Nobel Prize winner Dr. Li Yuanzhe once warned that schools should not keep students too busy, otherwise students will not have time to think. The best education is when the teacher gives students inspiration and guidance in the shortest time; the worst education is when the teacher takes up all the students' time, and the students cannot learn anything and cannot develop. Marx said that time is actually the active existence of human beings. It is not only a measure, but also a space for human development. When everyone frees up the time and creates the means, individuals will develop in the arts, sciences, etc. It can be seen that the weight of the academic workload, the amount of mental pressure, the amount of free time, whether the life is rich and colorful, whether the various spiritual needs are met, and whether the talents can be developed, all depend to a large extent on the school's education.

For a long time, the influence of exam-oriented education has had many counterproductive effects, and now the so-called "quality education" is just a verbal term in every school. There is no real solution to "reducing the burden" on students. Everything still takes "preparation for higher education" as the educational goal, one-sidedly emphasizes the knowledge education students need, and fundamentally fails to address the humanistic value of education in promoting students' own development, that is, " Studying is for exams."

Then, the influence from the family should also be taken seriously. Today's families generally have only children, who have been pampered and accommodated by their parents since childhood. When I went to school, I had conflicts with my classmates, and I couldn't bear the slightest grievance, so I got into fights over trivial matters. Some parents don't pay attention to how they deal with their children's mistakes, scolding them at every turn, or even punching and kicking them. They use so-called "violent methods" to solve problems, otherwise they are "caring and amiable". At the same time, parents have high demands on their children to "hope that their children will become successful and their daughters will become phoenixes", causing their children to do many things that they themselves do not want to do. This will inevitably affect the child's mental health development.

There are also some parents who blindly believe that with the development of information technology today, their children should be allowed to learn English and computers as early as possible, and their children are also interested in this. Of course, this helps provide children with a variety of learning materials, enrich their interests, and broaden their horizons. But at the same time, we should also see that although informatization will bring new possibilities for students' development, it may also lead to weak interpersonal relationships between teachers and children due to their enthusiasm for video games, reducing students' experience of life and contact with nature. opportunity, which will have a negative impact on students' physical and mental health.

Today's social problems are becoming increasingly serious, and there are more and more hidden dangers, causing harm to students' bodies and minds. For example: some students are greedy for petty gains, or are jealous that others have good things that they cannot have, and develop petty theft; they learn the bad habits in the video, bully the weak, or take money in the name of "borrowing" money If they refuse to pay back, they may force weak students to take money and search them. If they refuse, they will beat them... This is extremely detrimental to them and the students they bully, both physically and mentally, causing some students to be afraid of going out. When I get to school, I don’t dare to tell the adults for fear of being beaten again, or I might imitate them and worship them.

Over a long period of time, students have gradually developed an unhealthy mentality, resulting in behaviors that are harmful to them throughout their lives, such as breaking things, having weird tempers, being irritable, and being self-centered. When these phenomena occur, the first reaction of public opinion is to accuse; "How could moral education work fail?!" and then demand that ideological work, moral education, and school discipline be greatly strengthened. Parents are also aware of the seriousness of the problem and "cooperate" with the school to do their work, but the results are unsatisfactory and sometimes even become more serious. One prominent manifestation is that students' moral knowledge cannot be transformed into moral practice. Conceptually, they know it is right, but in actual life, they do not do it, making a vicious cycle of admitting mistakes, admitting mistakes, and making mistakes again.

The concept of "health" in modern society has surpassed the traditional medical point of view. It should not only be physical and physiological health, but also spiritual and psychological health. The fierce competition in today's society has caused people to have heavy psychological pressure. Surviving in such a social environment, middle school students in schools are faced with the pressure of entering higher schools and are psychologically fragile and unable to get a certain outlet for their psychological depression. Furthermore, the self-centered nature of our country's only children The problem is becoming more and more serious; what's more, due to the incompleteness of the family, such as single-parent families with divorced parents, the loss of a father or mother, and the separation of generations to raise children, children lack a good living and educational environment. Relevant studies show that the highest incidence of psychological changes is in adolescence. The problems of middle school students are shocking. Various bad phenomena of students in schools are repeatedly prohibited, and various out-of-control and deviant behaviors occur from time to time. Although the reasons are multifaceted, they are not related to the quality of students. High, especially low mental health level, has a great relationship with poor psychological quality. If we only pay attention to the education of students' physical health and not pay attention to the education of mental health, it will be extremely detrimental to the healthy growth of students. Given the current situation, mental health education for students is particularly important.

1. Create an environment conducive to the healthy mental development of students

Create a beautiful campus environment. The school is the second home for students. Students receive education and influence from the school unconsciously. Therefore, an elegant, clean, civilized and comfortable campus environment can give students a good psychological impact of "moisturizing things silently". Pavilions and rockeries, celebrity statues, calligraphy and painting galleries, famous quotes, school spirit and mottos, and various promotional windows on campus will give students the enjoyment of beauty and rational thinking.

The biological garden is full of vitality, the campus is dotted with flowers and green grass, and students read books in the winding corridors and pavilions. These natural scenery and cultural landscapes touch the students' senses all the time, making them influenced by beauty and morality. Be educated in joy and consciously form a positive attitude.

Create educational situations to promote the optimization of students’ psychological quality. At present, the number of psychological and behavioral problems among teenagers is increasing day by day, and human psychology and behavior are inseparable. Good behavioral habits are governed by good psychological quality. At the same time, good behavioral habits can be internalized and accumulated into certain psychological qualities. Therefore, school mental health education is not just a matter of oral teaching, but should create various situations to promote students' self-experience, self-understanding, self-education, and self-control in action, so as to form good behavioral habits and certain psychological qualities. For example, some students now have poor self-control, irritable temperament, and strong rebellious psychology. There was a paper scrap box in the classroom, but he threw the paper scraps out of the window, ignored and kicked bottles and jars with his feet, picked and trampled flowers and plants at will. I once heard about a school where students always liked to kick the door with their feet. In order to change this bad habit, the school installed a glass door, and the glass door was intact. We got inspiration from this, so we placed more than 40 environmentally friendly fruit bins in every corner of the campus. The fruit bins were polished as bright as new every day. Boards were erected on the grass with "Please take care of us!" and other sincere messages written on them. As expected, the students couldn't bear to destroy the words, and the bad habits of the past were changed. It can be seen that with a healthy and good psychological quality, you can show the best behavioral results. Therefore, creating various situations and through psychological cognitive hints can cultivate students' healthy psychological quality and promote the development of students' good behavioral habits.

Carry out psychological counseling activities. The mental health problems of middle school students in schools are becoming increasingly serious. Many schools have established psychological consultation rooms, and some are even equipped with full-time psychological counselors. Students release psychological pressure and resolve psychological confusion and conflicts through consultation, talking and catharsis. It is understood that the psychological problems reported by the students who consulted mainly include: low self-esteem, depression, mania, fear and other emotional problems due to increased study pressure, interpersonal problems, uncontrollable bad behavior problems, adolescent confusion, etc. Krombruz, the pioneer of behavioral counseling methods, pointed out that "the central goal of counseling is to help each client solve the problems for which he comes to seek help." School psychological counselors should give counseling students warmth and guide them in self-regulation , we must also understand in detail the various situations of consulting students, respect and understand students, protect students' privacy, be both a confidant and a counselor for students, and strive to eliminate students' psychological barriers. Many of our students need help. In addition to seeking help from psychological counselors, schools can also offer mental health courses, hold mental health lectures, and organize various mental health education activities.

2. Teachers are the main body in implementing psychological education

Build a democratic and equal teacher-student relationship. The Ministry of Education's "Several Opinions on Strengthening Mental Health Education in Primary and Secondary Schools" clearly states that mental health education in primary and secondary schools should be fully integrated into the entire process of school education. This means that mental health education alone is not enough to rely on a few full-time teachers; all teachers must be extensively involved. Teachers must adhere to the principles of people-oriented and student development, constantly update concepts, constantly change teaching methods, respect students, shorten the psychological distance between teachers and students, and promote healthy psychological adjustment of students. When teachers treat students as close friends, communication and understanding between teachers and students are strengthened. If students like your classes and become interested in learning, their academic performance will improve. The closer relationship with teachers also enhances students' sense of belonging and self-confidence. It can also cultivate interpersonal skills, which will help improve students' emotional state, personality, and healthy physical and mental development.

Change the evaluation method. Students' inferiority complex mostly comes from teachers' subjective evaluation of students. Some teachers, based on their subjective feelings, prefer top students with good grades, are indifferent to middle-level students, completely deny low-achieving students, and speak rudely. This undoubtedly brings great psychological pressure and negative effects to students, and may cause many students to develop an inferiority complex. , It will even have a negative impact on students' self-esteem and self-confidence, seriously affecting students' physical and mental health. The 19th-century German bourgeois democratic educator Di Stowei, known as the "Father of German General Education" and "The Teacher of German Teachers," once said: "Stern faces, scolding, and cursing students are a bad behavior." . We should learn from the advantages of British education. British teachers never hesitate to praise their students when they evaluate them. Their praise of students is reflected in the details. Every little bit of progress will be praised very solemnly by them. We should treat every student equally. We must not be sarcastic or sarcastic. We should care for and care for students with a tolerant and loving heart. We teachers lack this awareness and blame our students too much. We should learn to praise so that students can constantly get encouragement from it. Teachers should master the skills of mental health education. Teaching and educating people is the responsibility of teachers. In addition to imparting basic knowledge and basic skills, teachers should also cultivate students' healthy and all-round development. The following types of people participate in psychological counseling in primary and secondary schools in the United States: relevant medical experts, health experts, educational experts (including education experts, subject teachers, special teaching staff, and resource personnel), administrative staff, students, family members, and schools Assistance department, etc.

Teachers always live among students. Teachers have the responsibility and obligation to pay attention to the physical and mental health of students and participate in psychological guidance during the teaching process. I am in charge of school psychological counseling. Once, I went to the psychological counseling room to understand the situation. I found a student in my class, ×××, wandering outside the door. I thought I should help him. So I often chatted with him and learned that he was under too much study pressure, which led to nervousness and anxiety in his studies, which led to a decline in his grades, which in turn led to an inferiority complex, resulting in a vicious cycle. After finding out the crux, we can "prescribe the right medicine". I analyze the reasons and find solutions with him. His grades in junior high school are top-notch, his parents' expectations are too high, his high school foundation is not solid, and the academic competition is fierce. He can't get rid of the confusion of failure for a while, and he develops anxiety. , irritability and other negative emotions, unable to calm down and study. I propose the following solutions: 1. Adjust learning methods and lay a solid foundation; 2. Establish a sense of success, constantly motivate him, and affirm his achievements; 3. Adjust his mentality, get rid of unnecessary psychological burdens, and just work hard. , don’t consider the ranking of your grades; 4. Learn to relax, go for a jog in nature, release mental stress, and maintain a relaxed and energetic state. After many times of psychological counseling, his mood finally became more stable and his grades steadily improved. In 2002, he scored a total score of 631 in the college entrance examination. The highest score among all subjects was 659 in Chinese. I felt indescribably happy! It seems that one of the main reasons for the psychological imbalance of middle school students is the psychological pressure caused by learning. Teachers must understand students' psychology, reduce students' psychological pressure, guide students how to face setbacks, and improve their psychological endurance. three. Give full play to the function of family education

To carry out mental health education, it is not enough to rely solely on schools. Schools can only correct and guide students' psychological problems in a very limited time and space, especially the influence of social environment and family. important. (Due to space limitations, social factors will not be discussed here.) It can be said that most adolescents’ psychological disorders are directly or indirectly related to their parents. Obtaining the cooperation of parents and helping them exert their educational functions is extremely important for improving and preventing children's psychological disorders and helping children grow up. Good psychological quality requires good family education and training. Schools must work closely with families. Teachers and students' parents must strengthen communication, always pay attention to students' psychological problems, provide appropriate guidance to parents, and provide timely guidance to students. If students have poor test-taking psychology, teachers can guide parents to treat exams with a normal attitude. Parents' nagging, concern, and high expectations will cause too much pressure on their children. Another example is the development of sex education, interpersonal communication skills and willpower in adolescence, which all need to play the role of family education. Some middle school students have social phobia, rarely interact with others, are afraid of not being accepted by others, are jealous of others, dislike others, or are confused about male and female relationships, etc. Parents should encourage their children to make more friends, provide guidance in choosing friends, and cultivate Social skills, too much blaming and restraining children will make their children lack self-confidence in social interactions. Parents should guide their children correctly, strengthen communication, and cultivate a healthy psychology in their children as they grow up.

Mental health education is a need for students’ healthy growth and all-round development, and should be taken seriously. Families and society must provide a good educational environment, and schools should provide mental health education to students so that everyone can be cultivated with good psychological qualities, have a healthy psychology and good psychological endurance, and adapt to fierce social competition.

Middle school students in the period of puberty and development are very obviously psychologically trapped and their psychological conflicts are very prominent. From what we have learned in consultation activities in recent years, the main problems are as follows:

1. Learning problems

Learning is the main task of students, and problems arising from learning account for the main part of the psychological problems of middle school students. There are two reflections:

1. At present, the school workload is heavy, the competition is fierce, and parents’ expectations are too high, which makes students’ mental pressure increasing. There was a high school girl. After entering high school, the teacher's teaching methods changed and her competitors also changed, which made her feel very uncomfortable. As a result, her academic performance dropped. She dropped from the top of the grade in junior high school to the 141st in high school. name. When she came for consultation, she said painfully: "For the first time in 17 years, I feel incompetent. Whenever I see the eyes of my parents' expectations, I feel very sad. I don't know what to do to meet my parents' requirements. Now, I feel depressed, worried, and sad." , Anger fills the mind, and when I see the book, I hate and fear it, and I really want to throw it away. "Another boy also said that he usually studies well and can occasionally provide guidance to others, but he always gets nervous when exams are approaching. I was afraid that I would not do well in the exam, so I prepared hard and couldn't sleep at night. And before the exam, you will feel a headache and even have a fever. In the end, you are either forced to interrupt the exam, or you do not get good results even if you persist. The cycle goes on and on, to the point where I feel scared and nervous as soon as I hear the exam

2. Weariness to study is a more prominent problem in current learning activities. Not only students with poor academic performance are unwilling to study, but even students with good grades are unwilling to study. My classmates also have this tendency. A student from a key school said: "Whenever I see or hear other people cheating on exams, I feel unbalanced mentally. When my grades are not satisfactory, I blame the teacher for being unfair. I feel that studying hard is really boring and I don't want to study anymore." Yes, another student told us that there is a saying among students that "promising people rely on connections, while those who are not promising rely on scores."

"Students who are good at studying do not necessarily have high prestige among students, but students with mediocre grades and good popularity are often favored and are often elected when various representatives are recommended, so they feel that studying is boring and do not want to study hard. There are some reasons There are other psychological reasons for being disinclined to study, such as those who are often laughed at and unwilling to attend classes due to their slow response; those who have difficulty improving their grades due to lack of memory, understanding and other abilities and who have lost confidence in themselves, etc. To the point of hating books, hating teachers, and skipping classes. One classmate once wrote in his diary: "It was past 11 o'clock in the evening, and I looked at the desk full of textbooks, English dictionaries, and homework books. I really want to burn them to ashes. "Exhibits strong anxiety, resentment, and helplessness. This is a question that deserves our deep thought.

2. Interpersonal relationship issues

This is also one of the most commonly reported issues among middle school students. Mainly include:

1. The relationship problems with teachers mainly focus on the difficulties and worries caused by teachers’ incomprehension of students and excessive interference in students’ spare time and normal interactions. He mentioned that once he asked a girl in his class about his homework. The teacher saw it and was harshly criticized. He grabbed it as a pigtail in his hand and often pulled it out to "show off", "Do you think Don't I know you? ． ", which seriously hurt his self-esteem and caused him to be disgusted and antagonized towards the teacher. The teacher pointed him to the east and turned to the west, but he was very conflicted in his heart, which even affected his interest in studies. Another student cadre came. According to the interview, it is really difficult to be a class cadre now. You are criticized by both sides and do not care about things. The teacher criticizes you for being irresponsible. If you want to take care of things, you will inevitably have disputes with some classmates. If there is a quarrel, the teacher will first criticize the class cadre, so I feel very aggrieved. . I am angry with the teacher but don’t dare to contradict me; I want to quit but I am afraid of losing the teacher’s trust. I am in a dilemma and I don’t know what to do. In addition, I also have other thoughts, such as thinking that the teacher “dislikes the poor and loves the rich.” Those who think that teachers are "unfair", and others who think that teachers "look down upon themselves" all reflect problems in the relationship between teachers and students in the school.

2. Relationships with classmates. Mainly focusing on making friends, he was troubled by his inability to handle the relationship between good friends. One student said that one of his good friends always distrusted him, doubted his friendship with his friends, and thought that he was dedicated to his friends. Not enough made him very distressed, and he didn't know what to do to eliminate his friend's suspicion. There was also a girl who was in a dilemma because of a conflict between two good friends. Afraid that A would not understand, the two friends stopped dating in the end, but they felt very lonely and lonely. They wanted to restore the relationship with their friends but did not know how to do it. In addition, there were some students who had more and more friends as they moved from junior high school to high school. The fewer people there are, the more they suspect that there is no real friendship in the world and cannot make real friends, and then want to live in seclusion.

3. The problem with the relationship between parents and children is mainly due to the lack of mutuality between parents and children. understanding and communication, or the psychological damage caused by discordant family relationships. For example, one student said, “I often have conflicts with my mother, and I get upset when I hear her scolding me. Sometimes I really want to leave and never come back. But when I saw her thin and tired face and gray hair, I couldn't bear it. She lived with this kind of inner conflict every day. I really didn't know what to do. "There was also a student whose family was at odds, and his parents often quarreled. Once when his mother was on a business trip, his father actually brought a woman back to spend the night. From then on, he never wanted to stay in that home again. He hated his father and didn't want to see him again. Parents want to run away all day long, and feel extremely bored. They feel that life is really boring, and they have the idea of ??being world-weary. It can be seen that the bad behavior of parents brings not only disgust and contempt to their children, but also deeper inner trauma. .

3. Emotional issues

Youth is the season of flowers. At this stage, people’s secondary sexual characteristics gradually develop and their sexual consciousness gradually matures. They are emotionally sensitive and impulsive, and are full of curiosity and yearning for the opposite sex. Of course, they are also accompanied by many emotional difficulties, such as the excitement of first love, the frustration of lost love, and the troubles of unrequited love, which can be summed up in two aspects. .

First, it is the emotional entanglement with peers, which is often caused by close interactions between classmates. We often encounter such inquiries during consultation, "I am very close to a boy. Now. He has entered college. Is it okay if I want to establish a relationship with him? "I get along very well with a male classmate. I want to develop into close friends, but I'm afraid that teachers and parents won't agree and it will have a bad influence. What should I do?" "I like a boy, but there are several female classmates who like him. Should I compete or retreat?" "And so on.

The second is the problem of abnormal love with adults, such as living together without marriage, involvement in extramarital affairs, homosexuality, etc. Although this is not common among middle school students, it is not uncommon either. It is mostly manifested in Some precocious girls: There was a senior girl in high school who was very good at studies and very smart. The school wanted to send her to college, but she was living with a man who was 10 years older than her and already had a family. And she said that she did this not for money, but for "feelings." Although she knew intellectually that this was not good, she just couldn't control herself and lived in conflict and pain every day. There was also a student. I fell in love with an English teacher who was more than ten years older than me. I knew it would be fruitless, but I couldn't control myself from falling in love with him. I wanted to see him and stay with him all day long.

When the other person does not accept this emotion, they feel that life is meaningless and may even have thoughts of committing suicide. In addition, there are some abnormal love phenomena such as being in love with your mother, jealous of your mother, and liking adult partners of the same sex, which fully shows that the emotional problems of middle school students are not simple. Faced with such complex psychological conditions of students, as an educator and psychologist, I feel deeply worried. I also understand more clearly the significance of carrying out mental health education in middle schools. How should I do this work? I think the specific methods are as follows.

(1) Set up special mental health education courses in middle schools to help students understand psychological science knowledge and master certain psychological adjustment techniques. It can be divided into two parts: one part is a knowledge theory course, such as a lecture on mental health knowledge, Q&A on psychological adjustment issues, discussion of focus issues, etc. In the study of psychological knowledge, you can clearly understand and correct your concepts, and treat your own psychological conflicts with a positive attitude. . The other part is activity training class, which is the most effective way to carry out mental health education for middle school students. The activities include: skit performances, role simulation games, mutual visits, and other forms of activities. During the activities, students can not only learn social skills to introduce themselves, understand others, and socialize with others, but also master some such as: transferring emotions and catharsis. Psychological adjustment methods to relieve pain and vent anger to nip problems in the bud.

(2) Incorporate psychological counseling into regular educational activities. In fact, the teaching of each subject itself includes psychological education content. As long as the psychological education orientation is included in the lesson preparation, the teaching content can be deepened. For example, Chinese classes contain many factors of emotional education; labor classes and physical education classes Frustration education can also be arranged to increase students' ability to cope with setbacks and exercise their willpower. The best approach is to add the segmented goals of psychological education into the teaching purposes of each subject, so that the education model changes from knowledge education to quality education and psychological education.

(3) Establish psychological consultation and adjustment rooms in middle schools. In addition to general consultation and heart-to-heart talks, some simple psychological treatment methods can also be used to prescribe the right medicine. For example, before a major exam, some students will always develop test anxiety and show symptoms such as nervousness and insomnia. The psychological counselor can focus on providing relaxation therapy for the students. Help them relieve tension and adjust their motivation to take the exam to achieve good results. Psychological consultation and adjustment in schools are different from general consultation clinics in society. The approach should also take into account the psychological characteristics of students.

Many studies have found that moderate pressure helps us maintain a good state and is more helpful. To tap into our potential and thereby improve the overall efficiency of individuals and society. For example, every time an athlete participates in a competition, he must adjust himself to feel moderate pressure, make himself excited, and enter the best competitive state. If he is not nervous or stressed, it will not be conducive to performance.

Another example is when taking exams. Moderate pressure can mobilize our brains, make us excited, and achieve good results. Therefore, moderate pressure has positive significance in promoting social development and tapping inherent potential resources.

The "Pressure Effect" of the Old Captain

There was an experienced old captain. When his cargo ship was returning on the vast sea after unloading its cargo, he suddenly encountered a terrible storm. The sailors were panicked, and the old captain decisively ordered the sailors to open the cargo hold immediately and fill it with water. "Is the captain crazy? Filling the cabin with water will only increase the pressure on the ship and make it sink. Isn't this asking for death?" A young sailor muttered.

Looking at the captain's stern expression, the sailors still did as they were told. As the water level in the cargo hold rose higher and higher, and as the ship sank inch by inch, the threat to the ship from the still violent wind and waves was gradually reduced, and the cargo ship gradually became stable.

The captain looked at the relieved sailors and said: "It is rare for a million-ton ship to be overturned, and it is often a small boat with a light foundation that is overturned. When the ship is carrying a heavy load, It is the safest; it is the most dangerous when it is empty. Of course, this kind of load is defined according to the carrying capacity of the ship. Appropriate pressure can withstand the invasion of storms, but if it is too heavy for the ship to bear, it will collapse. Just like you feared, it disappeared into the sea."

This is the "pressure effect." Those who muddle along without any pressure are like ships without cargo in a storm. Often a storm in life will capsize them. But those who are overloaded are not knocked down by the wind and waves, but they become silent in their busy lives.

The pressure must be just right

When dealing with children’s education, we must also pay attention to the “pressure effect”.

In real life, once some children feel that they are not going well in school, parents will go to the school to hold them accountable, for fear that their children will be a little wronged. It is understandable that parents love their children, but they do not realize that children, like adults, grow up through beatings. The Japanese will also artificially create some setbacks and pressures for their children during their growth. For example, in the severe winter season, they let their children undergo an hour-long cold water experiment to enhance their cold tolerance and physical fitness. This also exercises their psychological endurance. strength training.

Appropriate pressure is not a bad thing. For example, the pressure of survival that modern people generally feel can become the motivation for work, develop our greater potential, and push individuals and society forward.

Similarly, appropriate pressure can be a driving force for children to learn, but when the pressure exceeds the load that children can bear, pressure can also have a negative effect. At this time, learning has become a passive behavior for children. The greater the pressure, the weaker the independent thinking ability, especially creativity. Therefore, applying pressure is an art. Improper and biased methods of applying pressure will not only not help learning, but will also cause children to form bad habits and psychological tendencies.

Only the right amount of pressure can produce good results. When a child has potential that can be tapped but is unwilling to develop in depth due to laziness or enthusiasm for other activities, it is necessary to put pressure on him or her. Everyone has a positive side and a lazy side. When the two are competing and the lazy side is about to gain the upper hand, applying pressure in a timely manner will undoubtedly have the best effect. And when the pressure exceeds the level of awareness and becomes a burden, it is necessary to reduce the pressure in time. For parents, they should also pay attention to "filtering" the invisible pressure from the external environment, guiding their children to correctly view external pressure, resisting negative influences, and allowing children to feel the most appropriate intensity.

It is appropriate to apply pressure according to the individual

In addition, every child has innate talents. While putting appropriate pressure on their children, parents should find ways to maximize their potential. Discover these gifts. For children with various language advantages and skills, the best learning method is to listen more and read more, and encourage them to talk and write freely in foreign languages; for logical operation types who are good at abstract thinking, clear concepts, and like to explore the relationship between things For children, they should be allowed to play more logical crossword puzzles, tell them reasoning stories, and give them rational answers to the root-searching questions they ask; for overall action-oriented children who like to personally participate in various activities and do things by themselves, they should be allowed to They participate in various creative activities, such as participating in drama activities and playing roles, participating in handicraft activities and sports; for children with musical and artistic talents, beautiful music and harmonious melodies are most beneficial to these children, and they should be allowed to attend school Various music classes, watching various music performances, participating in various music activities, and solo singing are also a way.

Stress Effect

Everyone says that “there is motivation only when there is pressure”. In real life, it seems that when pressure is mentioned, people's hearts will subconsciously feel tightened. Isn’t it true that stress is nothing?

There was an experienced old captain. When his cargo ship was returning on the vast sea after unloading its cargo, he suddenly encountered a terrible storm. The sailors were panicked, and the old captain decisively ordered the sailors to open the cargo hold immediately and fill it with water. "Is the captain crazy? Filling the cabin with water will only increase the pressure on the ship and make it sink. Isn't this asking for death?" A young sailor muttered.

Looking at the captain's stern expression, the sailors still did as they were told. As the water level in the cargo hold rose higher and higher, and as the ship sank inch by inch, the threat to the ship from the still violent wind and waves was gradually reduced, and the cargo ship gradually became stable.

The captain looked at the relieved sailors and said: "It is rare for a million-ton ship to be overturned, and it is often a small boat with a light foundation that is overturned. When the ship is carrying a heavy load, It is the safest; it is the most dangerous when it is empty."

This is the "pressure effect." In fact, no stress is good for our body and mind. If we just muddle along, being a monk for a day and hitting the clock for a day, we will be like a ship without cargo in the storm. Often, a huge storm in life will overturn us.

We often complain that the competition around us is too fierce because of our laziness, or emphasize that we are under too much pressure because of our lack of ability in certain aspects. In fact, without stress, we would be like that little guinea pig, falling from the heights we could actually balance ourselves to and sacrificed. Because if people are not under any pressure, it is easy to be distracted and careless, until they lose their fighting spirit and become lazy, and disaster will follow. Therefore, the best way to maintain fighting spirit and resilience is to keep yourself under appropriate pressure at all times.