There is a cartoon that depicts a little flower being scalded to death by a pot of hot water! What a novel idea! Savor it carefully, it is really thought-provoking!
In our life path, we often encounter this situation. When a person achieves certain results, like the little flower in the painting, when it first puts out its new buds, there are always some people who come to help. "Pouring scalding water", as if the "little flower" is their enemy, and they will feel uneasy unless they are put to death.
These "scalding water" people are often motivated by their jealousy. “The jealous person suffers because he is tortured not only by his own failures and setbacks, but also by the successes of others!” Aristotle’s famous saying hits the nail on the head when it comes to despicable things like “pouring scalding water” on people. The root of the behavior - jealousy.
When they see the achievements of others, what they think is not "Hello, I am better than you," but "I am not good, and I can't make you better." If you are not as good as others, you have to drag your feet. Live with others, prevent others from moving forward, and satisfy your own psychology from then on.
Jealous people look for trouble all day long, hold grudges for the progress of others, and try every means to demolish others and pull them down, instead of learning from their strengths.
Throughout the ages, there have been many people.
During the Three Kingdoms period, Zhou Yu, a famous general in Soochow, was young and promising, talented, but narrow-minded. When he saw that Kong Ming's talent and learning were superior to his own, he angrily resented the sky: "Since Yu is born, how can Liang be born!" He cannot tolerate a person who is stronger than him! So, he tried to kill Kong Ming several times. The Wei army went south, and the enemy was in front of them. Soochow was in danger. However, Zhou Yu, the coach of Soochow in the fight against Wei, was driven by jealousy and tried every means to make things difficult for Kong Ming, who came to help him fight against Wei. In order to satisfy his vanity of being "number one in the world", he would even disregard the safety of the country! This is jealousy, which corrodes people's hearts, stains their souls, and makes people morally low. As a result, many people, like Zhou Yu, fall into the quagmire and cannot extricate themselves.
However, jealousy can also be transformed into favorable factors under certain conditions. The key depends on how we guide and utilize it.
Out of jealousy, Lian Po opposed Lin Xiangru everywhere and humiliated him many times. However, Lin Xiangru could forgive Lian Po every time. Finally, Lian Po was moved by Lin Xiangru's overall concept and realized that he With his little belly chicken intestines, he apologized to Lin Xiangru for carrying a thorn. From then on, the two of them respected each other as guests, and they assisted the king together, making the State of Zhao more prosperous, and left a beautiful talk of "harmony between generals and prime ministers".
Life is a road, long and tortuous. If we can treat the jealousy of others well, we can generate envy from our jealous heart, and then turn it into pressure for us to move forward, and then turn pressure into motivation. So isn't that a blessing?
There is a man who is very jealous of his neighbor. The happier his neighbor is, the unhappy he is; the better his neighbor’s life is, the unhappy he is; he looks forward to his neighbor every day. When he is unlucky, he may hope that his neighbor's house will catch on fire, or he may hope that his neighbor will suffer from some incurable disease, or he may hope that thunder will rush into his neighbor's house on a rainy day and kill one or two people, or he may hope that his neighbor's son will die young... However, whenever he sees his neighbor At that time, his neighbor was always alive and well and greeted him with a smile. At this time, he felt even more unhappy. He wanted to throw a bag of explosives into his neighbor's yard and kill him, but he was afraid of paying for it with his life. In this way, he tortured himself every day, and his body became thinner and thinner. It felt like there was a stone in his chest, and he couldn't eat or sleep.
Finally one day he decided to create some bad luck for his neighbor. That night he bought a wreath in the wreath shop and secretly sent it to his neighbor's house. When he walked to the door of his neighbor's house, he heard someone crying inside. At this time, the neighbor just walked out of the house. Seeing him sending a wreath, he hurriedly said, "Thank you for coming here so quickly! Thank you!" It turned out that The neighbor's father had just died. The man suddenly felt bored, said "hmm" twice, and walked out.
The master in this story put himself in a kind of mental hell out of jealousy and tortured himself. But the torture came and went, but nothing was gained.
Jealousy is hell for the soul. Jealous people always take advantage of others to torture themselves. He is jealous when others are young, he is jealous when others are good-looking, he is jealous when others are tall, he is jealous when others are elegant, he is jealous when others are talented, he is jealous when others are rich, he is jealous when others have beautiful wives, he is jealous when others are highly educated...Germany There is a proverb: "A jealous person will become more and more haggard because of his neighbor's physical gain." Therefore, a jealous person always has the vicissitudes of his 50s written all over his 40-year-old face.
Jealous people are often arrogant. Because of arrogance and wanting to be superior to others. Therefore, there is no room for people who are stronger than him. See that the people around you are better than yourself. Either try to belittle or set up a trap to harm the other party.
Jealous people must be selfish, and selfish people must be jealous. Jealousy and selfishness are like twin brothers. The French writer Lalo Foucault once said: "Jealousy is the root of all evil. Those who are jealous will not have the slightest sympathy." "The jealous love is better than the lover." Because of jealousy, he does not want others to compare He is superior; because of selfishness, he always wants to deprive others of their superiority. Jealous people never say nice things for others. A jealous person cannot tolerate the strengths of others, so he seeks psychological satisfaction by speaking ill of others.
A jealous person has no friends, because he cannot tolerate the strengths of others, and everyone has their own strengths, so he regards all people as his enemies and looks at others with indifference.
Jealousy harms both oneself and others. From a personal perspective, jealousy is harmful to the body. Jealousy causes people to spend their time hindering and restricting others instead of concentrating on self-development. As far as others are concerned, jealous people's rumors, bad words, frame-ups, obstructions, troubles, rumors, etc. often have bad consequences for the envied person. In ancient China, Pang Juan was jealous of Sun Bin, Li Si was jealous of Han Feizi, Pan Renmei was jealous of Yang Linggong, etc. They all started by harming others and ended by harming others.
In short, jealousy not only tortures the patient himself, but also harms the person being envied. There is a couplet in ancient China, which is called "If you want to have no regrets, you must discipline yourself, and everyone has a future, and don't be jealous of others." I hope that jealous people will often recite this couplet, constantly reflect on themselves, and improve their character.
We have heard the story "Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs" since we were children...
Snow White's stepmother was jealous of her and tried every means to harm her, but in the end she harmed herself.
Goethe said: Hatred is positive unhappiness, jealousy is negative unhappiness. So it’s no wonder that jealousy can easily turn into hatred.
When Emperor Wu was young, his aunt, Princess Tao, wanted to betroth her daughter Ajiao to him, so she half-jokingly asked for his opinion. The childish Liu Che replied on the spot: "Okay! If I get Ajiao as my wife, I will store her in a golden house." The eldest princess was delighted and urged Emperor Jing to arrange the marriage. This is the origin of the term "Golden House Hidden Beauty". As the saying goes: Three years old looks old, seven years old looks old. Xiao Liuche's perfect answer this time not only won him strong political support from the eldest princess, but also destined the Western Han Dynasty to be extravagant for decades to come.
But poor Gillian did not wait for the "golden house" Liu Che promised her. As a queen, she could not let Liu Che focus on herself. In the fifth year of Yuanguang (130 BC), Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty sent Yousi to give the Queen a letter, but he took away the seal grant on the grounds that he was "confused by witchcraft". A gambling-style political marriage with Gillian's lifelong happiness as a bargaining chip ended. A few years later, Gillian died in depression.
Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty quickly found his second queen, Wei Zifu. History books say that Emperor Wu went to his sister Princess Pingyang's house as a guest, and when he went to the bathroom during the dinner, he had sex with the maid Wei Zifu who came to serve her. After the banquet, Emperor Wu took Wei Zifu back to the palace. However, Wei Zifu, who was not familiar with gambling, lost everything as soon as he entered the palace. She was forgotten by the romantic Emperor Wu, and she was not seen again until a year later. Zifu "cryed out" , Emperor Wu took pity on him, so he was lucky again, and his husband became pregnant. In the first year of Yuanshuo (128 BC), Wei Zifu gave birth to Liu Che, the later ruthless prince Liu Ju. The mother valued her son, and in the same year, Wei Zifu was enshrined as queen. However, in the later years of Emperor Wu, the famous "witchcraft disaster" occurred in the palace. Liu Ju was framed and committed suicide. Although Wei Zifu was the queen, he was also implicated and forced to commit suicide. This gambling for Liu Che's own entertainment ended in the disastrous defeat of Wei Zifu and his son.
Thus, the tragic fate of the two queens made Mrs. Li fortunate to be the only woman to accompany Liu Che for thousands of years.
This woman who is known as "the most beautiful woman in the country" has indeed received the greatest care and favors that this man can give, and she was extremely honored during her lifetime and after her death. But she didn't lose herself because of it. She has always known in her heart that she is just a plaything of this violent and carefree man, a tool for her family to seek wealth and power. Once one day, she makes this man start to feel tired, then everything she and her family have gained and will gain will be reduced to nothing in the thunder's wrath. Unable to help herself, she has been thrown into the bet between her family and her husband as a small dice since her brother Li Yannian painstakingly composed the song. In this huge political gamble, she could be shattered to pieces at any time. In a sense, she was the only one who couldn't win in this bet.
So, when she was dying, she was burdened with a heavy responsibility and refused Emperor Wu's request to "see him". Even when Emperor Wu "repeatedly said that he would like to see him", she actually "moved to his hometown to live in peace". No more words", which made Emperor Wu very unhappy and walked away. You must know that this domineering man was rejected only twice in his life. Once, the king of Dawan refused his request to exchange gold horses for BMWs. As a result, Liu Che, in a rage, sent 100,000 troops to defeat Dawan. However, this time, he was actually rejected by the woman he loved at this time and in this way. How could he not feel annoyed! Even Mrs. Li's sister felt uneasy. But Mrs. Li was still very clear-headed: "So those who don't want to see the emperor want to support their brothers deeply. Because of my good looks, I am lucky to be loved by someone from a humble position. A husband who treats others with lust will fall in love with him. If you love Chi, you will miss me. The reason for thinking about me is because of my appearance. Now that I have been ruined and my appearance is not the same, you will be afraid of evil and abandon me. I am willing to think about my brother again."
It turns out that she knows Emperor Wu well and is very confident. After her death, Emperor Wu buried her with the rites of a queen. Her family was able to continue its prosperity and prosperity.
There are also stories about Sun Bin and Pang Juan, the story about Zhou Yu being jealous of Zhuge Liang before he finally died of anger, and so on.
Jealousy itself has a certain derogatory connotation.
If you are not jealous, you can consider the example related to the prime minister's belly being able to punt, which means that people have tolerance. The story of Li Shimin and Wei Zheng, the story of Lu Duan, etc.