this resource is not only material, but also more of the other person's body. Traits and talents, just like in kindergarten, children with many toys always like to play with other children with many toys, because for them they can exchange on an equal footing. It is not because they do not want to play with children with few toys. Because they look down on them, because when they play with those children who have fewer toys, they are not playing, but being robbed. I believe no one likes the feeling of being robbed.

So, when we are busy expanding our network of contacts and clinging to various relationships all day long, we might as well improve our core values ??and focus on cultivating ourselves to eliminate those messy temptations. And if someone asks you again what should you do if you can't catch a girl (boy), I hope you will tell him: the best way to test whether a person is true to you is to let her (him) go and see if she will come back. , and during this period, what you have to do is to make yourself worthy of her (him).