Be strict with yourself and be lenient with others. 1 Confucius said, "If you don't say anything, you will regret it." In order to warn the world, we should pay special attention to what we say, be measured, think twice before doing things, and not be rash.

I also have the habit of calling a spade a spade and saying whatever comes to mind. Some people even thought about how to say it in advance, but later they felt "insincere" and seemed to speak casually. Sometimes words are faster than brains, and as soon as words are spoken, there are some inappropriate things, some of which are slowly remembered later, which may not be appropriate. Because the words have already been said, I can't take them back. I am no longer the master of this sentence, so it is the turn of the obedient person to understand. If I can express my meaning perfectly and let the listeners sing, it will be happy. If words don't convey meaning, even hints that shouldn't be understood, it may be in trouble.

There are many quarrels and misunderstandings in daily life, and the bumps between friends and even family members may have these reasons. As the saying goes: the speaker is unintentional, and the listener is interested. The mistake lies not in the listener, but in the speaker. Literally, it is because of the speaker's "unintentional". Why not? That is, I don't really respect and understand the listener, but I just think about it selfishly. Because everyone's personality and cultivation differences will inevitably lead to different ways and angles of understanding words, which is not right or wrong in itself.

Seeing people speak does not mean that there is no principle, but flexible expression, similar to Confucius' teaching students in accordance with their aptitude, provided that it plays a positive guiding role. This requires the speaker to have a full understanding of himself and others and a strong self-control.

Everyone has worldly desires, and it is inevitable that there will be some emotions. When you are praised, you may feel a little floating; When you are insulted and attacked, you may have some unbalanced emotions. Usually, these floating or angry emotions will cross or even paralyze people's brains and be expressed directly through words, thus losing objectivity and rationality, thus saying things that make them regret; Everything in nature is constantly moving and changing. The idea of the last moment may be said at this moment, and things will be different, so there will be a situation where words fail to convey meaning.

On second thought, I think it's still my habit. I like listening to good things, but I don't like offensive and insulting language. I like winning or losing when I meet something, just like winning a prize. In the past, this would be considered as a habit and human nature. Now that I think about it, offensive and insulting words are not necessarily bad. Why did you say yes? Because it just reflects what I can't do in some aspects. The more I care about these things, the more I argue with others. If I don't check my faults inward and always attack others outward, others will fight back. In this way, it has continued, and it is time for revenge.

I have experienced many such situations, and I feel very uncomfortable. But in the end, I managed to control my emotions rationally, but I feel that these situations have been happening repeatedly. Why do people say that about themselves? They just don't have their own heart, don't be strict with themselves, and don't form the habit of always thinking about themselves and letting themselves go. In the past, I thought it was noble and difficult to be strict with myself and lenient with others. Actually, it is not. To be really strict with yourself is to be lenient with yourself, because you are self-disciplined, natural and comfortable, and will not infringe on others, and others will naturally be lenient with themselves. There is nothing wrong with each other, even a harmonious situation of helping each other.

I used to feel that I have become without many shortcomings, that is, the shortcomings of others. What I don't like is sludge. Having said that, I have to think of lotus, whose quality is exactly what I need to learn.

Tell us: Lotus, slim and graceful, is willing to be born and grow in the sludge, and has never abandoned the sludge home since it came out. Always keep calm, never slack off, indulge and feel inferior, but be confident, proactive and persistent in absorbing nutrients and energy from the sludge, and at the same time clean and purify yourself independently. Where there is a will, there is a way.

Be strict with yourself and be lenient with others. The noise around me seems to be separated from me by a thin barrier, separating me from them I bent slightly and kept rubbing my hands, at a loss.

In class, the teacher asked the students to comment on each other's compositions, and the students suddenly exploded, and people were buzzing. I waited for someone to invite me like last time, but reality gave me a heavy slap. I hold a notebook, and I feel annoyed and wronged. I can clearly point out their mistakes and give better suggestions. Why didn't anyone come to me? Like last time.

last time ...

"Hey, let's recognize each other and stop looking for others." My deskmate smiled and handed me the book. I feel nothing in my heart. I think it should be like this. So I picked up the red pen and circled her notebook to change it. Seeing that there seemed to be problems everywhere, I drew one circle after another. "Your problem is very serious!" I said this with a little secret pride in discovering other people's mistakes. The smile on my deskmate's face froze and asked me what was wrong. I replied one by one: "I think the wording here needs to be discussed ..." "This paragraph would be better if it was placed below ..." "I don't quite agree with this view ..." I said what I thought, but I didn't see the complexity and embarrassment on her face.

I picked up my notebook and looked at the dots on it. I was a little annoyed, so I asked her what happened to this writing. She said that this example is irrelevant to this topic. I frowned and said that almost enough, there is no need to entangle too much.

"Time is up!" The teacher on the stage patted the podium, and I woke up from my memories and found that I didn't find anyone else to correct myself in the end.

The teacher began to stop, and there were still some whispering voices around. I vaguely heard someone ask why no one was looking for me, and another person replied, "She is very strict with others, but she doesn't bind herself with the same requirements." She is strict with herself and tolerant of others, and no one wants to be with her. "

I looked down silently.

I don't know why, I suddenly remembered the volleyball match I happened to see yesterday. Although I don't know the rules, I can understand the excitement and loss of the players. When their players make mistakes, they are not stingy with their comfort and encouragement; When I made a mistake, I regretted it, became nervous, and became more serious and cautious.

Be strict with yourself and be lenient with others.

Recalling what I did in the past, my heart felt a chill. Maybe this is how the gap between my classmates and me was born.

I don't know how to make up for the past, so I have to change the future.

I pulled my deskmate's sleeve: "Last time, I'm sorry." Looking at her puzzled eyes, I didn't explain anything, just smiled.

Be strict with yourself and be lenient with others. The noise around me seems to have separated me from them with a thin barrier. I bent down slightly and kept rubbing my hands. I feel at a loss.

In the classroom, the teacher asked the students to comment on each other's compositions. The students flew into a rage and kept shouting. I waited for an invitation like last time, but reality gave me a slap in the face. Holding a notebook in hand, I feel very annoyed and wronged. I can clearly point out their mistakes and give better suggestions. Why didn't anyone come to me? Just like last time.

For the last time.

"Hey, let's check each other and stop looking for someone else." My deskmate smiled and handed me the book. I feel nothing in my heart. I think it should be like this. So I picked up a red pen and drew a circle on her notebook. There seemed to be problems everywhere, so I drew one circle after another. "Your problem is very serious!" When I said this, I still felt a little proud to find that others had hidden it by mistake. The smile on my deskmate's face froze and asked me what was wrong. I answered one by one, "I think the wording here needs to be discussed ..." "The next paragraph will be better ..." "I don't quite agree with this view ..." I thought about it, but I didn't see that her expression was a bit complicated and embarrassed.

I picked up my notebook and looked at the circle on it. I was a little angry and asked her what happened to this writing. She said that such an example is not very relevant to this topic. I frowned and said that it was almost enough. There is no need to be too entangled.

"Time is up!" The teacher on the stage patted the platform. I woke up from my memory and found that I finally didn't find anyone else to correct me.

The teacher began to shout, then stopped, and there were still whispers around. I vaguely heard someone ask why no one came to me, and another person replied, "She is strict with others, but she will not restrain herself with the same requirements." She is strict with others and tolerant of herself, and no one wants to be with her. "

I bowed my head silently.

Somehow, I suddenly remembered the volleyball match I happened to watch yesterday. Although I don't know the rules, I can understand the excitement and loss of the players. When team members make mistakes, it doesn't mean comfort and encouragement. When he made a mistake, he regretted it very much, became nervous, and became more serious and cautious.

Be strict with yourself and be lenient with others.

When I recall what I did in the past, a chill rises in my heart. Maybe that's how the gap between me and my classmates is formed.

I don't know how to make up the past, just to change the future.

I pulled my deskmate's sleeve: "Last time, I'm sorry." Looking at her puzzled eyes, I didn't explain anything, just smiled.

Be strict with yourself and be lenient with others. The idiom "Be strict with yourself and be lenient with others" means that we should be strict with ourselves and be lenient with others.

Zhang Xie once said: "People are often careless." It means that people who are good at talking about others rarely look at themselves. This is a truth. Whenever we see someone else making a mistake and being punished, there are always some people around us laughing at the punished person. If these people can put themselves in others' shoes. This wouldn't have happened. "See the sage Si Qi for introspection", so before talking about others, we should reflect on ourselves and see if our shortcomings are the same as others.

However, can you restrain others by being strict with yourself? Wei Yuan once said, "A gentleman should serve others with virtue, but not with virtue." It means that people with high moral character are always strict with themselves in small matters, but they will not be strict with others in small matters. For example, Sun Jing, who was fighting on the beams, and Tai Su, who was suffering from hardship, were strict with themselves, but not with others. In fact, many times we can find that all gentlemen are generally kind-hearted and tolerant of others. Every little man, when he sees others make mistakes, is like a death warrant, clinging to it and being very harsh on others. Therefore, as soon as we see that one person is very demanding of another person but very relaxed about himself, we can conclude that your character is not very good.

In a word, being strict with yourself and being lenient with others is the principle of being a man. Only in this way can we make progress and live in harmony with others.

Be strict with yourself and be lenient with others. In life, we should have more eyes to discover the beauty of others.

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In our daily life, being strict with ourselves, discovering the beauty of others, paying attention to their bright spots and praising others may make our life better.

"People who are good at discussing others often ignore their own observations": People who are good at discussing others often seldom look at themselves. Often not better than others, isn't it better to put these energies on yourself? Only by being kind to others can others be kind to you. Only by tolerating others can others tolerate you. The relationship between people can become more friendly. Only a broad-minded person can make better friends; Only those who are strict with themselves can achieve a better self.

Discovering the beauty of others will sometimes help us develop our strengths and avoid our weaknesses, make up for our own shortcomings, and learn other more useful knowledge, so as to broaden our knowledge and make some good friends. Isn't this also the benefit of "being lenient with others"? Kill two birds with one stone, why not? Right? Isn't this also "the ruler is short and the inch is long"?

"Be lenient with others" is the highest realm of being a man. Confucius once said, "In a threesome, there must be a teacher." That's what it means. There are some contradictions between students, and it is common to do some embarrassing things. However, we must learn to understand others, so as to be "strict with ourselves and lenient with others".

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The ocean is the widest in the world, and the sky is wider than the ocean, and people's hearts are wider than the sky! Therefore, we should be friendly to everyone around us in order to get friendly treatment from others.

Be strict with yourself and be lenient with others. Today I found myself with a serious problem. That is, while I am good at discovering beauty, I often find flaws in what others have done. And it is easy to produce a feeling of dissatisfaction. But when I think about it, I will make the same mistake. There is no perfect person. Setting too high standards and expectations for others is a selfish emotion.

Let's get back to the point. We are often strict with ourselves and lenient with others, resulting in a sense of satisfaction and self-satisfaction.

In fact, this and that will often make us more and more "disappointed" with our friends and more and more satisfied with ourselves. You can't make yourself excellent, but you lose the value of friends and friends.

"Be lenient with others and be strict with yourself" is also a euphemism. It is easier to change yourself than to change others. If you treat others with strict requirements, you will not only make others feel the same disappointment, but also bring trouble to yourself. Only narrow-minded people will ask others with their own standards and ideas. We need to be strict with ourselves in study style and living habits, but when we get along with others, we should treat others with a tolerant attitude, learn to be tolerant and friendly, and forgive others. In a word, we dominate our own lives, but we don't dominate others.

After discovering that I am "not broad enough", I also hope that I can remind myself many times in the future, think from the perspective of others, and strive to be strict with myself, instead of dominating others and setting double standards for others.

Finally, be strict with yourself, be lenient with others, and be self-disciplined and calm before loving others.

Be strict with yourself and be lenient with others. A gentleman treats his body with fine lines, not with fine lines. -Wei Yuan. People with high moral character will only be serious and strict with themselves in small matters, and will not ask for help in small matters. This shows how important tolerance is. A gentleman is always strict with himself from every bit of detail and does not cling to the shortcomings of others. Tolerance is not only important, but also needs each of us to do it.

Everyone has heard the story of Lin Xiangru and Lian Po. Lian Po wanted to hit Lin Xiangru because he refused to accept him. Let Lin Xiangru know, for the sake of the overall situation of the court, he chose to back down. In the end, the story of "offering a humble apology" came into being. We can also deeply feel the bearing and atmosphere of Lin Xiangru. It is said that a gentleman's heart is as wide as the sea. So, isn't Portugal a gentleman? Similarly, we admire Lian Po's courage to admit his mistakes. It can be seen how powerful tolerance is. This is an open-minded realm of life, but also a respectable way of being a gentleman.

In today's society, there are very few people who can be "strict with themselves and lenient with others". "Be strict with others, be lenient with others" has become the most common phenomenon. Forgive others, others will appreciate you, and you will be appreciated by others. In this way, the contradiction is naturally solved. At the same time, tolerance is a kind of grace, wisdom and atmosphere. This is the practice of the wise. If we have more mutual understanding and tolerance in life, why should we worry that we don't have a very harmonious and beautiful society? Isn't it a good thing to let others see their tolerant side? ……

Let's choose tolerance, learn to tolerate others and learn to be a wise man in life.

Be strict with yourself and be lenient with others. Whether it is advice or severe criticism, it is one of the ways to treat others, that is, guiding evaluation. This way is one of the driving forces of social progress. However, no matter who and what we are commenting on, we should be strict with ourselves and be lenient with others.

It is precisely because that lady can't do this that she makes jokes. If she can be tolerant of others, she won't pay attention to her neighbors' lives all day and forget her shortcomings. If she can be strict with herself, she won't blame others for the stains on her window. Therefore, it is a habit to be lenient with others, and it is an attitude to be strict with yourself. The two are closely related.

The habit of tolerating others is the foundation. Because we are too ignorant when growing up, we often need patience before accepting new things. It's the same for people. Blind comments will lead to irrational thinking and wrong understanding. Treating others with leniency as a habit can fully communicate with others and cultivate a way of rational thinking. Qian Xuesen once led a group of young people to study nuclear physics. One of the students' qualifications is biased and his appearance is dull, which really doesn't look like a scientific researcher. But Qian Xuesen has no prejudice and teaches every student with his heart. That student is Yu Min, the "father of hydrogen bombs" in China. This shows that only by tolerating others can we achieve ourselves and others.

Being strict with yourself is a simple attitude. When people grow up to a certain stage and have a certain understanding, they will be strict with themselves for progress. Historians often equate the development of history with a person's growth. Looking back at history, the Qing government took action only after discovering foreign advanced technology and being insulted. Even in the Paleolithic Age, gatherers would strictly demand that they learn to plant, and gradually became the first generation of farmers because of their livelihood. Compared with now, personal development is more inseparable from strict requirements for oneself. When Da Peng first arrived in Beijing, he was just a handyman of Sohu Company. His only job was to convert the competition music into digital format, but he strictly required himself to work late after work, and eventually he gradually became a director with hundreds of millions of assets.

The habit of being lenient with others gives us room for rational thinking, which will give birth to an attitude of being strict with oneself and then promote personal development. Haruki Murakami once said that everyone has his own way of life. When other people's lifestyles are different from their own, they will be angry and sad when they are the same. This is human nature, but it does not prevent us from developing the habit of tolerance and demanding attitude towards ourselves.

"Choose its good and follow it, and change its evil. In the past, my understanding of the second half sentence was to correct the other party's mistakes. Only after learning did we know that Confucius wanted us to learn from others and always correct ourselves. In fact, we should be strict with ourselves and be lenient with others.

Be strict with yourself and be lenient with others. "Be strict with yourself and be lenient with others" is an idea and proposition of the ancients. To build a harmonious society, carry forward the humanistic spirit and explore new ways to cultivate self-cultivation, we must remember to be strict with ourselves and lenient with others.

Be strict with yourself and be lenient with others, or be strict with yourself and be lenient with others. This seemingly simple word game is just a rearrangement of combinations. In fact, the meaning is very different.

Nowadays, many of us always like to blame others. This is not that or that, and we always refuse to forgive others even a little mistake. For myself, it is too generous, and no matter how big the mistake is, it is not a problem. To paraphrase an old saying, Marxism-Leninism is for the people and liberalism is for ourselves.

Nowadays, many people tend to be very demanding of others, but they never ask themselves how they are doing. Look at the internet. Once something happens, everyone will attack it, and the overwhelming abuse has been endless. However, how many people can remember to reflect on themselves often?

Criticism and self-criticism, even this fine tradition, have long been forgotten; Instead, it is praise and self-praise, but the latter is more. Self-praise is self-boasting, which is by no means a sign of self-confidence.

No one is perfect, and ordinary people will inevitably make such mistakes. Forgiving others is actually being kind to yourself. Maitreya, a potbellied Buddha. A big belly can hold things that are hard to hold in the world.

The breadth of a person's mind represents his generosity, which can also be said to be a measure. For a long time, there has been a very ridiculous rumor that "a small number of non-gentlemen are not husbands" and many people say that "a small number of non-gentlemen are not poisonous and not husbands". This is obviously not an accidental slip of the tongue, but just represents the inner thoughts of many people. Those who have "degree" are gentlemen, while those who have "poison" are villains. Unfortunately, many people would rather be villains than gentlemen.

It may be easy to blame others, but it is really difficult to reflect on yourself! Many people choose not to be strict with themselves and be lenient with others, but to be strict with themselves. They always look at other people's shortcomings with a microscope, but often turn a blind eye to their own misconduct. This is a very bad atmosphere, and we should still strive to advocate a good tradition of being strict with ourselves and being lenient with others.

Let us be more tolerant. For society, others and the environment, this is the foundation of building a harmonious society.

Be a little more harsh. To oneself, to oneself, to selfishness, this is the source of motivation to improve self-ability.

Be strict with yourself and be lenient with others. Is it not good to be strict with yourself and lenient with others?

Be strict with yourself and be lenient with others. The noise around me seems to be separated from them by a thin barrier. I bent down slightly and kept rubbing my hands, at a loss.

In class, the teacher asked the students to evaluate each other's compositions, and the students suddenly flew into a rage and kept screaming. I waited for someone to invite me like last time, but reality gave me a heavy slap. I hold a notebook and feel annoyed and wronged. I can clearly point out their mistakes and give better suggestions. Why didn't anyone come to me? Just like last time.

last time

Hey, just admit it, and don't find anyone else. My deskmate smiled and handed me the book. I feel nothing in my heart. I think it should be like this. So I picked up a red pen and drew a circle on her notebook. Seeing that there were some problems everywhere, I drew a circle and a circle. Your problem is very serious! When I say this, I still have a little secret pride in discovering other people's mistakes. The smile on my deskmate's face froze and asked me what was wrong. I reply one by one: I think the wording here needs to be discussed. The following paragraph will be better. I don't quite agree with this view. I said what I thought, but I didn't see that her expression was a bit complicated, and some of them stopped talking.

I looked at the circle with my notebook, which was very annoying. I wrote her a letter and asked her what was wrong with it. She said that such an example has nothing to do with this topic. I frowned and said that it was almost enough. Don't worry too much.

Time is up! The teacher on the stage patted the podium, and I woke up from my memories and found that I still couldn't find anyone else to correct me.

The teacher began to stop, and there were still some whispering voices around. I vaguely heard someone ask why no one came to me, and another person replied, "She is strict with others, but she has different requirements for herself." She is strict with herself and no one wants to be with her. "

I looked down silently.

I don't know why, I suddenly remembered the volleyball match I happened to see yesterday. Although I don't know the rules, I can understand the excitement and loss of the players. When their players make mistakes, they will not hesitate to comfort and encourage themselves; When I made a mistake, I regretted it, became nervous, and became more serious and cautious.

Be strict with yourself and be lenient with others.

I felt a chill when I recalled what I had done in the past. Maybe the gap between me and my classmates was born like this.

I don't know how to make up for the past, so I have to change the future.

I pulled my deskmate's sleeve: I'm sorry about last time. Looking at her puzzled eyes, I didn't explain anything, just smiled.

Be strict with yourself and be lenient with others. 1 1 "Be strict with yourself and be lenient with others" is a well-known maxim. This sentence is quoted from and circulated in Zengguang Xianwen: "blame yourself for others, forgive others."

Self-discipline and patience are not only one of the traditional virtues of the Chinese nation, but also one of our important codes of conduct. If there are contradictions and differences between people, and if we can all "blame ourselves, forgive ourselves and others with a sense of responsibility", we can all turn hostilities into friendship and reduce quarrels and disputes.

There is a lady who always complains that her wife who lives opposite her is lazy and there are always spots on her clothes. It was not until one day that an observant friend came to her house that she found that it was not that the wife opposite was lazy and could never wash clothes, but that the windows in her house were too dirty.

In daily life, people always quarrel, complain and even fight over trifles, but they can't treat them with tolerance. Tolerance is actually a realm of life, just like Maitreya: a big belly can hold things that time can't hold, and kindness often laughs at ridiculous people in the world. Therefore, as long as you have a tolerant heart, life will smile at you.

Sidney once said: there are many such occasions in life, and what you intend to achieve with resentment can be achieved with forgiveness. In life, many people's way of doing things is precisely "being strict with themselves." They are generous to themselves and can do anything, even if they are wrong, they are not ashamed. Even if you do something wrong, you are not ashamed. But the requirements for others are extremely strict, because a small mistake of others can be chattered for a long time.

"Treat people with saints, treat people with ordinary people", demand others with saints' standards and demand yourself with ordinary people's standards. It is difficult for such people to get along well with others because they don't know what "forgive others" means. They only know that it is the most selfish behavior to demand others with the most demanding standards and treat themselves with the most relaxed standards.

Tolerance is a virtue, but also a kind of life wisdom; Tolerance is an attitude towards life and a philosophy of life. Tolerance is a kind of confidence and calmness. Tolerance "is great" contains a kind of understanding, consideration and sympathy. Tolerance can solve people's difficulties, make up their mistakes, develop their advantages and forgive their shortcomings.

The mountain forgives the water and becomes more beautiful. Shui Yuan lang son blocks his own flow and becomes more winding. Throughout the ages, how many people of insight and ambition, their strictness and tolerance in exchange for a harmonious and beautiful interpersonal relationship and a thriving career. How many ordinary people have exchanged their tolerant mentality for health, longevity, peace and happiness.

"People have to forgive too much, but they can't forgive themselves; I have to endure my humiliation, but I can't bear it on people. " Since ancient times, "be lenient with others and be strict with yourself" has been praised by sages and even ordinary people as the norm and belief of being a man, and it has become a part of the traditional virtues of the Chinese nation, and it is also regarded as our glorious norm of being lenient with others and being strict with ourselves.

Forgiveness is a silent education. To say the least, let's be a wise man in life!