The most common way to praise others is to praise them directly. Especially the superior to the subordinate, the teacher to the student, the elder to the younger generation. Its characteristics are timeliness and directness. Einstein, known as the "father of modern physics", loves music, likes playing the piano and is good at playing the violin. One year, he was invited to visit Belgium, and the king and queen of Belgium were his friends. The queen is also a music fan and can play the violin. He played a string quartet with the Queen, and the cooperation was very successful. Einstein said to the queen, "You play really well! To be honest, you don't have to be a queen. " After listening to Einstein's praise, the queen was very excited for a while. In daily life, if we want to praise a person, we can praise him in time in front of his friends or colleagues when it is inconvenient to tell him in person or when we have no chance to tell him. The effect will be better. At the beginning of the American Civil War, the northern allied forces were defeated. Later, Lincoln boldly introduced a general-Grant. He was born a commoner, disheveled, vulgar and reckless. Some people even say that he is an alcoholic. Lincoln knew that all the rumors about him had been exaggerated ... Later, someone asked Lincoln to dismiss Grant from the army on the grounds that he drank too much. Lincoln disagreed. He praised Grant and said, "Grant always wins. If I knew what kind of wine he was drinking, I would give it to other generals. " Grant lived up to Lincoln's trust and made great contributions to ending the civil war, which proved that he was indeed an excellent general. Later, he became the eighteenth president of the United States.

Friends need praise, colleagues need praise, and lovers need praise more. Praise is not only a ripening agent to get love, but also a lubricant to ease contradictions and a stabilizer to keep feelings. As Napoleon said, "There has never been a woman so loyal, so passionate and so affectionate as you!" Napoleon always raved about his goddess. Love is blind. In Napoleon's eyes, his wife Josephine is the most attractive woman in the world. He used up all the gorgeous words to praise her. Napoleon wrote to Josephine during the March: "I never thought of other women." In my opinion, they are not elegant, beautiful and alert! You, only you can attract me, you have my whole heart. " He even said in a pleading tone in Josephine's ear, "Ah! I beg you, let me see your shortcomings; Please don't be so beautiful, so elegant, so gentle, so kind; Especially stop crying; Your tears swept away my reason and ignited my blood. " Napoleon could not conceal his admiration for his beloved, which made Josephine very useful and satisfied. Unexpected compliments will surprise people. When the husband came home from a day's work, he saw his wife set the meal and praised her. The teacher praised the students for cleaning the classroom. What is right for a wife and a student is praised by her husband and teacher. As a wife and a student, I feel extremely happy. Sometimes the content of praise is beyond the expectation of the other party, and it will also arouse the goodwill of the other party. Carnegie wrote a story he once experienced in "The Weakness of Human Nature": One day, he went to the post office to send a registered letter, and the service quality of the clerk was poor and he was impatient. When Carnegie handed her the letter to be weighed, he said, "I wish I had your beautiful hair." Hearing this, the clerk looked at Carnegie in surprise, then a smile appeared on his face, and the service became much more enthusiastic.