2. American psychologists have found that a person's achievement depends 20% on his acquired efforts and 80% on his father. As an "important person" in a child's life, if the father speaks out, the influence on the child is 50 times that of the mother. Mother's influence on children is whether you can become an independent person, while father's shaping of children's outlook on life is related to the formation of character. Lin
3. Dealing with children's deviant behavior: 1. Ignore; Second, encourage the strengthening of positive behavior. Lin
The mother's problem is that the children always ask her if she loves her. Mom always answers:? I love you, you are so good, so sensible, and you love learning. How can I not love you? The child asked repeatedly. Teacher Lin said:? You just have to say. I love you because you are my child? Do it. ? Lin
If a person can be a good parent, he will be a good parent for his children. What do you mean by being a good parent? What you mean is whether you can be gentle with yourself and stick to it. In other words, how do you treat yourself when you fail and feel depressed? Will you be hard on yourself? Will you forgive yourself? If so, then when you become a parent, when your child makes mistakes, you will do the same to him. Lin
6. Interpersonal relationships are just icing on the cake, not a timely help. If you are unwilling to improve the way you get along with others, people around you will leave when they find out the truth. Am I unwilling to change, or am I not prepared to change? Lin
7. If a person is nourished by good psychological nutrition at the age of 0-7, he will be full of strength and win happiness and success all his life. These nutrients are: 1, unconditionally accepted (0-3 months); 2. Trust (safe, 4 months and 3 years old); 3. Affirmation/praise/recognition (4-5 years old); 4. Teaching/cognition/imitation (6-7 years old). Lin
8. When you are yelling. How many times have I told you! ? What you need to know most is not that your child is paranoid and unwilling to change, but that your method is wrong. Repeating the old methods will only lead to the old results. From now on, try to correct your educational methods. Lin
9. Marriage is equal. If you want to change the other person's mind, please give up as soon as possible. Acceptance is the premise of a good marriage. You can communicate when there are contradictions, but forcing changes will only hurt you and your partner. Lin
10, born to dawdle, mine? Peace of mind straw? . I am glad that I have no concept of time, and the problem of muddling along has tortured me for a long time. Teacher Lin explained that adults do things with goals. What is important is to finish this thing before they can do other things. Children do things without goals, which is a process of exploration and learning. What are adults for? Is it finished? What is this child for? Experience? . Lin
1 1, 03-year-old children need security and full love most. Psychological nutrition in this period is the most important for children, and it can also be cultivated quickly? Self-worth? What time? Self-worth? When there is enough time, children will grow up more confident and have enough ability to love others. Lin
12, based on personal feelings, there are many feelings between our generation and our parents that need to be dealt with. Is it really difficult to deal with them? Accept? This word is briefly summarized. Regarding the complaint that the old man helped to take care of the children, I remember Teacher Lin said that there were only two ways. First, the way to accept the elderly. Second, bring your own. Lin
13, the preparedness of modern enterprise managers and distrust between people have caused people's mental exhaustion and many negative emotions. Managers can organize? Psychological nourishment? Activities, build affinity, praise, recognize, affirm employees, and accept others. After all, the whole world wants it? Psychological nourishment? . Lin
14, a person must first learn to do what he should do, that is, take responsibility, and then do what he is interested in. Lin
15. All psychotherapy ends with forgiveness and love. ? Cut yourself some slack, and cut others some slack. ? Without love, there is no treatment. Forgiveness is not an ability, which needs no accumulation, but a choice. Children never hold grudges, but forgive them quickly. Lin
16, raising a child is not hard. If it is difficult, it means that it is wrong. With a good parent-child relationship, children are very nourishing to your life. Lin
17, a person who has no ability to love himself has no way to love others. Lin
How to be a good parent? : 1. If a person can be a good parent, he will certainly be a good parent for his children. 2. Grumpy parents should first deal with their emotions. 3. Parents care about the eyes of onlookers, and they can't help comparing themselves. Because they lack self-awareness and need self-adjustment. Parents have psychological compensation for their children, which shows that he can't accept the growth of children and can't forget his desire for parents. Lin
19, for children, gentle and persistent? Our mother is suitable, gentleness refers to attitude, and persistence refers to letting children understand the boundaries of rules and understand that they are responsible for themselves. Lin
20. I am limited. My energy is limited; My time is limited; My ability is limited, so there are some things I can do and some things I can't do, so there is nothing to be ashamed of when we refuse others. Then I can understand that others refuse me, and he is limited, not because I am not good enough. Lin
2 1. Emotion is an energy. If there is a lot of emotional garbage left untreated, it will accumulate and then keep looking for an exit. Children's deviant behavior is one of them. Learn to be the master of your emotions, become a person with the same body and mind, and then you can teach your children to do so. Lin
22. Everyone's expectations are his own. Be grateful if others are willing to fulfill your expectations. If not, it is natural. Dr. Lin
23. Real encouragement for children: The most important thing to encourage is not to implicitly insist on continuing good performance, such as praising children for doing well, but don't say that you hope to do better in the future. Come on, it will put pressure on children. Simple encouragement is the greatest support for children. Lin
24. Negative emotion is a kind of energy, which urges people to change and learn, thus promoting growth. However, there are also some situations, such as excessive negative emotions and deviant behavior, which need our vigilance. Children's emotional problems are rooted in the family and hidden in the triangular relationship between father, mother and children. Lin
25. Psychological nutrition includes: 65,438+0, unconditional acceptance; 2. Parents see and value the advantages of children, especially fathers; 3. Mothers have enough sense of security, such as trusting their children and maintaining emotional stability; 4. Parents' affirmation, praise and recognition; Parents give their children time to seek role models and learn interpersonal relationships.
26. See warmth in sadness, hope in frustration, and dignity in shame! Lin
27. To treat children's excessive demands, we should adhere to the principle of moderate persistence. It's also your fault that children become arrogant and savage if you blindly accommodate their demands. Lin
28. Communication from the outside to the inside can be divided into five levels: 1, greeting (Hi), 2, talking about facts, 3, opinions and opinions (perspective &; Ideas), 4, feelings, 5, openness. The relationship stays at corresponding levels with different communication levels. Lin
29, there is a kind of love for a better parting, that is: maternal love! Satya in Linde
30. Couples can't just walk through life with love, but also accept each other! Learn how to deal with contradictions when we have contradictions; Learn how to enhance friendship and treat each other as good friends! Satya model specialty course forest
3 1. In my concept, comfort is a way for the baby to make up for the lack of security. There is no need to quit until he is at least three years old. My daughter is almost three years old, so she must sleep with a "small collar". Lin
32. Children have a habit when they play alone. When they play, they will run to their mother to play for a while, and then go to play. This is a child's natural dependence on his mother. They stay with their mother to get energy. However, one day, children must be separated from their parents. Parents who are willing to let their children fly in the sky with peace of mind and know how to let their children understand the sense of separation are smart parents. Lin
33. For a baby of 0-3 months, in addition to nourishing the baby's breast milk physically, the mother only needs to accept your baby unconditionally and regard it as the most important thing in your life, which will give it enough sense of security. Almost every mother can satisfy this. A mother who just gave birth to a baby will naturally secrete a hormone, so that you have enough emotions to appreciate the guy who tortures your body and wrinkles your skin. Lin
34. Why do some children retreat outside, but they are fierce at home? The safer we meet, the easier it is for emotions to erupt. So some children control their emotions because they are afraid outside, and when they get home, there is nothing to be afraid of and they start to attack. This is also the reason why children abuse animals and bully children younger than him. Although this is a natural psychological mechanism, it is still wrong. It is necessary to help children deal with their emotions. Lin
35. Ms. Satya believes that only by dealing with one's own part can one deal with all kinds of external problems. This is a bit like the concept of Chinese medicine. The first is to help a person keep fit, so that even if there are cocci and viruses outside, he can resist them. Lin
36. Parenting is the courage of a' spiritual mother'! 0-3 years old, the mother's meticulous care can provide children with a sense of security in life; 4-6 years old, dad's praise and encouragement can provide a steady stream of nutrients for children's self. Lin
37. Emotion is an energy. Compared with adults, it can be transformed into work motivation. Children suffer more emotions and have nowhere to vent. They can only accumulate and never disappear. How to turn it into positive energy? Expressed in words: write, draw and speak; Expressed by acoustic energy: singing; Kinetic energy expression: motion. Lin
38. One of her children was shy when she was a child and didn't say hello to people. Others said, "This child is really timid." Lin's mother immediately replied, "Please don't call him timid, he's just not ready." Lin
39、? I don't like to argue with others, not cowardice. It is good for a person's courage to be used at the right time. When children grow up, they need to learn to distinguish what is important to me and what is not. Not everything is worth fighting for, and sometimes it is meaningless and unnecessary to fight for it. ? This sentence is also very useful for adults. Lin
40. Introspection is a virtue, which can alleviate anxiety and pain, but there is a limit to introspection. If you are too painful and depressed, there are deep-seated problems. People's abilities are many, but they are by no means unlimited. In order to live in the present, it is best to accept that you are limited and others are limited. Lin
4 1, the defense mode is attack and denial. If the other party is always on the defensive, problems will arise if the relationship between the two parties is long. Inner anger has been suppressed in the bottom of my heart, and if it is not revealed, it will become depressed for a long time. Lin
42. Parental relationship from a family will affect the following three points: 1. It will affect our intimate relationship (spouse relationship and parent-child relationship). Two. Affect our sense of security. Three. Affect our sense of responsibility (excessive responsibility or irresponsibility). Each student drew a structural map of his family background: age, occupation, four adjectives and relationship lines. Lin
43. Don't let children become too delicate. Don't be unhappy because of how other people in the family treat their children. The way the family communicates with him will be met outside in the future. Family is a real small society, so it is better to study at home earlier. Lin
44. Only by self-cultivation can children be taught well. Being a man is a truth, so is doing things, so is management, and so is self-repair. Lin
45. If you want to handle interpersonal relationships well, please do the following three things: 1. If it doesn't hurt self-esteem, say the thing itself; 2. Don't say anything humiliating, humiliating or humiliating; Don't say anything that makes people anxious. If you find it difficult and impossible to do this, then you can only accept bad interpersonal relationships and accept the result that relatives and friends will alienate you even though they love you and like you, because human instinct is to protect life! Lin
46. If a person can cultivate himself well, he will naturally become a good parent. Lin
47. Satya has a famous saying: A good relationship between husband and wife is the best gift for children. Lin
48. Our parents often want their children to be like this, as if they have a perfect personality model. However, in the process of interacting with people and society, every child has his own rhythm and way to explore this environment and has his own unique characteristics. We just need to respect the way he interacts with his surroundings and let him be himself. Lin
49. From infancy, it is human nature to associate with others. If there is no connection, the heart is empty. The deep connection is openness and free communication. Two of a kind, I don't know when our children began to close their hearts and didn't want to get in touch with their parents. Lin
50. The leader is angry and takes it out on the employees. Employees go home with emotions, husbands get angry with their wives, and wives get angry with their children. Everyone is looking for someone who is safe for themselves to vent, so who is the undertaker of these emotions in the end? It must be a child. Negative emotions go down layer by layer, and finally the whole country and society vent on children. Lin