Haruki Murakami:

1, some people here like loneliness, but they just don't like disappointment.

2. You should remember those who held umbrellas for you in the heavy rain, those who hugged you silently in the dark, those who made you laugh, those who chatted with you all night, those who came to see you by car, those who cried with you, those who accompanied you in the hospital, those who always valued you, and those who took you wandering around and said that they missed you. It is these people who make up the warmth in your life, and it is these warmth that make you a kind person.

I may be defeated, I may lose myself, I may not get anywhere, I may lose everything, and I can only call for help no matter how hard I struggle. Maybe I'm just a worthless ruin and ashes, alone in the dark. Maybe no one here is betting on me. It doesn't matter. One thing is clear: at least I have something worth waiting for and seeking.

4. Don't just hold hands because you are lonely, and then rely on it. If only people were free. Even if they go with the flow, the experience is better than prison life. So I deliberately don't let myself rely too much on the internet, and I also keep an indifferent attitude towards those who have lost. Thousands of people pass by, and whoever you give the opportunity will have a fate with you. Even without a, there will be B.

5. Be a quiet adult. Don't be emotional, don't miss it secretly, and don't look back. Fuck your other life. Be obedient, not all fish will live in the same sea.

6. Everyone has a forest in his heart. Although he may have never been there, it has always been there. The lost people are lost, and the people they meet will meet again.

7. If you fall into darkness, all you can do is wait quietly until your eyes get used to the darkness.

No matter what everyone in the world says, I think my feeling is right. No matter what others think, I won't disturb my rhythm. You can stick to what you like, but not what you don't like.

9. It's okay to be alone. As long as you love someone from the heart, life will be saved. Even if you can't live with him.

10, I always thought that people are getting old slowly, but they are not. People get old in an instant.

Scott parker, the road few people take:

1, "I am a valuable person", with such valuable knowledge, it constitutes the basic premise of mental health and the basis of self-discipline. Directly from the love of parents. "Since God has given talents, let them be employed!" This kind of self-confidence must be cultivated from an early age, otherwise it will often get twice the result with half the effort to make remedies in adulthood.

2. True love is not simply giving, but also includes appropriate refusal, timely praise, appropriate criticism, appropriate argument, necessary encouragement, gentle comfort and effective urging.

3. If you want others to listen to you, you must use a language that the other person can understand; If you want others to meet your requirements, your requirements should not exceed the limit that the other party can bear; If you want the other side to make concessions, you must first improve yourself, so as to find the best communication opportunities and ways.

In this complicated and changeable world, in order to make life smooth, we should not only have the ability to be angry, but also have the ability to restrain the outbreak even if we are angry. Also be good at expressing anger in different ways.

5. Life is a process of facing and solving problems. Questions can inspire our wisdom and courage; This problem is the watershed between our success and failure. Trying to solve problems can make the mind and mind mature.

6. The so-called psychotherapy is "a game to encourage telling the truth". The most important task of psychologists is to make patients tell the truth. Long-term self-deception will make people feel guilty and lead to mental illness.

7. We have to experience thousands or even millions of risks in our life, and the biggest risk is self-growth, that is, getting out of the hazy and chaotic state of childhood and moving towards adulthood.

8. With the growth of age, the aging of the body is an inevitable result, but in a person's life, the mind can constantly evolve and even undergo major changes. In other words, the brain can produce a new growth model, and its ability can increase day by day until it dies. In our life, the opportunities for spiritual growth are endless, without any restrictions.

9. At all stages of life, there will be various crises. Only by giving up outdated concepts and habits in the past can we smoothly enter the next stage of life. Many people dare not face the reality, or can't give up the outdated past, so they can't overcome the psychological crisis and spiritual crisis and can only stop.

10, true listening means paying attention to others, which is a concrete manifestation of love. At this point, the listener can temporarily put aside personal thoughts and desires and experience the speaker's feelings as much as possible.