Character is a "double-edged sword". There is a famous saying in the west: character is fate. The Analysis Report on the Success Qualities of Contemporary Celebrities in China studies the relationship between personality and success, and draws the following conclusions: Special personality plays a very important role in the development track of successful people; For people with ideals and ambitions, outstanding personality or even being different does not hinder the glory of their careers. This article excerpts from Fu Lei's case for readers. Fu Lei is a famous translator in China. His translations of Philosophy of Art, Five Biographies, Christopher john cleese, etc. have a wide influence on readers in China, and the later published Letter from Fu Lei is also enduring and deeply loved by readers. However, Fu Lei's personality is more complicated, which can be summarized as: withdrawn, arrogant, honest and frank, extremely serious and disgusting. Fu Lei was severely disciplined by his mother since he was a child. Her mother longed for success and believed that "talent comes from under the stick". This makes Fu Lei's young mind distorted to some extent, becoming lonely and even a little surly. Even after Fu Lei became famous, some aspects of his personality were still "strange" or even unreasonable to ordinary people. For example, he works hard and methodically to an unacceptable degree. He stipulated when to go to work, when to rest and when to eat, all of which were punctual and could not be changed. No one can disturb him when he is working. There is also a time limit for talking to people. When he arrives, invite him back. This personality is obviously not suitable for dealing with interpersonal relationships. Fu Lei's arrogance is also very famous. Vulnerability and unwillingness to be humiliated may be the important reasons why Fu Lei and his wife committed suicide during the Cultural Revolution. Mr. Su Juxian, the head teacher and famous calligrapher of his childhood, also thought: "An An (referring to Fu Lei) is somewhat aloof." After Fu Lei's death, Zhu Renxiu, Fu Lei's brother-in-law, said this: "Fu Lei's personality is straightforward, so speak out what you can't see; People who don't like it can't get along. Later, he chose to translate books behind closed doors as a career, which is probably the reason. " Zhu Renxiu's words are instructive for us to understand the relationship between personality and career. As far as the harmony between people is concerned, Fu Lei's personality may be only 60 points, but from his career, his personality is a rare force, which enables him to take his career very seriously, dare to despise mediocrity, think independently and maintain a noble spiritual character. In the translator's Philosophy of Art, we can see that when faced with western culture in the late 1920s, Fu Lei, who was only 265,438+0 years old, had a valuable character of independent thinking. Fu Cong returned home to visit relatives 198 1. When asked what his father's most important influence was, he replied, "Think independently. He is a living example, thinking independently, everything is not in line with others, and he will never blindly follow. " Fu Lei's integrity and hatred of evil may not be accepted by the world from the perspective of life, but it is definitely a great advantage from the perspective of translation and learning, because sticking to his academic point of view, being meticulous and never bowing to any wrong, distorted and confusing ideas are the most valuable qualities in writing and translating books. This point, Fu Shu can be described as incisively and vividly. Of course, Fu Lei's career success is inseparable from his talent, personal efforts and various opportunities, but on the other hand, we should also see that, to some extent, this is also the result of the combination of his unique personality and the career that suits him best. Through the analysis of the relationship between Fu Lei's career and personality, we can get the following enlightenment: personality is a "double-edged sword". When we choose our life goals, we should pay attention to foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, and try to combine career and personality characteristics as much as possible.

Freud famously said, "Character decides fate!" Nowadays, the society is a bit flooded! On the wall of the company, on the desk, on the website, on the QQ signature ... you have a chance to see this sentence. I have also used some boring time such as taking the bus and going to the toilet to think carefully. I think this sentence is really close to the truth. I also found that all the words praised as truth are mostly neutral. The so-called neutrality means not clearly pointing out what is right and wrong! And no matter how things develop, this sentence applies.

Let me give you an example: In Wuzi Village, there was a man named two dog. He was quick-witted, profitable and brave. As long as it is profitable, he dares to do anything that is illegal or not. As a result, he made a fortune, awesome! Parents in the village educate their children: "Look at those two dogs. They are bold in thinking, quick in doing things and flexible in thinking, so they have made a fortune. Don't be too honest, be honest, and you will definitely have to eat in the end! Do you know what it's called? ——? Character determines fate? Two dog made a fortune because of his dare to think and do. " . As the saying goes, you can't wet your shoes when you walk by the river. Soon, two dog was arrested by the police for drug trafficking and sentenced to death. At this time, the parents in the village taught their children this way: "Look at two dog, he was sentenced to death because he was too courageous to do anything illegal. What's this called? Character determines fate! ? "。

The example I cited above seems a bit extreme, but it is really not uncommon in reality! Let's calm down and think about it. There will be countless such examples!

As the saying goes, "A leopard cannot change his spots." Most people's personalities are fixed before they are three years old, that is, "three years old and eighty years old." Some people love to move, while others like to be quiet; Some people are good at communication, while others are good at research! Originally, there is no difference between one personality and another. However, according to a survey by an organization, most of the rich people in this world are sociable and extroverted. So many introverted people sigh: "Character decides fate!" So make up your mind to change your introverted personality! But it's like a right-handed person, and you suddenly want him to write with his left hand. After all, it's hard and difficult to adapt! Maybe after a period of hard training, you are used to writing with your left hand, but I think it is not as good as a person born with a left hand. Moreover, this person has to endure a period of very depressed mental pain. This is called promoting short and avoiding long! Why are there more and more people with psychological problems in today's society? I think a lot of it is caused by misunderstanding that "character determines fate". Why do you say that? Because this sentence does not clearly tell you what fate is good and what fate is bad. It all depends on your own understanding, understanding is different, and fate is different!

Character determines fate Part II

Bacon said: "Character determines fate." What is character? It refers to the unique life attitude and habitual behavior formed by people on a certain genetic basis. It means our pursuit and challenge of life, our grasp and creation of society and individuals, and it includes three levels: desire, knowledge and habit. Desire determines the degree of what you want to do, knowledge determines what to do and habit determines how to do it. It can be said that personality is an individual's stable attitude and habitual behavior, and it is the external expression of psychological characteristics such as human temperament. It has greater variability and is easier to change because of different experiences and encounters. At the same time, although temperament can affect the formation and development of personality, personality can also cover up and transform temperament to some extent. It embodies our attitude, ideal, confidence and way, and fundamentally forms our practical ability and level, thus determining our future and future. 1, human development is driven by the internal strength of personality. Whether a person's personality has multiple characteristics, compatibility and internationality determines whether you can exert your passion and creativity. People facing the same problem have different personalities, which leads to different realms. Great souls are few after all, but the personality elements that make great achievements are simple-patience, rationality and calmness. As long as we have them, more people will make great achievements. 2. Different personalities lead to different ways to cope with the environment, which leads to different life processes and results. Personality doesn't matter whether it is right or wrong, praise or criticize good or evil, but in the face of complex society, everyone makes various choices at any time according to his own personality. Different choices lead to different fates. Although personality has a certain talent, it can be changed. Personality comes from cultivation to a great extent. A personality that can't adapt to the environment may be fatal in reality, but don't complain. Everyone will change their original personality in society for one reason or another. This change is not necessarily a bad thing. Many people accidentally find that they have some unexpected potential because of change. If you want to change your destiny, you must change your personality. Therefore, it is useless to blame others. Only by changing yourself can you change your destiny. Therefore, fate is no longer mysterious and the number of days is no longer difficult to know. Of course, we don't deny social relations, and people's ability has certain influence on people's development. But it all depends on people's choice and practice! At this time, personality plays the role of inspector and selector! Liu Bangxiang's two extreme personalities determine two different fates: success and misery. When Yu Qian, who was not afraid of death and wanted to remain innocent in the world, ended up in a wrongful death because of his iron bones, how many songs of bones welcomed the chickens and dogs to heaven. Empress Liao's exquisiteness is praised by the national history books, and it is also the weakness of Cixi, who has been notorious for thousands of years. History has given the best interpretation of "character determines fate". Fate is the ultimate concern of human society. Our destiny is in our own hands. Changing our character is changing our destiny. Both human history and social development tell us that character is decisive.

Set your destiny. Legend is illusory, life is real, and real life needs practical efforts. As long as you work hard and live seriously, you are inexhaustible wealth, and fate will smile at you! (Excerpt) Even Nietzsche, who shouted "God is dead", had to accept the experience of "fate" even if he didn't want God. 1879, Nietzsche was seriously ill and physically and mentally injured. Near death, he fell in love with health and sunshine, life and laughter. Nietzsche even said devoutly: I think the great way is to "love fate": all inevitable destinies should not only endure her, but also love her. The argument that "character determines fate" was put forward by Bacon. What is character? It refers to the unique life attitude and habitual behavior formed by people on a certain genetic basis. And fate refers to the trend and result of the change and development of things. We believe that environment, opportunities and other factors can really affect people's fate, and personality determines fate, which just shows that personality is the leading factor and guides the development of fate. First of all, human development is driven by the inner strength of personality. Personality means our pursuit and challenge of life, our grasp and creation of society and individuals, which is overwhelmingly reflected in our attitude, ideals, confidence and methods, and fundamentally forms our practical ability and level, thus determining our future and future. Confucius' generosity in helping others has established brilliant and great ideas for future generations; Li Bai's heroic singing on the moon has written magnificent articles for generations. Second, different personalities lead to different ways to cope with the environment, which leads to different life processes and results. Each of us lives on the basis of natural and social relations. Everyone makes various choices at any time according to his own personality, which leads to different fates. From Xiang Yu's Wujiang suicide to Cao Cao's defeat in Chibi, from Alexander's Northern War to Napoleon's French Empire, the fate of these people is due to their personalities. So to know your own character is to know your own destiny. Therefore, fate is no longer mysterious, and the number of days is no longer difficult to know. Third, although a person's personality has certain talents, it can be changed. Hamlet, the prince of Denmark, changed from silently enduring the cruel arrow of fate to standing up against endless human suffering. Zeng Guofan's character changed from stubbornness to flexibility, which doomed his fate in history. Personality comes from cultivation to a great extent. A bad personality can be fatal at work. So everyone will change their original personality in society for one reason or another. This change is not necessarily a bad thing. Only by changing can he easily discover his unexpected potential. Only by changing can he find a more suitable life track. "Character is the tester and selector of fate," Dante said. Indeed, fate is the end of human concern. Our destiny is in our own hands, and to transform our character is to transform our destiny. People's history and social development tell us that personality determines fate.