The word "vanity" is interpreted in Ci Hai as: superficial honor, false honor. This was first seen in Liu Zongyuan's poem: "It's only for farming." Psychologically speaking. Vanity is an excessive expression of self-esteem, and it is an abnormal social emotion to gain honor and attract general attention. Vanity has the following characteristics: 1. Universality. Vanity is a common mentality, because vanity is related to self-esteem. Everyone has self-esteem. Vanity may arise when self-esteem is damaged or threatened, or when self-esteem is too high. For example, bling, grandstanding and so on. Vanity is to attract the attention of people around you. In order to express themselves, they often use ostentation, exaggeration and even dramatic methods to attract attention. For example, using a hairstyle that is not male or female to attract attention. Vanity is related to following the fashion. Fashion is a kind of social fashion, which can be seen everywhere in a short time. Most makers are celebrities. People with strong vanity imitate the lifestyle of celebrities in order to catch up with idols and show themselves. Vanity is different from fame. Fame and fortune is a competitive consciousness and behavior, a desire to gain fame through solid work and hard work, and a healthy consciousness and behavior advocated by modern society. Vanity, on the other hand, gains honor and status by showing off, showing off, showing off and other improper means. People with strong vanity are often flashy and impetuous. This kind of person talks about ostentation and extravagance and comparison in material matters; Cause a sensation in society; Personality is very conceited and jealous; Do not study hard. So it is a morbid social psychology. From the perspective of individual psychology, vanity has the following reasons: ● driven by the concept of face. More than fifty years ago, Mr. Lin Yutang thought in My Country and My People that the three goddesses who ruled China were "face, destiny and grace". "Saving face" is a common national psychology in China society. Face behavior reflects China people's feelings and needs of respect and self-esteem. To lose face is to deny their talents, which is absolutely unacceptable. Therefore, in order not to lose face, some people show themselves by "slapping their faces to make themselves fat". ● It is related to the dramatic personality tendency. Most people who love vanity are extroverted, impulsive, fickle and artificial, with strong emotional reaction, posturing, lack of true feelings, self-centered and impetuous. Behind vanity lies deep psychological defects such as inferiority complex and guilty conscience. People with vanity often have deep psychological defects such as inferiority and guilty conscience, which is only a compensation function. They try their best to pursue glitz to cover up their psychological defects. The manifestation of vanity and its harm: 1. Vanity in material life. Mainly manifested as a pathological comparison behavior, its creed is "you have me; You have to have it without me. " When I don't have time, I have to hit my face and be fat to gain the appreciation and admiration of the people around me. 2. Vanity in social life. Mainly manifested as a pathological bragging and showing off behavior, through bragging, hiding and other deceptive means to over-express themselves. For example, some people boast that they are relatives and friends of an important person, and some people hide some of their shortcomings, steal the column and cheat the world. These situations have spread to all aspects of life. In short, creating a dazzling "halo" on the surface of reality makes it difficult to distinguish between true and false, and vanity gets great psychological satisfaction from it. 3. Vanity in spiritual life. Mainly manifested as a morbid jealousy behavior. Vanity is related to self-esteem and face, which can only be realized in social activities. Through social comparison, a self-consciousness is gradually established in the individual's spiritual world, which subconsciously drives the individual to compare with others in order to gain a new sense of self-esteem. "The ruler is short, the inch is long", vanity people deny that they have shortcomings, so they subconsciously surpass themselves and have jealousy impulses, thus showing rejection, sarcasm, blow, alienation and embarrassment compared with their excellent people, and practicing fraud in work assessment and rating. Vanity is an abnormal social feeling to satisfy one's desire for honor and social status. In order to exaggerate their actual ability level, people with vanity often take anti-social measures such as exaggeration, concealment, deception, comparison, jealousy and even crime to satisfy their vanity, which is very harmful to people and society, and it is extremely necessary for individuals to overcome vanity. Self-regulation of vanity: ● Establish a correct concept of honor and disgrace. It is to have a correct understanding and attitude towards honor, status, gains and losses, and face. There should be some honor and status in life, which is a psychological need. Everyone should cherish and cherish the honor and status of himself and others, but this pursuit must be consistent with his social role and talent. Face is "indispensable and can't be forced". If you "slap your face and be fat", you will be distorted if you excessively pursue honor and self-display. At the same time, we should also treat failures and setbacks correctly. "Failure is the mother of success." We should sum up experience from failures and understand the true meaning from setbacks, so as to establish self-confidence, self-love, self-reliance and self-improvement, thus eliminating vanity. ● Grasp the scale of comparison in social life. Social comparison is a common social psychology, but we should grasp the direction, scope and degree of comparison. From the direction, it should be based on the comparison of social values, not personal values, such as comparing the status, role and contribution of individuals in schools and classes, rather than just seeing the salary and treatment of individuals. In terms of scope, we should base ourselves on health rather than pathological comparison, such as comparing actual performance, enthusiasm and devotion, rather than coveting the false reputation and being jealous of others expressing themselves. To some extent, we should grasp the scale of comparison from the personal strength, and the general ability can not be compared with the strong ability. ● Learn from good social role models. Starting from biographies and famous sayings of celebrities, starting from real life, and taking down-to-earth and enterprising revolutionary leaders, heroes, celebrities and academic experts as examples, we will strive to be a "seeking truth from facts and not being self-righteous" person. Self-psychological correction of bad vanity behavior. If an individual has boasted, lied, envied and other pathological behaviors, he can use psychological training to correct himself. This method originates from the negative reinforcement principle of conditioned reflex. That is, when pathological behavior is about to appear or has already appeared, individuals give themselves some self-punishment, such as playing themselves with a rubber band on their wrists, in order to achieve the purpose of warning and intervention. Over time, vanity will fade away, but this method needs my superhuman perseverance and firm belief to be effective.