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My good friend got married last year. The groom was not the boy she fell in love with from high school to college, but a man she met on a blind date.

To be honest, I don't understand her choice. Why do you want to hold another person's hand for the rest of your life when you clearly love that person? Won't you regret it?

This boy is our friend. How much does he love her?

He can save all the living expenses and buy her a dress; Every quarrel, no matter who is right or wrong, he will always be the first to bow his head; For her, he even gave up a famous university in Beijing and stayed with her locally. Once she insisted on breaking up, and he even knelt in front of us to make peace.

I know from him how low a boy can be for love. He must have loved someone so much that he forgot himself!

Rao, they still can't make it to the end. My friend explained to me: "People who are too extreme are not suitable for marriage. Love should be infatuated and marriage should be warm. "

Seriously, I can't understand this sentence for a while. Since we love each other, we should be together. Talking about other things is just offending ourselves.

It was not until I met Lin and Xu Zhimo that I realized that feelings are one thing and marriage is another.

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Many people don't like Lin very much. I think it is mainly because of women's jealousy. She is not only beautiful, but also talented. In her life, there have always been Liang Sicheng and many blue confidants, and even her parents and elders have a preference for her.

How can all this make people not jealous?

The four beauties of the Republic of China have their own labels: Zhou Xuan, the golden voice; Lu Xiaoman, Queen of Campus; Ruan, queen of silent movies; And Lin, he doesn't eat fireworks.

This is undoubtedly the greatest compliment to a beautiful woman, who is like a violet and can't be shy in the cool breeze.

In terms of talent, she not only won high praise from her husband in her architectural career, but also participated in the design of landmark buildings in New China many times.

She is also good at prose and poetry. She studied in Europe and America in her early years and was well informed. Even if there are talented people such as Wen Yiduo, Jin, Hu Shi and Shen Congwen, she is not inferior to the world.

It can be said that she lived the dream of all women.

Since ancient times, there have been many women with both talents and looks, such as Lu Xiaoman, Zhang Ailing and Li Qingzhao.

However, there is only one forest that can apply talent and beauty to the extreme and live like a "goddess" for a lifetime!

She is warmth, love, dream, and a real "April day on earth".

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From June 65438 to June 0904, Lin was born by the West Lake in Hangzhou. His father Lin Changmin graduated from Waseda University and is good at poetry and calligraphy. He is the chief justice of Beiyang government.

Lin is the eldest daughter of the family, and the word is taken from the Book of Songs: "A great man is good at transmitting sound, and then he is an ancient philosopher."

Her original name was because there was a famous writer in Shanghai at that time, also called Lin.

People often confuse the two, so she changed it to "Yin Hui".

Lin's biological mother, He Xueyuan, is a traditional foot-binding woman who is not loved.

And she, smart and charming, is deeply loved by her father. When I was a child, Lin felt her mother's melancholy and bathed her father's burning brilliance.

Lin once said that her childhood was unhappy, even because her mother's negative emotions often made her feel inferior.

19 16, Lin settled in Beijing with his father and entered Peihua Girls' Middle School.

1920, Lin Changmin was sent to Europe for investigation and visit, and he specially brought his daughter.

In September of the same year, Lin was admitted to St. Mary's College in London.

Because her father often needs to travel to and from European countries for meetings, she can only stay in London alone. Loneliness in a foreign land often makes her feel sad.

In a letter to a friend later, she recalled: "I was alone in a big study watching the rain, eating alone, biting my fingers and crying." I always hope that something romantic will happen in my life, or someone will come in and talk to me, or sit by the fireside upstairs with me and tell me stories. The most important thing is that someone will love me. "

Under the moon, the old man saw her heart in Guanghan Palace.

Soon, he brought her a charming gentleman.

He is-Xu Zhimo!

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Xu Zhimo first came to London to follow Russell's philosophy. Only in London did he know that Russell had been expelled from Cambridge University.

He had no choice but to choose the School of Political Economy of University of London for further study.

In this way, 24-year-old Xu Zhimo met Lin. 16!

Xu Zhimo later recalled that when I first saw her, my body couldn't help shaking. Maybe it's strange moonlight. His insides are stained by moonlight.

At that time, Xu Zhimo had just started writing poems. He said that when talking with Lin, he can always inspire him infinitely.

People love beautiful women since ancient times. At that time, Lin had the original beauty, with long braids, simple student clothes, bright eyes and bright smiles. She is humorous and talkative, just like a begonia blooming in Xu Zhimo's heart.

Even rival Zhang Youyi once praised her: "Xu Zhimo's girlfriend is a lady with complicated thoughts, beautiful appearance and completely free feet."

The girl's heart is a spring breeze that can't be hidden, and she gradually has a good impression on this talented person who fell from the sky.

Hyde Park, where people take a leisurely walk, and Cambridge River, where they speak freely, witnessed their initial ambiguous time.

Xu Zhimo's pursuit is hot and sincere, just like a bonfire, passing through the dense fog in London and shining into her heart.

But before she could make a decision, she knew that Xu Zhimo had a home in China.

And there is a three-year-old son who is deeply afraid and anxious.

Lin couldn't bear to refuse Xu Zhimo personally, so she could only ask her father to write him a letter for her:

The intensity of the first step was shocking, and Hui was too scared to know what to answer. No irony. I think it's a misunderstanding of the first step.

This tactfully refused letter did not douse Xu Zhimo's love fire. He is more obsessed with divorcing his wife Zhang Youyi, thinking that as long as he is free, there will be no more obstacles between him and Lin. Even if his wife was pregnant, he ignored it.

Zhang Youyi said timidly, "I heard that someone died of abortion."

Xu Zhimo sneered at her quietly: "There are still people who died in the train. Don't take the train when you see others? "

"When a man doesn't love this woman, it's wrong to make her cry, make her silent, let her breathe alive and let her die."

From this point of view, women's cruelty is mostly a knife mouth and a bean curd heart, while men's cruelty is a knife mouth and a diamond heart, and they will never stop until they meet the lotus flower.

He thought his secret love was the irrefutable evidence of Lin, but he didn't know that anyone with a little brain dared to entrust his life to him when he saw this situation.

In addition, Lin always thought that the misfortune of his mother's life was caused by his father's change of heart. Her kindness does not allow her to bring this pain to another innocent woman.

As a result, Lin and his father ended everything in England early and returned to China.

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A year later, when Xu Zhimo came back from China, Lin accepted the arrangement at home and got engaged to Liang Sicheng, the eldest son of Liang Qichao.

If the unfinished love between Xu Zhimo and Lin really goes by with time, it may be a bit hasty.

1924 On April 23rd, the great Indian poet Tagore visited China at the invitation of Cai Yuanpei, accompanied by Lin and translated by Xu Zhimo.

Judging from the previous photos, Lin has short hair and ears, dressed in a black suit and a string of beads hanging on his chest, which is intellectual and elegant; Xu Zhimo wears a pair of gold-rimmed glasses, a Chinese coat and a simple robe.

The two of them are around Tagore, just like a perfect match.

Time has given them another chance to get along closely, and everything seems to have returned to the good times when they first met a year ago.

Tagore saw their tacit understanding and feelings, and he even deliberately led the red line for them. From a short poem before Tagore left China, we can see some clues:

The blue of the sky fell in love with the green of the earth, and the breeze between them sighed "Ah"!

Heaven refers to the ambition and the earth refers to the emblem. This sigh shows that this relationship has ended in vain again.

In fact, Lin and Liang Sicheng were only engaged verbally at that time, and there was no bride price. If she breaks her word, it's not impossible.

But reason once again triumphed over sensibility.

In his later years, Lin said, "Xu Zhimo doesn't really love me, but he imagines Lin as a poet's romantic feelings, but in fact I'm not that kind of person."

Women's unique precocity makes them see through the truth behind poetry at a glance. Poets always want to beautify everything, especially love.

The girl's heart is a poem in early spring, and it is also a poem when you and I are in love. Life will never be a poem.

What she wants is a stable and plain life in this world, and Xu Zhimo can't give it to her.

If you clearly know that a love will not have an ideal result, it is better to cry at the beginning, and it is better to suffer for a while than to suffer for a lifetime.

I really admire her rationality and foresight in dealing with emotional problems. Judging from the events of Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman, her decision is indeed wise.

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Two months later, Liang Sicheng and Lin went to the University of Pennsylvania to study architecture.

Liang Sicheng dotes on her wholeheartedly. Every date, he has to wait for twenty or thirty minutes downstairs in the girls' dormitory before she comes out.

His younger brother Liang Siyong once wrote a couplet for them: Miss Lin came out with all kinds of makeup, and Mr. Liang waited and finally became a couple. The horizontal recognition is: sincerity.

In learning, Lin is quick-thinking and often has fantastic ideas. Her design drawings are always changed over and over again, and finally she can't recognize them.

At this time, Liang Sicheng will come in and use his accurate and skilled drawing skills to turn messy sketches into perfect works.

In life, Liang Sicheng is like a toddler. He doesn't know how to take care of himself at all, so Lin's carefulness and thoughtfulness come in handy.

They are like two puzzles, perfectly matched.

Just then, Lin's father died among the refugees, and the Lin family was once in a downturn, and even her tuition in the United States could not be paid. It was Liang Qichao who took the initiative to take care of his father and funded her to complete her studies.

The change made her see everything around her and made her grow up quickly.

The following year, she married Liang Sicheng in a church in Ottawa, Canada.

On the wedding day, Lin did not wear a white wedding dress, but wore a set of dresses designed by herself with the traditional charm of China, which was beautiful and moving. Liang Sicheng is very handsome in a straight suit.

On the night of their wedding, Liang Sicheng asked, "There is a question that I have only asked once in my life and will never ask again. Why me? "

Lin kindly said to him, "The answer is very long. I may need to answer you all my life. Are you ready to listen? "

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After marriage, Lin doesn't want to be a housewife. She revolves around her husband and children all day. She still wants to be herself.

If marriage is really a grave, then she must be an extraordinary little dragon girl, living out her own style with her unique skills.

They were all employed by the Department of Architecture of Northeastern University, and the white clouds and black water map designed by her is still the school emblem of Northeastern University.

From a delicate and weak woman, accompanying her husband, enduring illness, war and hunger. From 1930 to 1945, the couple walked through China 15 provinces and 190 counties, and surveyed 2738 ancient buildings.

At this moment, she is no longer the goddess in Liang Sicheng's life, but the goddess of spirit, accompanying them through ups and downs.

Lin loves architecture from the bottom of his heart. In order to protect the ancient archway in Beijing, she even pointed to the nose of Wu Han, deputy mayor of Beijing, and denounced: "If you tear it down now, you will definitely regret it in the future. Even if it is recreated, it will only be a fake. "

She participated in the design of the national emblem, rescued the cloisonne craft on the verge of stunts, and designed the relief decoration of the base of the Monument to the People's Heroes. And these three things, she took off a kidney, lung disease and hemoptysis.

1950, when the national emblem is hung on Tiananmen Square.

Daughter Liang Zaibing said with tears: "There is also a drop of mother's blood in red."

Liang Sicheng is a famous architect in China, and Lin, as his wife, seldom shows himself as Mrs. Liang.

She is not inferior to Liang Sicheng in career. She is an independent person and doesn't want to be attached to anyone, even Liang Sicheng.

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Lin is the goddess in many people's hearts, not only her face value, but also her character when the mountains and rivers are broken.

1944, the Japanese army captured Guizhou and forced Chongqing. Liang Congjie asked his mother, what should the Japanese do if they call Chongqing?

"Isn't the Yangtze River at our doorstep?" Lin, who is seriously ill, said decisively.

Liang Congjie was anxious and asked, "I went to school alone in Chongqing, so you left me alone?"

"If it comes to that, I'm afraid I won't care about you."

In the face of national disaster, she took out the heart of death again, preferring to throw herself into the river rather than be a prisoner.

It's not that women don't let men, but that countless men are ashamed of it.

9.

Lin has always been high-profile. After careful study, she doesn't even have a few same-sex friends and doesn't have a good relationship with her mother-in-law.

Liang Sicheng once said: "I don't deny that being with Lin is sometimes very tiring, because her thoughts are too active, and she must be as witty as her, otherwise she can't keep up."

This sentence was said by Lin after his death.

After he married Zhu Lin again, he said with emotion: "It turns out that marriage can be so easy and it is very beautiful together."

This remark once attracted a lot of dissatisfaction from Lin Fen, accusing him of being heartless.

This is really unfair to him. Liang Sicheng's love for Lin needs no words to prove, nor can it be erased by two words of emotion. Whoever is Lin's husband may not be better than Liang Sicheng.

During their stay in War of Resistance against Japanese Aggression, they fled all the way, and Lin and unfortunately contracted lung disease. Always pampered, he learned to make a fire, cook soup and stew porridge. Even the injection, infusion, decoction and drug feeding were all done by him alone.

Lung disease is contagious, and the doctor asked for isolation treatment. Liang Sicheng disagreed. He can't bear to let his seriously ill wife be mentally stimulated again. Even if he finally contracted tuberculosis, he didn't complain

If this is not love, what is it?

Lin loves beauty, so he specially made a bronze mirror for her. From carving, injection molding to sand turning, he personally went into battle. Behind the mirror, he carved the following words: "The emblem is used for introspection. On New Year's Day in the seventeenth year of the Republic of China, Sicheng was carved and cast by himself, which means beauty. "

After 27 years of marriage, he always regarded her as a goddess, followed her aura and guarded her dignity. Of course he is tired.

However, for a man's desire to conquer, it should be a satisfaction to properly worship the goddess in everyone's heart.

10.

What about Lin? Who is she in love with?

During their inspection, they once passed by Jinan where Xu Zhimo's plane crashed.

With tears in her eyes, she wrote: "The same bright moon, the same lamp across the mountain, the stars all over the sky, but people can't see it."

After Xu Zhimo's death, she hung the wreckage of the crashed plane in her bedroom with Liang Sicheng.

What she did was not because she had an unforgettable love affair with Xu Zhimo. But because Xu Zhimo's death is directly related to her-Xu crashed into a plane to attend her first lecture after returning to China.

Life and death make everything an irreparable regret, and she is also responsible for the marriage between Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman. What she did later was not love, but guilt and nostalgia.

It is impossible for a person to love only one person in his life. Nostalgia for the past does not mean disloyalty to the present.

In love, the only thing she admitted and loved was Liang Sicheng.

In the eight years of the Anti-Japanese War, for him, she changed from a good girl wrapped in fine cloth to a coarse wife.

She wrote in the book: "I am a woman. Of course, I immediately became a typical example of pure dross. I rented two rooms for cooking, attending classes, washing clothes and making the bed, and I lived like a lantern every day. "

"Under the dim light of rapeseed oil lamp, sew children's cloth shoes, buy cheap coarse grains to go home and cook, and live simple living in his father's boyhood."

Even if the conditions are poor, even if the food is poor, she still goes to great pains and never complains.

If this is not love, what is it?

In the drift from place to place, Liang Sicheng lost his tape measure. At that time, it was a rare object.

To this end, Lin bought another one for him on the black market at a high price of 23 francs.

You know, she was teaching at Yunnan University, and her monthly income was only 40 French francs.

With her arrogant personality, if she doesn't love, how can she make such a sensational move?

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Jin's talent and humor once attracted Lin deeply. When she just realized that the emotional balance began to swing, she chose to confess to her husband.

She said to him distressfully, "I am extremely distressed. I fell in love with two people at the same time. I don't know what to do. "

Liang Sicheng was also very painful after listening. After thinking for a long time, he still said to her, "You are free. If you choose Laojin, I wish you happiness forever. "

Lin was moved by his words and didn't leave him, but spoke the famous saying:

"You gave me an unbearable weight in my life, and I will pay it back with my life!"

After learning about Lin's decision, Jin said, "It seems that Sicheng really loves you. I should quit. "

It was a disgraceful emotional affair, but when it reached her, it strengthened the couple's feelings and gained a close friend.

From then on, the three lived next to each other and became friends with Wen, while Jin was unmarried for life.

Undeniably, Lin has participated in countless marriages in his life, and the ladies' meeting room held by Liang Jia every month and the literati who come here are also male guests. She can find a clever balance between friendship and love, hobbies and life.

In her novel Ninety-nine Degrees, she once said: "I am a woman of ninety-nine degrees, always one degree away from the boiling point, one degree less sensible and one degree more rational."

A person can have many kinds of feelings, but only loyal to one love, can have a lot of companionship, but only choose one persistence.

This is the genius of Lin!

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Many times, the hottest love is that fireworks are easy to get cold, and the real long-lasting love is the tenderness of running water.

In his later years, Lin lingered on his sickbed. Because of lung disease, she keeps coughing every day, and her complexion has never been better.

Outside, a hunchbacked cripple is making a fire for her.

This is Liang Sicheng, because he has gray spondylitis, and he needs to wear a steel vest.

By the fire, he shoveled coal into the fire with difficulty. He shoveled hard, but he didn't ask anyone for help, because this stove is Lin's lifeblood.

Once the temperature changes, she will cough, and only he knows best what is the most suitable temperature.

1On February 24th, 955, when Lin lay dying, Liang Sicheng held her hand, tears kept flowing, and his mouth kept saying, "Suffering, Hui, suffering, you really suffered!"

At the last moment of her life, Lin only said two words: "Cheng Si."

No matter how beautiful the love is, one day a talented woman named Lin in Where Are You Going died.

Liang Sicheng tearfully designed a tombstone for his wife with only seven words engraved on it: "Chief Architect Lin"

Jin wrote a touching elegy: "poem waterfall, April day on earth."

Many years later, Liang Sicheng remarried with Zhu Lin, and he finally let her go and started a new life.

One day, Jin invited his friend Lin to Beijing Hotel for dinner. Without saying any reason, everyone doesn't know what medicine is sold in the old gourd. Halfway through the meal, he suddenly choked up and said, "Today is Yin Hui's birthday."

Even though Liang Sicheng has put it down, he still hasn't. Whether in heaven or on earth, she is still the goddess in his life. As long as he is alive, he will love her forever.

There is someone who can do this to her. Lin's life is enough!

13.

Lin certainly loved Xu Zhimo. It is too easy for a romantic and affectionate person to enter a girl's heart.

However, she soon realized that behind the romance was a phantom floating in the clouds, which could not take root at all. She tactfully chose to say goodbye.

Or she loves Kim, but Kim is too rational. When their relationship just encountered a little obstacle, they chose to give up. This is not a person worthy of trust. After all, their relationship is not always smooth.

But I think her favorite will always be Liang Sicheng. This man's heart is like the sea. His extraordinary talent can not only support her pride, but also achieve her life, so that the love between them is not only a month and a month, but also a country and a world.

This is also the result that she has been looking forward to all her life.

Being liked by many people is nothing to boast about. It is wisdom to find a partner among all sentient beings.

She is not much smarter than us, but she knows exactly what she wants and what she has.

Marriage is not a woman's yoke, and women don't have to be a foil to men. The best love is equal.