Sooner or later, your achievements will be beyond the reach of others.

People cannot be cowardly, but they cannot be ignorant of reverence, and must learn to respect their opponents

After the death of Cao Rui (ruì), Cao Shuang was arrogant, domineering, dictatorial, and single-handedly promoted Sima Yi to The Taifu actually took away his control over the court.

Faced with Cao Shuang's aggressive behavior, Sima Yi's student Zhong Hui came to persuade him: "Teacher, are you willing to be the master who just sits down and talks about Taoism?"

Zhong Hui's The advice actually reflected his inner impatience to some extent. He hoped that Sima Yi could do something to fight Cao Shuang and regain the status of the nobles in the court.

But Sima Yi was unmoved. He used Yang Xiu as an example to teach Zhong Hui not to make the same mistake as Yang Xiu: "People cannot be cowardly, but they cannot be ignorant of reverence. They must learn to revere themselves." Opponent."

One sentence points out the reason why Sima Yi doesn't care about Cao Shuang. It's not cowardice, but just to maintain a sense of awe.

Looking back at ourselves from Sima Yi, especially for the younger generation -

The impetuous and eager for success mentality is harmful. We need to learn from Sima Yi's attitude towards life. For life's powerful enemies, you should not rush to defeat them, but wait for the opportunity.

Don’t confront stupidity head-on, learn to bow to stupidity

Cao Shuang had no scruples about Sima Yi, who was also the auxiliary minister, and wanted to force the Queen Mother Guo to move to the palace in order to take advantage of his young son. emperor.

Sima Zhao angrily told his father that Cao Shuang had gone too far. He was insulting the Sima family and there was no need to endure it anymore.

But Sima Yi was very calm after hearing his son's remarks. He asked Sima Zhao: "How is Cao Shuang better than Zhuge Liang?"

Sima Zhao replied, "You are an ant."

Sima Yi then further told his son: "Wouldn't it be more stupid to fight head-on with stupidity and get bloody results? In this life, people will inevitably be associated with stupidity, and they must learn to bow to stupidity."

Sima Yi's words are once again true. Although Cao Shuang forced Empress Dowager Guo to move to the palace through small means, and deceived the young master, he seemed to be able to cover the sky with one hand, but could Cao Shuang, who had repeatedly tried to commit suicide, really have the last laugh?

Sima Yi once again told us that when encountering some stupid provocations and despicable methods, there is no need to retaliate, and do not associate with stupid people, because those who do many unjust things will eventually die.

I just want to keep my ears in my wife’s hands for the rest of my life

In film and television dramas, as the man who is “most afraid of his wife”, Sima Yi carries forward the spirit of loving his wife. It can be said that the "flower-growing couple" kept the detail of ear twisting throughout their lives.

Every time the ears are twisted, it reminds people of the time when the two were in love in every possible way, making people cry.

When Sima Yi first assisted Cao Pi, everyone was going to hold a banquet in Cao Pi's house. Sima Yi, who was supposed to be drinking and having fun with his "colleagues", instead accompanied Zhang Chunhua to cook under the stove.

Faced with Zhang Chunhua’s little temper, Sima Yi comforted her nicely, “No matter how big the talk is outside, the food will always be unpalatable, but the food at home is still delicious.” With these words, she immediately coaxed her. Zhang Chunhua was much happy.

Zhang Chunhua leaned on Sima Yi’s back and confided affectionately that no matter what the world would be like in the future, as long as Sima Yi’s life would be safe.

Sima Yi even said to his wife the words that he would remember and do for the rest of his life, "I just want to keep my ears in my wife's hands for the rest of my life."

I have no enemies along the way. All I see are friends and teachers.

Sima Yi has two biggest opponents in his life. When he was assisting Cao Pi in his youth, his biggest opponent was Yang Xiu. However, after Yang Xiu was sentenced to death by Cao Cao for the useless incident, Sima Yi took the initiative to ask Cao Cao to let him see Yang Xiu.

Cao Cao asked him why, and Sima Yi said this: "I have no enemies along the way. All I see are friends and teachers."

Sima Yi's sincere words really moved me He fell in love with Cao Cao, and Cao Cao appreciated him even more from the bottom of his heart.

Adhering to this principle of dealing with others, Sima Yi was full of respect for Yang Xiu, Zhuge Liang and other opponents, and even had no hatred for those who had harmed him, and could always reconcile in life and death.

After Zhuge Liang died of illness in Wuzhangyuan, Sima Yi came to the Shu army camp where he was alive and offered water instead of wine to Kong Ming. His eyes were filled with tears. If his son hadn’t reminded him that there were soldiers from the Wei Dynasty behind him, Sima Yi would have even wanted to Kneel down and worship.

Sima Yi praised Kong Ming, "Your life is pure and pure, just like this water. Although you and I have been enemies for six years, I have always regarded you as a close friend. Kong Ming, let me respect you, sir." ."

After Cao Rui's death, Cao Rui's male favorite, Ji Xie, was imprisoned. Sima Yi was the only one who went to visit him. Although Ji Xie always caused trouble for Sima Yi, Sima Yi still treated him with great dignity. He was extremely loyal to the late emperor and brought him a piece of clothing to preserve his ultimate dignity.

Wu Xie warned Sima Yi that Cao Shuang was young and frivolous and suddenly rose to a high position. He was afraid that he would be imprisoned for the rest of his life, but he replied, "Sima Yi will not fight with others."

Being humble and restrained, not fighting or grabbing, this is exactly what Sima Yi looks like in the workplace.

Sima Yi’s respect for his opponents and enemies shows us his mind and magnanimity.

In the workplace, you must learn to learn from your opponents, respect your opponents, and be grateful to your opponents, because it is their existence that makes you stronger and makes greater progress.

To lose without hurt, to lose without shame, the first thing to learn is to lose well

In terms of parenting, Sima Yi also has his own educational philosophy.

After losing the battle with Zhuge Liang and being robbed of wheat from Longshang, all the Wei army officers and soldiers were very dissatisfied. It was clear that the Wei army was several times stronger than the Shu army, but it actually lost to Zhuge Liang. Even Sima Yi's two sons They couldn't sit still anymore, so they all went to Sima Yi's tent to complain.

After going to Sima Yi’s tent, he saw Sima Yi and the housekeeper Hou Ji playing five-animal games leisurely. The two sons immediately complained. Sima Yi was very indifferent and asked his son:

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"Are you here to fight, or are you here to fight? Can those who only want to win win to the end? In fighting, the first thing to learn is to lose well, lose without shame, and lose without hurt. , Only then can we really have the last laugh."

Sima Yi's words immediately made the two sons understand their father's intention of standing still, and the father and son even played Wu Qin Xi together.

Educating sons through "learning from failure" is completely different from the modern parents' approach of wanting their children to win at the starting line.

Everyone knows that failure is the mother of success, but few people can face failure correctly. Sima Yi told us that we must be more patient with failure in order to win the final success.

Whether it is love, career, life, or parenting, Sima Yi has his own opinions. Not only does he have wonderful plots, but what is more rare is that he can learn many mysteries of life.

Sima Yi’s various golden sentences, if carefully studied, have great reference significance for contemporary people.