Finally, I selected books on love, interpersonal communication and personal growth. If you find it useful, remember to bring it in your pocket ~
First, love 1. Intimate relationship.
As a site about lovers or their relationship from a rational point of view, we can look at our emotions from a more rational point of view, so as to better handle our emotional world.
The book also mentions many psychological effects, such as exposure effect and halo effect. Popular explanations combined with scientific arguments and conclusions are enough to make this book readable and scientific.
Exposure effect: People are more fond of people who are familiar with and have more contact with them. Therefore, people who are familiar with each other and have frequent contacts are more likely to fall in love.
I have a deep memory of a long-distance relationship. Because I have had a long-distance relationship myself, I am more curious.
Long-distance love is often quite stable when separated from two places, but during this time, two people's ideas will gradually change, but they will still imagine each other as a partner worth waiting for in their hearts. Because they are not together and lack communication, these changes are difficult to be detected.
But when couples in one place are together, all kinds of contradictions will break out, and couples will find that the other party can't meet their expectations. One third of distant couples will break up within three months after reunion.
2. "Be a better self after breaking up"
After breaking up in love, there is always a process that is the only way to get out of the lost mood slowly.
This book is also the gospel of my time. When I don't understand, I will take it out and read it. After all, there are still many things I cherish and need to do in this world. What I need to do is to cherish these hard-won things, forget that ta and start a new life journey.
3. Learning and love
If you don't know how to manage love, study. After all, we are boyfriend (girlfriend) who are doing ta for the first time, and everything needs to be studied. And this book teaches us how to love step by step.
4. The five languages of love
As long as you look at this subtitle (Creating Perfect Gender Communication), you can know that this is a book about emotional communication and maintenance between the two sexes.
Five languages are mentioned in the book-affirmative words; A carefully planned moment; Accept gifts; Service of litigation; Physical contact.
All these are telling us that they are essential in the process of getting along with our partners. Constantly encourage each other, give you special surprises on special days such as anniversaries and Valentine's Day, thank him calmly for his gifts and so on. Can continue your previous feelings.
5. "Why the more you love, the more lonely you are"
The author of this book is Wu Zhihong, a well-known person in the field of psychology. He explained many lonely love phenomena we usually encounter from the psychological point of view, and pointed out that our lonely love stems from our inner narcissism.
To break the loneliness in your heart, you must first break the narcissism in your heart, which is the following aspects mentioned in the outline.
Second, interpersonal communication 1. Non-violent communication
Four choices when you hear something unpleasant: 1, blame yourself; 2. complain about others; 3. Understand your feelings and needs; 4. Understand the feelings and needs of others. -nonviolent communication
The advantage of this book is that we can learn a lot about the art of communication, abandon our original vulgar and violent communication methods, and then communicate with a peaceful mind.
2. People
This book focuses on groups, group psychology and the influence of leaders on groups. If you are curious about the topic "Why do people have herd mentality", then this book should be a good answer for you.
3. "High EQ comes from practice"
Maybe just looking at the name is the best reason why I need to choose a book. After all, sometimes I really feel that my EQ is not online and I need to study more.
Moreover, the facts also prove that the so-called high emotional intelligence is not innate, but is basically created through acquired learning and training. Therefore, if you want to have high EQ, you must learn it first.
4. Critical communications
Do you feel that sometimes your communication with others seems to lose focus? There will even be some unanswerable words.
Yes, as a small white who just entered the workplace a few years ago, she can be said to be walking on thin ice, and she feels quite scared when talking to the leader, especially when I want to know the news and some contents sent by the leader. At that time, I was too shy to ask, mainly because the leader was too busy to ask several times, but he didn't reply, and I didn't want to ask again.
Then the book "Key Communication" can help us solve the above problems, let us communicate with people better and reduce the communication cost.
Step 5 grow in relationships
Why this book?
It feels quite in line with my reality. The book mentions that "people are born lonely", but I can't live without company. It feels like it. Since childhood, I have always been alone and lonely, but I will try my best to find myself a companion, whether in real life or online. At least in this way, I won't feel like a person.
Third, personal growth 1. "Poor Charlie Collection"
I like this sentence very much. It doesn't need to be so complicated, but you must be serious.
This book contains many words of wisdom from Charles Munger, which has a strong guiding role in our work, growth and future.
2. Cognitive essence
Many people have recommended this book. Personally, I think this book is really good, and there are many methods worth learning and learning from. Especially for absorbing knowledge, when we don't acquire some effective methods, it may be rote memorization or even repetition, but this book puts forward many effective methods.
If you want to improve your learning ability, this book is really not to be missed.
3. Seven habits of efficient people
Always remember: learn from excellent people and we will get more.
"Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" are seven essential habits sorted out by the author. We may not be able to stick to it all at once, but we can form a habit and gradually cultivate exercise in 265,438+0 days. I believe we can.
4. The courage to be hated
I just saw the title of this book, but I never thought of attracting the annoying negative energy and then turning it into positive energy to motivate myself according to the principle that negative is positive.
But the conclusion is not like this, but there is a truth that leads to a better life ahead. Even if there are many possibilities of being hated on the road, I need to walk on this road with my own hands and feet.
Step 5 "step forward"
This may be one of my books in most love so far. I am a woman, and I am not particularly active. I lack self-confidence and sometimes feel inferior. But this book answers my questions very well.
It taught me how to work hard for my own interests in the workplace, how to be emotionally equal to men, how to achieve self-breakthrough, and so on.