If you care about someone, you must like it in your heart. Because there is love, there is love, so no matter what you do, you will keep this person in your heart and think of each other.

However, love is not a person's business, but requires both sides to pay their feelings, because love is actually about equality. If there is always one person paying in one direction, this unequal love will not last long.

Zhou told me not to care too much about some people, because the more you care, the lower you are.

Sometimes, we care too much about some people. Although we convince ourselves with love, we are lost in love. In love, we are not happy, but humble.

Just like Zhang Ailing's evaluation of herself, if you like someone, you can bloom from the dust. She is a talented woman, but because she fell in love with Hu Lancheng, because of a wrong love, she became a very humble woman.

Zhang Ailing likes writing. From her words, we can feel her longing for love, and we can also feel her grievances in this love.

1In August, 944, under the witness of her friend Yan Ying, Zhang Ailing married her beloved Lan. However, married life did not bring Zhang Ailing enough sense of security and happiness, but made her realize that there was no quiet time at all.

However, Zhang Ailing's deep affection did not impress Hu Lancheng, because he has always been a romantic and heartless person, and it is not an exaggeration to call him "love rat".

It is such a man that Zhang Ailing loves to death. In this love game, there is no doubt that she lost miserably and lost her dignity.

Even though Zhang Ailing loved her so humbly and accepted many shortcomings of Hu Lancheng, she still failed to make Hu Lancheng pay a little sincerity to her.

So the marriage ended in only three years. Zhang Ailing wrote a farewell letter to Hu Lancheng: I don't like you, and you don't like me. I've been thinking about this resolution for a year and a half and for a long time.

How does Zhang Ailing interpret the sentence "Love is humble"? Even after breaking up, she was generous to Hu Lancheng, and the letter also included her own 300,000 manuscript fee.

You know, what was the concept of 300,000 at that time? We can think that even if Zhang Ailing chooses to give up this relationship, her heart is still sentimental, and she is still unwilling to give up this relationship completely.

But what about the result? Hu Lancheng enjoyed her great efforts, and the emotional curtain call did not make him feel pity for the woman who deeply loved him.

Zhang ailing, who was deeply hit, later became depressed and even entered a trough in her writing. As the most famous female writer in Shanghai, she met an unworthy person and fell into a humble position because she cared too much. How unworthy?

In this world, too many people pass by us every day. We always meet some people and things. Let's stop, unconsciously put our feelings into it, and even long for each other to participate in our lives.

This is an expectation of love and a pursuit of happiness, but we should not forget that no matter how beautiful love is, it will eventually return to dullness, and if we hope to get results, it will probably become an illusory bubble.

What do we need to do at this time? That is to be yourself first. Only by being yourself can we give ourselves confidence and courage to face emotional problems.

The best love should be evenly matched, and there should be no word "humble". I can care about you and give you a lot, but you shouldn't look down on me for it.

In humble love, it seems that I can't control my steps and always follow each other. You keep his likes and demands in mind, but forget to feel what you want.

He likes long hair, so you cut off the short hair that has been left for many years; He likes girls wearing skirts, and you silently change your favorite sweatpants; He likes spicy food. You can't eat spicy food because of your stomachache, but you are still trying to accommodate him.

Over time, you lost in this love game. Not only do I feel less and less like myself, but my heart is also tired. Most importantly, the love of your life will one day come to the end you least want to see.

There is nothing wrong with loving this person, and there is nothing wrong with not loving for a long time. The only mistake is that you love this person too lowly and care too much for yourself.

Ning, a college roommate, is a sentimental girl. She often cries at school because she is homesick. In that sensitive period, she met a sunny and cheerful senior.

Senior students often help her study and care about her. Ning began to adapt to college life in other places. We all know that she likes senior three students, but she has been afraid to confess.

Later, before Ning confessed, the senior had a girlfriend. Ning seems to be moved by the bottom line and begins to pursue seniors crazily.

In this way, you don't have to guess. The seniors were shocked by Ning's performance and then disgusted. Ning cares too much about her seniors and even dresses up as a girlfriend, but in our eyes, Ning's performance is undoubtedly morbid.

A healthy love relationship will make people feel happy and relaxed, not resistant and disgusted. Obviously, Ning really cares about her seniors, but she just doesn't get the love she wants.

If you care too much about someone, you will often turn yourself into another person according to that person's preferences, which is not worth it, because the most important thing of true love is to make yourself the most authentic self.

If you care too much about a person, you will expect too much from him. You hope to get more and more love from them, which will bring them pressure and suffocation.

If you care too much about someone, you will even forget what happiness is. Because you have spent too long without being rewarded, your inner needs have not been met, your grievances have multiplied, and you will forget that you could have loved happiness.

The most important thing in love is to be yourself, not to make unnecessary changes for anyone. Only by living what high wants can he love others more confidently and give himself a healthy love.

So, when you love someone, can you care about him? Sure, but remember not to care too much, lest you love yourself too lowly and lose yourself.

You know, the most beautiful gesture of a woman in love is always only four words: live high.