The relationship between self-esteem and self-modesty is as follows:

1. Self-esteem

Self-esteem, that is, self-respect, means neither bowing to others nor allowing others to discriminate and insult, which is a healthy and good psychological state. There are always people who confuse "face" with "self-esteem". It is face rather than self-esteem that is easily hurt. Self-esteem is used for self-improvement, not for careful care.

Psychologists believe that self-esteem is formed through social comparison. Each of us has to know our own needs, and we all need to know our position in the group and society, so as to realize our own value.

Sometimes, we can know ourselves by some objective reference standards, such as blood pressure, pulse, body temperature and other observable indicators to know our health. However, most of the time, we don't have such objective standards for reference, and we can only evaluate ourselves by comparing with others.

2. Self-modesty

Self-modesty, a Chinese word, pronounced as zi = qi ā n, which means self-modesty, comes from Da Xue.

1. Self-humility.

The Book of the Later Han Dynasty: The Emperor refused to accept it. Often self-deprecating. " Qing Yuan Mei's Poems with the Garden, Volume 2: "People are inseparable, soft and weak, rigid and violent ... self-modesty and self-abasement are specious." The fourteenth time of "Rebirth": "A thousand things are obedient to rest pride, and you should be humble when you are happy and tolerant."

2. Self-sufficiency; Feel at ease. "Book of Rites University": "The so-called sincere person, don't deceive yourself. If it stinks, if it is lewd, this is called self-modesty. " Zhu Xi's Notes: "Modest reading is a pity. Hey, fast, enough ... self-fast is enough for yourself. " Ming Wang Shouren's "University Question": "My husband then my heart is quick, and I am self-deprecating without any regrets."

3. Idiom

1. A thousand mistakes lead to one gain: a fool's careful consideration will also have its merits. From "Yan Zi's Spring and Autumn Miscellaneous Eighteen": "A fool will gain something if he cares a lot." Later, it is often used as a self-deprecating word when expressing opinions.

2. Interpreting talents and learning at the end: low talents and superficial knowledge. Often used as a word of modesty.

3. People look down on others: they have low status and insufficient expectations. Often used as a word of modesty.

4. There is nothing to blame: the words of self-modesty. I can't make up for my responsibilities.

5. powerless: the original meaning is not enough for someone to serve. Later, it is mostly used for self-modesty, indicating that the talent is lower than some people; Generally refers to the inability to do something well.