Many times, when we interact with others, we fail to grasp boundaries and damage basic social etiquette, thus failing to achieve social effects. What is a sense of boundary, and how can we not cross it in social interactions? I found the answer in "Underlying Logic". The record is as follows:

"Underlying Logic" Chapter 4, 4.26

1. Knowledge points:

1. How to draw a good analogy: It is essentially an insight into things essential ability.

Three steps: first, investigate the essence of complex and unfamiliar things; second, match the familiar things; third, use the familiar to explain the unfamiliar.

2. Sense of boundary:

a. The essence of the sense of boundary is the recognition of ownership. Know where is yours and where is someone else's. Where are the boundaries obvious? Such as time, money, privacy, etc. It is not easy to find boundaries, and you need to ask for the consent of others when crossing other people's places.

b. Understand where the boundaries are and understand basic social etiquette: do not cross the boundaries.

C. The right to express is mine, but it is other people’s right to accept or not accept it. You must have a sense of boundaries.

2. Basic experience:

1. I am a middle-level leader in my unit, and I often have to hold meetings with my colleagues to convey the meeting spirit and work arrangements of my superiors. Before the meeting started, I was thinking about how to convey the spirit of the meeting concisely and clearly. Because I didn't learn to use metaphors, the meeting seemed boring. However, when training colleagues, you may not feel comfortable using metaphors. It turns out that to use metaphors well, the premise is that you must have an insight into the nature and correlation of two things.

2. Because I am a middle-level cadre, I get close to my colleagues and can talk to my leaders. Many times, many colleagues report problems to me or ask me to solve them. I keep my boundaries well and do not cross them, otherwise I will be caught in the middle and suffer.

3. Action:

1. Continue to guard your own boundaries, do not cross the boundaries, and do not cross the boundaries.

2. Learn to use metaphors and train insights.

In my classroom teaching, I did not grasp the boundaries well. The distance between the students and me was too close, so that the classroom discipline was not very good. I think: No matter where you are, no matter when you are, you can live a good life by guarding your boundaries.