Outlook on life in this issue Keywords: kindness.

Zeng Zi said, "People are kind, but it is far from being blessed."

In our impression, it seems that doing good deeds and accumulating virtues are all things that "superior people" often do. In ancient times, it was the rich and prestigious people like the rich and the rich, and now most of the charity celebrities are entrepreneurs and stars.

so we have to describe a misunderstanding: doing good deeds and accumulating virtue is something that only people with money and status will do.

As we are struggling at the bottom of society, it seems that "doing good" is far away from us, and even we may need charity from others.

There is a saying in Mencius: "If you are poor, you will be immune to it, and if you are up to it, you will help the world."

That means, when you are frustrated, you should take care of your moral cultivation, and when you are successful, you should try to let more people get relief.

It seems that "doing good" is far away from us ordinary people, but I always think that the more ordinary, the more kind we should be.

Because saving others is like saving yourself, good and evil will be rewarded.

Han Han once wrote a passage in his book: "The so-called great pressure, hard study and few places are all the business of ordinary people. People who have the right and money have never said anything bad about education, because it is something they can't understand."

Ordinary people live in the middle and lower circles of society, and it seems that we have been working hard to resist suffering all our lives.

Therefore, the more ordinary people are, the easier it is to be defeated by reality, and the more difficult it is to maintain integrity.

As the saying goes, "Money speaks the truth, but words without money are not true."

Although this sentence is a bit philistine, the truth of the speech can't be measured by the amount of money. However, many people are doing this in daily life. People are often more willing to believe the words of the winners than the "truth".

in a sense, this is not only the result of being influenced by bad world customs, but also a manifestation of people's inner inferiority complex.

Ordinary people want to maintain the image of "integrity", but they are not recognized because of their weak words. In the long run, their hearts will be distorted because they are not recognized.

And kindness is the root that enables us to keep our integrity after watching the world go cold.

Being kind can make us forgive those who disagree with us;

Being kind can make our hearts more tolerant;

if you remain kind, you can remain upright.

as the saying goes, "who doesn't say anything behind his back?" Who didn't talk about people before? "

who hasn't been talked about in life? Who dares to say that he has never talked about others?

whether we are chatting or deliberately targeting, we will inevitably talk about other people's words and deeds as "talking about capital".

But we all know that it is a very bad behavior to talk about people's right and wrong behind their backs, and the more ordinary people are, the more they like to talk about others in their spare time.

So we need to be kind, which has two meanings.

First of all, being kind will remind us not to judge others easily.

or when we hear others talking about others, we should stay away in time to avoid getting angry.

It is a kind of self-discipline not to actively discuss others' right and wrong, and it is a kind of self-discipline not to participate in discussing others' right and wrong. Keeping this kindness as much as possible is not only a kind of "saving people" but also a kind of "self-help" in essence.

In addition, being kind will make us reflect when we hear others talking about ourselves.

A person's behavior needs to be supervised by public opinion from all sides. Only with supervision can we make fewer mistakes and make more progress.

No matter what the mentality of people who talk about you is, no matter whether these remarks are spreading rumors or whitewashing peace, as long as you keep a kind heart, you will certainly gain a lot from them.

whether it is positive or negative, as long as these words are sincere and to the point, we can accept them humbly under kindness; And if these remarks are ulterior motives, or even slanders and rumors, we can also think about whether we have offended others.

it is a kind of kindness not to be overjoyed by others' praise or angry by others' scolding.

And keeping this kindness will enable us to make continuous progress under an ordinary and ordinary life. Isn't this a good thing to "save yourself"?

a harmonious and happy family needs peace among family members first.

However, ordinary people often worry about trivial life such as rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, which makes them more prone to family conflicts.

the ancients said: "goodness is the most precious thing, and it will be inexhaustible in your life; The heart is fertile, and there is more than a hundred years of cultivation. "

Being kind and caring is a manifestation of love. Only the selfless love between family members will make the family atmosphere more harmonious.

Only by being kind can we be full of hope with our families in the face of a difficult life. As long as hope does not die, happiness will surely come.

We often say that home is a place to express our feelings, so in the face of family conflicts and disputes, we need to be considerate, tolerant and respect each other's views in order to find the best solution.

The premise of understanding, tolerance and respect is that we should keep a kind heart.

maintain the relationship between family members with selfless love, face the contradictions among family members with tolerant heart, and balance the behavior of family members with moral scales.

"Good and evil will be rewarded in the end". Even if our immoral behavior is not discovered, our inner steelyard will be out of balance, and after all, we can't escape the condemnation of conscience.

Therefore, instead of doing something against your conscience and deviant by hook or by crook for profit, it is better to keep a kind heart and enjoy your share of the fruit.

when you are aboveboard and open-minded because you are kind, your family will not be afraid and steady for you.

In other words, being kind is both "saving yourself" and "saving others".

for ordinary people living at the bottom of society, we are often tortured by difficulties and hardships because of our low status and insufficient strength.

We are often bullied by others because we are kind, so it is easy to shake our determination to be kind.

Therefore, someone once said, "Let your kindness be sharp."

and the premise of this view is the reality that "people are good at being bullied and horses are good at being ridden".

Indeed, in real life, many people will intensify their efforts because of the kindness of others, and turn the kindness of others into a bargaining chip.

but we still need to understand the truth that "if people have good wishes, heaven will bless them", and we should know that people who are good will not bully the sky, while people who are evil will be afraid of the sky.

if kindness has a sharp edge, it will lose the original intention of maintaining kindness; If kindness is eager to return, it becomes an unbalanced transaction.

Your kindness does not exist to be respected or used by others. The essence of keeping kindness is to benefit yourself and future generations.

kindness, like water, can benefit future generations.

—END—

Interactive topic: Do you agree with the view that "kindness should be edged"?

I'm Zhiyang. Thank you for meeting me and reading.

(Image from network, deleted)