There is a good saying: character determines fate! Moreover, personality is cultivated for many years and it is difficult to change at one time.
Therefore, I don't advise your friends to change themselves reluctantly because of temporary disappointment, because it is easy to learn from others and it is not worth the candle!
In fact, how can an introverted personality be useless? The more people who achieve great things, the better their determination. If you think so, you might as well retreat into a net and go to the forest. Make full use of your strengths and strive for perfection in your work, and you will surely achieve great success.
If you don't say it, you will. There are too many examples of blockbuster.
Don't envy those people around you who are vying for beauty and fame. Their impetuous mentality is just wasting time and fooling themselves.
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There are introverts and extroverts, and there is no difference between good and bad. Extroverts and introverts have their own advantages and disadvantages. Extroverts are good at socializing and get satisfaction from the outside world, but they may not calm down to think and learn like introverts. Introverts generally like to indulge in their own world and get satisfaction through their hearts.
It is impossible for everyone in the workplace to need extroverts, and introverts can get along well. The key is to speak with strength. Introverts can try to express their views without forcing themselves to become extroverted.
Let me start with my opinion: it has nothing to do with personality if you want to get along well in the workplace. Introverts don't have to force themselves to be cheerful. But introverts should also learn to express and communicate in the workplace.
Your friend lacks the ability to express and communicate in the workplace. If your friend doesn't communicate with you and show you, how do you know your friend is a talented and thoughtful person?
If your friends don't communicate, behave or fight in the workplace. How does a leader know his talents and ideas? Why should he give such employees a promotion and salary increase?
Therefore, your friend's problem is to improve his communication skills in the workplace, which has nothing to do with introverted personality.
For introverts, it is easy to get a raise, but difficult to get a promotion. Introverts are more focused on the work itself.
Everything has advantages and disadvantages. Introverts are usually more focused on the work itself, and it is easy to give greater value to the company on the technical level. Although you don't take the initiative to show it, the work results are still easy to be seen by leaders and colleagues, so if your friends and company ask for a raise, it is easy to achieve.
2. Introversion is not conducive to promotion.
Usually the job responsibilities will change after promotion, and everyone needs to bring a team or a new person. Introverts are not good at expressing their ideas to others, and it is not easy to adapt to changes in work. Moreover, it is troublesome for others to fill the vacancies left by promotion, and the labor cost is higher. Therefore, companies are generally more inclined to maintain stability for introverts and will not be promoted easily.
So everyone's career pursuit is different, so the criteria for judging the quality of mixing are different:
If your friend just wants to do his current job safely and raise his salary, he can concentrate on his work and ask the company at a certain time.
If your friend wants to be promoted, he must practice his communication skills in the workplace.
Yi Yantang uses the power of words to convey valuable information. I hope my answer can help you.
Zhang Bai's outlook on life in the workplace: people often say that "the fragrance of wine is not afraid of the depth of the alley", which means that as long as there is strength, naturally someone can find it. In the workplace, I think the competition of strength lies not only in hard strength but also in soft skills. Interpersonal communication ability is the most important thing in the workplace. If you are really an introverted person who doesn't like dealing with people, then you must try to make some changes.
Deliberate practice is an attitude. Many people will advise you to be your truest self, and don't deliberately make some changes, so as not to let yourself "paint a tiger without a cat." In fact, these so-called suggestions are all nonsense, which makes you fall into mediocrity. My experience is that anything can be changed as long as there is will. There is no denying that when you are in the early stage of change, you may attract some ridicule and cold eyes. However, once you can persist in these negative effects, you will certainly gain something.
I am more introverted. When I first joined the work, I didn't like speaking very much, let alone speaking publicly on stage. In order to improve myself, I will find opportunities to practice and express myself. Indeed, at the beginning, my performance was poor, and I even forgot my words on the stage. But after my own deliberate practice, I broke through my psychological barrier and got better and better.
Pay attention to methods When you find that you should make some positive changes, you need to have some methods. If you don't think about it, if you force it to change enthusiastically, it usually won't have any effect. You can set yourself a goal, try it step by step and work hard in many ways.
For example, if you want to change the negative influence of introversion in your work, don't think that you can become cheerful and outgoing overnight. You can try to start with your best friend, communicate with him more, and then gradually expand the scope. At the same time, you can also make efforts through various channels, including practicing speaking in front of the mirror, watching some videos, reciting some famous sentences and so on. After making these preparations, you must dare to show it once you have the opportunity. With more practice, you will find that things are not so difficult.
There is no denying that you will encounter some difficulties and get some blows in the process of change. You need to remind yourself at any time that I am trying, trying and making progress. Manage your expectations reasonably and don't expect too much of yourself in the short term. Preparing for the worst psychological expectation is the most effective way to alleviate the impact and difficulties.
When you have enough psychological preparation, you won't be caught off guard when you encounter problems. At the same time, we should constantly encourage ourselves to have a sense of accomplishment after trying. For example, today you finally took the first step and stepped onto the stage, which is the biggest progress, and you don't have to care too much about how you performed on the stage today.
Finally, everyone is very malleable, and you need to firmly believe that you can change for the better. The key is whether you have the courage, pay attention to ways and means, and make long-term planning and lasting preparations.
I read many friends' replies that introversion and extroversion have their own advantages and disadvantages, which I agree with, but if we want to get along well in the workplace, we still need to make appropriate changes. In fact, a leopard cannot change his spots, and it is basically impossible to change from introversion to extroversion. So I suggest the following changes:
In the workplace, having one more friend and one more person to help you happen is far more effective than fighting for everything yourself. Introverts cannot make friends. The main reason is that scholars are integrated into the collective, such as eating and chatting together when they have nothing to do, and they have similar interests, such as playing a ball together or something. If you have the same language and interests, it is easy to become friends. But many introverts always like to stay at home and play alone, which is really bad for the development of the workplace.
The biggest problem for introverts is that everything is stuffy in their stomachs, and it is difficult for others to understand your true thoughts. You have many opinions, but you can't express them. I suggest such questions, one is to talk as much as possible in public. Don't be afraid of poor expression, you will get better if you practice more. In addition, you should do more preparatory work, such as tomorrow's meeting. You can prepare your speech, practice at home and watch more videos of your speech.
I am actively communicating with my colleagues and superiors. Don't be shy, most people want each other to take the initiative.
3. Excellent professional knowledge
While the iron is hot, you need to be hard. Only by improving your skills and becoming an expert in a certain field can you solve the problem, then your words will carry weight, even a few words will be unfathomable to the other party. After becoming an expert, your treatment and benefits will naturally follow. Don't fight, don't rob, many opportunities will naturally appear in front of you.
Step 4 force yourself to summarize
If you work hard, you need to look up at the road. Work hard with the company's goals and be good at summarizing what is done well and what is not. When reporting to leaders, we need self-criticism, and more importantly, we need self-praise. Explain what you have done well and let others see your bright spot. There are not so many "boles" in the workplace, and introverts need to take the initiative to find boles.
Introversion does not mean bad, but more attention internalization. Generally speaking, introverts are more sensitive and focused. In the workplace, they need not only extroverted social skills, but also introverted self-reflection and self-cognition to improve work efficiency. Introverts are more suitable to learn academic skills and concentrate on the things themselves. Any company needs technical backbones. So it doesn't matter whether you are introverted or extroverted. What you need to care about is whether you have found a suitable position to play your role in character strengths.
Introversion is really wronged in the workplace. The workplace is actually a small "society", and many things will be presented to everyone. Most people prefer to communicate and deal with people who are easy to contact. Introversion is a deficiency, but it is not the main aspect. The core of the workplace is work, and work still depends on performance. For example, a friend in the factory is very popular and has a good personality, but his performance is not good. It didn't take long for the boss to transfer him from this position. Although he can't just talk about performance, it is really the main aspect. Establishing prestige in the workplace in a normal way is the most convenient "shortcut". Introversion and communication are not necessarily related. Some people just don't like to participate in social occasions, but professional communication is still very organized. This is the most critical. So on the whole, don't care too much about other people's personalities, keep yourself and work hard, which is the right way!
I agree with this view! Just one sentence: if you have the ability, you must express it and let others know! In other words: you should not only have the ability in the workplace! And be good at communicating and expressing yourself! This kind of extroverted person is more suitable for being good at expressing and communicating! This is similar to my own situation! I used to be very introverted. Later, due to the opportunity, I took up a management position. At this time, if you are introverted, you will be nervous even if you have an early meeting. This is an experience. I believe most people will have it! Understand slowly in the process of adaptation! This change in personality is actually the need of work! Different jobs need different personalities! Some need to be cheerful, lively, close, rigorous and so on! Many of them are gradually developed for work the day after tomorrow!
As for what the subject said! Cheerfulness is actually aimed at introversion! Introversion is nothing more than not being good at expression, stuttering and blushing, and poor language organization and adaptability ... Tell the truth: in the workplace, you should not only learn to do things, but also learn to express them, that is, to express what you do in words or words and let the leaders know that you did it! I have been in the workplace for 10 years, and I really feel that my speaking ability is definitely higher than those who can't speak but have outstanding ability!
The workplace didn't force you to do this! It depends on your ambition. Where is the target? If there is no ambition, the goal is a small employee! Then no one can force you! If you want to get a promotion and raise your salary, you must develop in the direction of adapting to the workplace!
Withdrawn, silent, unsociable, self-abased, indifferent to people, unresponsive, indifferent to people and so on. Introverts are labeled a lot. But is this the case?
It is a pity that a talented and thoughtful person is introverted in the workplace, because such a person is difficult to display. In the workplace, you should not only display your talents, but also let others know about you, so that you can sell yourself. Let others know about you and your abilities.
Introversion is mostly because you are afraid that your behavior and language will be rejected by others and you are afraid to communicate with others. Often, such people lack initiative in doing things and need guidance or even command from others to do something. There is also an introverted person who simply doesn't want to get in touch with people or things outside. He feels very tired when he is in contact with people, and he shuts himself in his own space, so that others can't enter your inner world and get to know you, which is very unfavorable to his work.
If introverts want to have a good job in the workplace, they must find ways to make themselves cheerful and let others know you happily, and then everyone can do things happily together, so that they can get twice the result with half the effort.
There is such a case. Xiao Wang is an undergraduate. After graduation, he applied for a good real estate sales company to do real estate sales. During the application period, he worked very hard and achieved good results, but after the probation period expired, he was discouraged by the sales supervisor. The reason is that Xiao Wang, although doing well, is not very gregarious. He seldom talks to his colleagues at ordinary times, and there is little communication between colleagues. So some people think that he is arrogant and even eats alone without sharing customers and experiences with everyone.
Are introverts useless? Do not take the initiative to greet people, do not take the initiative to communicate. But that doesn't mean they are not competent enough. Introverts are often just not good at expressing themselves in words. They have a desire to express themselves, but they can't.
In fact, for an introverted person, it is not a good thing to force yourself to be cheerful in the workplace, because that is not your original introverted person, but also has the advantages of an introverted person, such as being careful and being good at finding problems. Although he does things with little consideration for other people's feelings, when he does things, he embodies actions rather than ideas.
Introverts will appear to lack self-confidence and be taciturn. There is a saying that silence is golden. Just because they are introverted and silent, they are often unpredictable, which is more conducive to their prestige, and others dare not easily try to touch your bottom line.
There is an introverted person who pretends to be cheerful in order to hide himself, forcing himself to adapt to the big environment and deliberately catering to others. This will make others think that you have a plan, because your language is not consistent with your own, and it is actually unnecessary. In the workplace, you can give yourself opportunities or others opportunities according to your own abilities. You are introverted or extroverted, others think you are mysterious and afraid of you.
Introverts have strong self-awareness ability. Many people don't understand why they are such people, but introverts will seriously think about following their inner thoughts and replace words with actions.
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Introversion and inactivity are actually different concepts. Some people don't like socializing and are not interested in socializing, but they won't miss the opportunity. The workplace doesn't mean that you have to be familiar with everyone to give you a chance. It is often a sense of boundaries between work and life.
Therefore, if you want to have better development, you must seize the opportunity. If you are embarrassed to take the initiative, or are eager to be passively discovered by your boss, you have to face every opportunity unless you are very talented.