1. Our thoughts are always in the past and future, but our bodies and breathing are always in the present.
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2. All people and things are projections of your inner self. When something from the outside touches you, remember to look within. Look at where your old wounds have been touched again, and look at the shadows you have yet to sort out. Don't waste energy on things that are external and irresistible. First make adjustments and arrangements at the inner level, and then focus on dealing with the external parts that can be changed.
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3. Remember, every event that happens to you is a gift, but some gifts are so ugly that they make us feel resentful. Or fearful. So, it can be a disaster, or it can be a gift. If you can open this appalling outer packaging with confidence, give it some time, patience, and carefulness, you will enjoy the richness and beauty inside it, and it is a gift that is carefully tailored for you.
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4: My dear, there is no one else outside, and all external things are the result of your inner projection. --Zhang Defen "Meeting the Unknown Self"
5: What kind of person is the most attractive? I feel more and more that the answer is, people with inner strength. What does it mean to have inner strength? It means being able to deal with your negative emotions calmly when you encounter difficulties or pain. Everyone has difficulties, and no one lacks pain. As long as you are human, these are inevitable. But people with strong inner strength can avoid suffering. -- Zhang Defen "Meeting the Unknown Self"
6: You are not your job, you are not your performance, you are not your success, nor your failure. These external things cannot shake your inner true self at all. See clearly the false identity of the ego. --Zhang Defen, "Meeting the Unknown Self"
7: Seeing the beauty of thousands of mountains and rivers, hesitating and returning to the ordinary. Facing the joys and sorrows, only by holding the mentality of caring for the heart and cherishing blessings and gratitude can all the truth be revealed. It will automatically restore the truth of "Meeting the Unknown Self"
8: How you play your role will affect the way I play it. --Zhang Defen "Meeting the Unknown Self"
9: Fear, anger, and sadness are all natural flows of life energy. If they come, they will definitely go. "Meeting the Unknown Self"
10: No matter how much you love him (her), unnecessary worry is the worst gift. It is better to give him (her) blessings! --Zhang Defen "Meeting the Unknown Self"
11: Love, joy, and peace. Nothing else to ask for. -- Zhang Defen "Meeting the Unknown Self"
12. You are not your job, you are not your performance, you are not your success, and you are not your failure. These external things cannot shake your inner true self at all. See clearly the false identity of the ego.
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13. My dear, there is no one else outside, and all external things are the result of your inner projection.
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14. What kind of person is the most attractive? I feel more and more that the answer is a person with inner strength. What does it mean to have inner strength? It means being able to deal with your negative emotions calmly when encountering difficulties or pain. Everyone has difficulties, and no one lacks pain. As long as you are human, these are inevitable. But people with strong inner strength can avoid suffering.
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15 Love, joy, peace. Nothing else to ask for.
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16 There are three kinds of things in the world: God's things, your things, and his things.
17. There is a demand for peptides, and when our brain selects the limited two thousand bits of information, it will filter the information and create various thoughts and ideas that meet the needs of our cells, and These energy fluctuations will attract things with the same vibration frequency as them, causing distress, pain and other emotions.
18. Energy attracts each other, and the persistence of the ego is the energy of fear, which is suggestive.
19. Face your dark side honestly instead of blindly pursuing the light.
20 The pain body is a self-contained energy field in our body, with its own vitality. It feeds on pain. If you don’t feed it the food it wants, it will Create some drama to generate the emotion it needs to survive.
21. Our experiences are generated in response to the emotions we need.
22. What makes us suffer psychologically is not the event itself, but our thoughts about the event and the stories we create around the event.
23 Whatever you resist will persist.
24 The biggest fact is that what has happened cannot be changed. If you do not accept it, it is like hitting your head against a wall and hoping to knock it away. It will not help, it will be in vain, and people will suffer. The biggest reason is to resist the facts.
26 The observer chooses one of the possibilities of various things, and then things happen as they are, so things are our choice, rather than us passively watching things happen.
27 Things are neutral. Pain is created by you and caused by your interpretation of things.
28. Fear, anger, and sadness are all natural flows of life energy. If they come, they will definitely go.
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29. At the hesitant moment when all the beauty of the mountains and rivers fades into the ordinary, facing the joys and sorrows, the only way is to maintain a caring heart and cherish the blessings and be grateful. Only then will all the truth be revealed automatically
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30. Whatever you resist will last.
31. When we feel very bad, we will always want to struggle to escape from this quagmire. We use many escape strategies not to face it, to suppress it, to deny it, to reject it. Remember: whatever you resist will persist. Because when you resist something or a certain emotion, you focus on that emotion or event, thus giving it more energy and making it more powerful.
32. My dear, there is no one else but yourself.
33. Our thoughts are always in the past and future, but our bodies and breathing are always in the present.
34. Everything that happens to us is a carefully wrapped gift. As long as we are willing to face its sometimes ugly packaging and unpack it bit by bit with patience and courage, we will be pleasantly surprised to see the gifts hidden inside.
35. Negative emotions are like darkness that cannot be driven away. The only thing that can be done is to bring in light. Joy is the best light to dissolve negative emotions.
36. You are not your job, you are not your performance, you are not your success, and you are not your failure. These external things cannot shake your inner true self at all. See clearly the false identity of the ego.
37. Some people say that it is important to know what you want, but what we want will change with the flow of time, so it is better to go with the flow of time. Everything is arranged for the best.
38. Why do we become more lonely, restless and unhappy as we grow up? Because in the process of pursuing happiness, we are getting further and further away from our true selves.
39. Love, joy, peace. Nothing else to ask for.
40. How you play your role will affect the way I play it.
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41. No matter how much you love him (her), unnecessary worry is the worst gift. It is better to give him (her) blessings!
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42. Once the thing that makes you happy no longer exists, your happiness will also disappear. Joy is different, it blooms from the inside out, arising spontaneously from deep within.
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43. For example, if you often feel like you are not loved, you can write: I see that I am seeking the painful feeling of not being loved. , I wholeheartedly accept the feeling and let go of my need for it.
See it, accept it, and then let go of your need for it.
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44. Aren’t each of us acting every day? Playing the role of a good employee, a good friend, a good citizen, a good son, a good wife, a good son-in-law , good parents, and even good people! However, in the scenes, how many of us are willing to perform? In order to play different roles in these life dramas, each of us must wear some masks according to the place and time. Is this because we cannot see One of the reasons for the true self?
Zhang Defen's "Meeting the Unknown Self" Zhang Defen's wonderful quotes
1. The root cause of our suffering is that we do not know who we are, and Blindly clinging to and pursuing things that cannot represent us!
2. The most beautiful state is to see the darkness and pain of the world, but still believe in its simplicity and beauty. I hope that by then, we will all become better versions of ourselves. There is no one step too early or one step too late. I met you at that time.
3. Every event that happens to you is a gift, but some gifts are ugly-wrapped, making us feel resentful or fearful. So, it can be a disaster or it can be a gift. If you can have confidence, give it some time, and patiently and carefully unpack this miserable shell, you will enjoy the rich and beautiful gift inside it that is carefully tailored for you.
4. Why do we become more lonely, restless and unhappy as we grow up? Because in the process of pursuing happiness, we are getting further and further away from our true selves.
5. If we are accustomed to paying attention to the feeling of our body and always comforting and caring for it, many diseases will not occur over time.
6. When you adjust your inner world well, your outer world will naturally become smooth.
7. If you do something repeatedly, physiologically speaking, some of our nerve cells will establish a long-term and fixed relationship. For example, if you are angry every day, Feeling frustrated, miserable every day...then you are wiring and integrating that neural network over and over again every day. This becomes an emotional pattern for you.
8. Everything that happens to us is a carefully wrapped gift. As long as we are willing to face its sometimes ugly packaging and unwrap it bit by bit with patience and courage, we will be pleasantly surprised to see the gifts hidden inside.
9. It’s not about how many teachers you have worshiped, how many spiritual classes you have taken, how many books you have read, how many thousands of mantras you have recited, how many times you have kowtowed, how many prostrations you have done, or how many meditations you have done. You can sit cross-legged for as many hours as you want, and you will be enlightened as if you were reborn. In the end, what you have to face are the dark sides and negative personality traits in your own heart.
10. The advantage of surrender is that when you accept the present moment and do not waste your energy fighting in vain, things will often take an unexpected turn, and you will realize that the original struggle was really in vain.
11. Some people say that it is important to know what you want, but what we want will change with the flow of time, so it is better to go with the flow of time. Everything is arranged for the best.
12. When your emotions are touched, focusing on yourself instead of the person who touched your emotions is the beginning of accumulating inner strength.
13. Do you know? There are only three things in the world: God's business, your business, and other people's business.
14. You are not your job, you are not your performance, you are not your success, nor your success or failure. These external things cannot shake your inner true self at all. See clearly the false identity of the ego.
15. Our life is actually composed of every moment, so try to maintain a happy heart in every moment!
16. Whatever you resist will persist.
17. Negative emotions are like darkness that cannot be driven away. The only thing that can be done is to bring in light. Joy is the best light to dissolve negative emotions.
18. When you really want something, the whole universe will unite to help you.
19. Our habits are not established overnight. Therefore, it is impossible to break a long-standing pattern just by reading a book. I suggest that readers, both physically and mentally, start with a good little habit that you can actually do.
20. If you find a pattern in your life and are unable to eliminate it, the best way is to pray. Prayer is a kind of trust, a kind of surrender, and a kind of connection and awareness with the true self. In short, all the possible ways mentioned in the book can be covered by prayer, especially the prayer of thanksgiving!
21. I saw that I was seeking the painful feeling of not being loved, and I wholeheartedly accepted this feeling and let go of my need for it.
22. We must take full responsibility for the people, things and things that enter our lives. Learn to accept your own unhappiness and the imperfections of life, and willingly learn the lesson of "surrender" to find a shortcut to pursue a better life, and the best shortcut is to start from now.
23. When death comes, it will sweep away everything that does not represent the real us, but the real you will not change with time or even death.
24. When you encounter something you don’t like, accept it, face it, deal with it, let it go, and be at ease!
25. Personality tendency x external environment x various education x life events x past life karma (if you believe it) = life pattern.
26. What exactly are we pursuing? What is something that everyone in the world wants? Money – of course, who doesn’t want that? Power - obviously a goal that many people pursue! Ah, we also need to be healthy. Of course, beyond that, everyone is pursuing love and happiness.
27. A happy woman is a woman who can get along well with herself, understand herself very well, and can be her most loyal supporter and observer. Zhang Defen's classic quotations
1. The root cause of our suffering is that we don't know who we are, and we blindly cling to and pursue things that cannot represent us!
2. The most beautiful state is to see the darkness and pain of the world, but still believe in its simplicity and beauty. I hope that by then, we will all become better versions of ourselves. There is no one step too early or one step too late. I met you at that time.
3. Every event that happens to you is a gift, but some gifts are ugly-wrapped, making us feel resentful or fearful. So, it can be a disaster or it can be a gift.
If you can have confidence, give it some time, and patiently and carefully unpack this miserable shell, you will enjoy the rich and beautiful gift inside it that is carefully tailored for you.
4. Why do we become more lonely, restless and unhappy as we grow up? Because in the process of pursuing happiness, we are getting further and further away from our true selves.
5. If we are accustomed to paying attention to the feeling of our body and always comforting and caring for it, many diseases will not occur over time.
6. When you adjust your inner world well, your outer world will naturally become smooth.
7. If you do something repeatedly, physiologically speaking, some of our nerve cells will establish a long-term and fixed relationship. For example, if you are angry every day, Feeling frustrated, miserable every day...then you are wiring and integrating that neural network over and over again every day. This becomes an emotional pattern for you.
8. Everything that happens to us is a carefully wrapped gift. As long as we are willing to face its sometimes ugly packaging and unwrap it bit by bit with patience and courage, we will be pleasantly surprised to see the gifts hidden inside.
9. It’s not about how many teachers you have worshiped, how many spiritual classes you have taken, how many books you have read, how many thousands of mantras you have recited, how many times you have kowtowed, how many prostrations you have done, or how many meditations you have done. You can sit cross-legged for as many hours as you want, and you will be enlightened as if you were reborn. In the end, what you have to face are the dark sides and negative personality traits in your own heart.
10. The advantage of surrender is that when you accept the present moment and do not waste your energy fighting in vain, things will often take an unexpected turn, and you will realize that the original struggle was really in vain.
11. Some people say that it is important to know what you want, but what we want will change with the flow of time, so it is better to go with the flow of time. Everything is arranged for the best.
12. When your emotions are touched, focusing on yourself instead of the person who touched your emotions is the beginning of accumulating inner strength.
13. Do you know? There are only three things in the world: God's business, your business, and other people's business.
14. You are not your job, you are not your performance, you are not your success, nor your success or failure. These external things cannot shake your inner true self at all. See clearly the false identity of the ego.
15. Our life is actually composed of every moment, so try to maintain a happy heart in every moment!
16. Whatever you resist will persist.
17. Negative emotions are like darkness that cannot be driven away. The only thing that can be done is to bring in light. Joy is the best light to dissolve negative emotions.
18. When you really want something, the whole universe will unite to help you.
19. Our habits are not established overnight. Therefore, it is impossible to break a long-standing pattern just by reading a book. I suggest that readers, both physically and mentally, start with a good little habit that you can actually do.
20. If you find a pattern in your life and are unable to eliminate it, the best way is to pray. Prayer is a kind of trust, a kind of surrender, and a kind of connection and awareness with the true self. In short, all the possible ways mentioned in the book can be covered by prayer, especially the prayer of thanksgiving!
21. I saw that I was seeking the painful feeling of not being loved, and I wholeheartedly accepted this feeling and let go of my need for it.
22. We must take full responsibility for the people, things and things that enter our lives.
Learn to accept your own unhappiness and the imperfections of life, and willingly learn the lesson of "surrender" to find a shortcut to pursue a better life, and the best shortcut is to start from now.
23. When death comes, it will sweep away everything that does not represent the real us, but the real you will not change with time or even death.
24. When you encounter something you don’t like, accept it, face it, deal with it, let it go, and be at ease!
25. Personality tendency x external environment x various education x life events x past life karma (if you believe it) = life pattern.
26. What exactly are we pursuing? What is something that everyone in the world wants? Money – of course, who doesn’t want that? Power - obviously a goal that many people pursue! Ah, we also need to be healthy. Of course, beyond that, everyone is pursuing love and happiness.
27. A happy woman is a woman who can get along well with herself, understand herself very well, and can be her most loyal supporter and observer. Zhang Defen's classic sayings
1. Our habits are not established overnight. Therefore, it is impossible to break a long-established pattern just by reading a book. I suggest that readers, both physically and mentally, start with a good little habit that you can actually do. The physical aspect is like diet or exercise, and the psychological aspect is to examine who or what caused me to have negative emotions today every day, and then explore the reasons inwardly. Or you can also let yourself learn the lesson of "surrender" when facing people and things in daily life. Every good habit must be practiced consciously for at least 21 days before it can be transformed into a subconscious habit (automated!). I hope readers will encourage you to do so.
2. The root cause of our suffering is that we don’t know who we are, and we blindly cling to and pursue things that cannot represent us!
3. You know ? There are only three things in the world: God’s business, your business, and other people’s business.
4. I saw that I was seeking the painful feeling of not being loved, and I wholeheartedly accepted this feeling and let go of my need for it.
5. I firmly believe that when you adjust your inner world well, your outer world will naturally become smooth.
6. The real problem lies in your "emotions". Something happens, something you don't like happens, and the real difficulties it brings to you really hinder the flow of your energy. What is it that really prevents you from being happy and free every day? It is your "emotion". So a master once said: "The speed at which you deal with your emotions is the speed at which you move towards success."
7. All people and things are projections of your inner self, reflecting your inner self like a mirror. When something from the outside touches you, remember to look within. See where your old wounds have been touched again, and see what shadows you have yet to sort out. Don't waste energy on things that are external, unchangeable, and irresistible. First make adjustments and arrangements at the inner level, and then focus on dealing with the external parts that can be changed.
8. If you do something repeatedly, physiologically speaking, some of our nerve cells will establish a long-term and fixed relationship between them. For example, if you are angry every day, Feeling frustrated, miserable every day...then you are wiring and integrating that neural network over and over again every day. This becomes an emotional pattern for you.
9. Pain is created by you, because that is your interpretation of things.
10. When death comes, it will sweep away everything that does not represent the real us, but the real you will not change with time or even death.
11. I finally deeply realized the true meaning of the slogan "You create your own reality" that has been shouted by people of the new era to the point of becoming vulgar.
We must take full responsibility for the people, things, and things that enter our lives, but what if we know it? Mental knowledge cannot resolve our fate of being led by karma to float up and down in the world of mortals, nor can it relieve us from the pain of running around for life and worrying about worldly things as ordinary people.
12. Everything that happens to us is a carefully wrapped gift. As long as we are willing to face its sometimes ugly packaging and unwrap it bit by bit with patience and courage, we will be pleasantly surprised to see the gifts hidden inside.
13. If you find a pattern in your life and are unable to eliminate it, the best way is to pray. Prayer is a kind of trust, a kind of surrender, and a kind of connection and awareness with the true self. In short, all the possible ways mentioned in the book can be covered by prayer, especially the prayer of thanksgiving!
14. These emotions are all energy, especially for children. Some natural fears, anger of not getting what they want, and sadness of disappointment and failure are just the flow of natural life energy. When it comes, it will come. Will definitely come. When you become a parent in the future, remember to give your children unlimited emotional support and recognition.
15. When you really want something, the whole universe will unite to help you.
16. Personality tendency x external environment x various education x life events x past life karma (if you believe it) = life pattern.
17. My dear, there is no one else outside. All external things are the result of your inner projection.
18. If we are accustomed to paying attention to the feeling of our body and always comforting and caring for it, many diseases will not occur over time.
19. Every event that happens to you is a gift, but some gifts are poorly wrapped, making us feel resentful or fearful. So, it can be a disaster or it can be a gift. If you can have confidence, give it some time, and patiently and carefully unpack this miserable shell, you will enjoy the rich and beautiful gift inside it that is carefully tailored for you.
20. When cultivating our inner cultivation, bringing light to darkness is one method, but bringing darkness to light is a truly effective act.
21. Talk to your body and listen to your body’s messages.
22. The advantage of surrender is that when you accept the present moment and do not waste your energy fighting in vain, things will often take an unexpected turn, and you will realize that the original struggle was really in vain.
23. We don’t know that all problems are caused by ourselves. As long as we change ourselves and our state of mind, all external situations, including people, things, and things, will change according to our hearts. change.
24. When your emotions are touched, focusing on yourself instead of the person who touched your emotions is the beginning of accumulating inner strength.
25. Whatever you resist will persist.