#report# Introduction Psychological growth refers to the process of individual psychological growth and development. The psychological growth of psychological counselors specifically includes the improvement of self-acceptance and self-awareness of psychological counselors. The following is a compiled self-psychological growth report for reference only!

Chapter 1

Since Freud, "psychology" has gradually become a word that can be ignored but cannot be lost among the people. More and more people are also involved in the study of psychology. Psychology will become an indispensable part of people in the future world, playing a decisive role in medicine, theoretical research, war and peace.

After studying psychology classes for four weeks, I have a new understanding of psychology. Among them, the one that impressed me the most is the psychological effect of people in the process of interpersonal communication: the primacy effect. , recency effect, halo effect, stereotype effect, stereotype effect, projection effect. However, what impressed me most was the halo effect and stereotype effect.

First of all, let’s talk about the halo effect. The so-called halo effect, as the name suggests, is to judge whether a person is good or bad because of his good (bad) side. The official explanation given online is this: The so-called halo effect means that when we evaluate others, we often like to start from a good or bad partial impression and spread out an overall impression of all good or all bad, just like the moon. Like a halo (or halo), it gradually spreads outward from a central point into a larger and larger circle, so it is sometimes called the halo effect or moon halo effect.

Personally, the halo effect was very common to me when I was growing up. My high school is a key high school in the city. Although I am not a student in the experimental class, I am still surrounded by masters. I often look at these people who are excellent in learning with admiration. They are often people who have both speed and accuracy. At first, I thought these people should be "three good students" who are excellent in all aspects, so I also made friends with them, and I would take the initiative to ask them questions I didn’t know, and they were happy to answer them.

As my ideological consciousness improves, my enthusiasm for learning gradually emerges. I will spend more time and energy than them to solve problems that they have already solved, although the process is very difficult. , but with my unremitting efforts, my results have gradually become equal to theirs. Just when I thought they might be happy with my progress, I found that was not the case. When I go to them again, they will always avoid my gaze or simply ignore me on the grounds of studying. This is especially true when my test scores exceed theirs. It was at this time that I understood the meaning of the sentence "No one is perfect, and no one is perfect." Whether a person is "perfect" or not cannot be judged by one facet. Of course, when I see other people's scores exceeding When I or others receive praise, I will also feel jealous and long for myself to receive similar results or treatment. As the saying goes, "The observer is confused, but the observer is clear." In the process of interacting with others, we should look at ourselves and others objectively, that is, we should see both the advantages and disadvantages of others, and we should be able to see from ourselves. Do you have similar problems yourself? If others can put forward pertinent opinions, you should accept them humbly to guard against the negative effects of the halo effect. At the same time, you can also use the halo effect to increase your own attractiveness. When interacting with people, we can use a preconception strategy to let the other person understand our strengths and gain a positive evaluation.

Next, let’s talk about the stereotype effect. The meaning given on the Internet is this: when we understand and judge others, we do not understand the individual as an isolated object, but always It is to regard him as a member of a certain type of person, which makes him have both personality and personality. It is easy to think that he has all the qualities of a certain type. Therefore, when we generally classify people into fixed and general types to understand them, stereotypes are formed. As we all know, "Rampage" is a very popular online program among young people. It uses current popular discourse to evaluate the weird and weird things happening all over the world. This program once reported: "Jiangsu's college entrance examination is the most difficult among the country's college entrance examinations. It can be called a hell mode." As an examinee from Jiangsu, I naturally felt a sense of superiority when I arrived at school, and I naturally felt that The level of candidates from other places is far inferior to our Jiangsu candidates.

This feeling is especially evident in the placement test at the beginning of the semester. But maybe this is just limited to English. As I got to know them more deeply, I found that they were not actually "not as good as us" as the society calls them. The inferiority may just be the difficulty of the exam, but a person's learning ability cannot be determined solely by the difference in the exam system. Evaluative. Gradually, I found that their personal maturity was far greater than that of our Jiangsu students, and they seemed to be very open-minded, cheerful and sunny. In comparison, we seem too "quiet". I think the candidates in Jiangsu have shown two extremes - one who only knows how to study, and the other who only knows how to play games. For this In society, there are really very few people who have a clear understanding of the future. Maybe this is what is called the stereotype effect in psychology. Evaluating a person in isolation based on external evaluation may be similar, but everyone is different. However, it does not mean that the stereotype effect is really useless. Everything should be viewed objectively. The stereotype effect allows us to have an overall understanding before getting to know it, but we must not take it for granted, let alone develop a sense of superiority. I think there are differences between people, because everyone is unique, but a person's learning ability cannot be judged based on a test.

For me, college is both an end and a beginning. No one will care about all my previous failures and successes here, unless I care. What I want to do is: do my own thing seriously and learn more knowledge to enrich myself. Everyone has different ideas. Maybe some people want to play games that they have never played before, maybe some people want to have a vigorous love in college, but no matter what, I think we need to stick to the word "two words" and never leave my side. brothers and friends. Of course, this requires me to constantly examine myself and others objectively in the process of getting along with my roommates and friends. Maybe I am not the best, but I must live a life without any regrets. I will no longer be as lifeless as before. I will live a sunny and positive life every day in the future. Fighting!

Chapter 2

Analysis of personal strengths and weaknesses

Being sincere, warm and kind, helpful, liking to cooperate with others, and tolerant and understanding are my five qualities An outstanding advantage; it is also a personality or code of conduct that we strive to practice. I have always regarded the famous saying of the successful master Li Jian, "Unity of knowledge and action" as the motto of my life. I also believe that sincerity, seriousness and kindness are the most basic principles for dealing with people. I always believe that when I take the world seriously, I will eventually be richly rewarded. Lack of leadership, lack of thinking before doing things, impetuousness, lack of decisiveness, and suspicion are the five shortcomings that I urgently need to improve. This is probably the fundamental reason why I didn’t join a club or organization. When I went to college, I felt that I didn’t like doing these things. This was also limited by my own personality. Everyone has what they like, don’t like, and are good at. I'm not good at it, but I will change it slowly.

As for the lack of thinking and impetuousness in doing things, for example, when I decide on something, I will do it quickly without any hesitation before doing it. Suspicion and lack of trust may be due to the environment, which molded me into that kind of independent child who believed in myself in everything. I believe that as long as I work hard, these things will definitely change and be improved. This is also the direction in which I will work hard in the future.

When it comes to treating others, it is usually easier for me to discover and appreciate the advantages of others. At the same time, I can objectively evaluate others and accept their shortcomings. When I get along with others, I will respect others, including others. The thoughts and behaviors can better communicate with others. My friends all think that I am easy to get along with, kind-hearted, caring and compassionate, and have a strong sense of responsibility. According to the classification of temperament, I should be a phlegmatic person with slightly sanguine characteristics. He is quiet but not taciturn, and his emotions can be controlled and released; he is calm and thoughtful when alone, and warm and friendly when socializing; he has a serious attitude when studying, listens attentively in class, and completes exercises in a timely manner after class.

In the psychology class, the most memorable thing is the movie "The Wanderer" played in the class. The movie tells the story of the judge who believes in such a philosophy: "The son of a good man must be a good man; the son of a thief must be a good man." He's a thief." He recklessly judged people's crimes based on blood ties, and eventually separated his wife, but fate made the judge's son Raz and the judge meet again.

Pure love, absurd family affection, and feudal hierarchy are intertwined, and we seem to be afraid to face the duel between law and conscience. In such a feudal society, the sincere relationship between Raz and Lida moved everyone. We will accuse the judge of his outlook on life. His mentality seems to have become unhealthy in that twisted society, so that what we see and hear about him is extremely ferocious.

If I analyze it from a psychological perspective, I see a human being who has got into trouble and shouts his philosophy. The son of a good man must be a good man; the son of a thief must be a thief. We think this is ridiculous now, but I think we are also in that context, and perhaps it is inevitable to have this inhumane idea. Just like we can't understand the many left-leaning mistakes in history, we think the Great Leap Forward is ridiculous, but it does exist objectively. Once the human mind is led into a situation, it is stuck there and it is difficult to escape.

Therefore, we need to establish correct values ??and outlook on life, and face study, life, and work with a clear understanding and a positive attitude. Nowadays, college students are faced with many small ups and downs in their lives, such as failure in the election, breakup of lovers, financial difficulties, failure in exams, punishment for disciplinary violations, etc. Can we face it with a positive attitude? Now Facing the final exam, most people are at a loss and don't want to fail, but it is too late to study on their own. In the season of graduation and breakup, lovers are struggling with whether to stay or leave love and bread. I spent money lavishly, lost my newly bought mobile phone, and was in a hurry for money, but my parents had already called me a lot of money, and I was really embarrassed to ask for it again. When we face these things, we need to deal with them rationally from ordinary times, and we cannot improvise to avoid failing the exam. Whether you can handle these things well is also a sign of whether your mental health is up to standard.

Facing it calmly, a butterfly needs pain to break out of its cocoon, and a pearl needs pain from an oyster to grow. The same is true for our lives. Therefore, when Heaven is about to entrust a person with a great responsibility, he must first strain his mind, strain his muscles and bones, starve his body and skin, deplete his body, and mess up his actions. Therefore, tempting his heart and forbearance will benefit him in a way that he cannot. . Setbacks give us pain, let us remember the pain, learn from the pain, and become more courageous in the setbacks. The rainstorm is coming, find where the umbrella is. Don't wait for an umbrella to be delivered. When encountering setbacks, don’t ignore your potential because of temporary panic and helplessness. Don’t blindly wait for external help. Try to use this crisis state to stimulate your potential and use positive pressure to make your study and work more efficient. Efficiency! Always maintain a strong desire for knowledge, develop multi-faceted abilities, and improve your own quality. Maintain a good mood and don't give up learning. Knowledge will give us a kind of precipitation from the inside out.

When facing troubles, love, and small frictions in the dormitory, being involved in these troubles, it seems that all the thoughts are pulled away, and the whole world is full of troubles. The smart way is to learn to make choices, learn to understand, try to think about the problem from the other person's perspective, and don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you. This kind of thinking mode will help us learn to be willing, and will also gain spiritual peace. Don’t be arrogant when you win, don’t be discouraged when you lose, don’t be crazy about joy, and don’t be endlessly worried. Excellent psychological quality is a necessary condition for talent development. In the face of this ever-changing world, the ups and downs of the stock market, the diversity of values, and the impact of news and public opinion, only people with mental health can deal with it calmly. We must also pick up weapons mentally, pick up an AK-47, sweep away those human weaknesses that can be overcome, show our courage, put forward a good attitude, and then be optimistic and positive to create a better world. At the same time, this It will also be the most severe test for psychology!

This is my psychological growth report. I have never encountered big storms in my life, but I think the gains are quite exciting.

Chapter 3

Time is like a naughty child, slipping away from our fingertips inadvertently. This is the 19th year of my life. Now I live an optimistic life. Looking back on every bit of my past life, I still have some feelings. Maybe everyone's life experience is different, but I think everyone's life will always be full of joy, frustration, joy, difficulty, and touching... They are like beating notes that weave my beautiful dreams and gorgeous life , the world is beautiful and the road is bright. I would like to thank my parents and all the people who care and love me. They have given me strength and support in my life so far.

When I was young, my childhood experiences and life are intermittent in my memory, and I can’t remember almost a lot of them, but there are a few things that I remember very clearly and have never forgotten. In my memory, my childhood was very short, but happy. I was born in an ordinary rural family, and my parents both worked for a living. In my memory, my parents worked very hard. They worked at night and rested during the day. They were very tired every day. Although my family is not rich, my parents work hard to make me live a good life. The first thing that comes to my mind when it comes to delicious food and nice clothes is always me. I still remember the first time I entered kindergarten. At that time, I was one of the children who gave the teacher a headache. On the first day, my mother took me to the kindergarten. It was very novel at first, but when my mother was about to leave, , I started to be unhappy, rolling on the ground, crying and not letting my mother go. I still remember that I was the child who made the most noise. It can be said that the other children were very good that day. I was the only one who made such a fuss. I knew in my head that what I was doing was wrong, but I couldn't control myself. I tried every means to keep my mother and let her take me away. But in the end, I still stayed in the kindergarten and my mother left. From that moment on, I Gradually I realized that I can’t always do whatever I want like I did before kindergarten. The world still has its rules, and it’s common to change to a new environment. What I have to learn is to adapt, and what I also understand is that dependence will not What makes me grow up is to learn to be independent and live a good life.

When I was a child, my father treated me as a treasure. When he was at home, he would take me to play everywhere and carry me around the village. The most memorable time was when I wanted to eat ice cream and bread, but I was afraid. Eating too much is not good for my health, but he bought it for me in the end, pinched my little face and told me to eat less. My father was also watching to prevent me from eating too much, and then secretly agreed with me not to do this. Tell mom. Since my parents both work night shifts, my grandma will usually pick me up and drop me off when I go to kindergarten. If I'm lucky, I can meet my parents who are coming home from get off work in the morning when they go to school. Every time they come back, they will bring something fresh from the city that I haven't eaten before. stuff. Because they were very busy at work, they couldn't take good care of me. I still remember one night when I had a fever. Fortunately, my relatives sent me to the clinic for treatment in time. When my mother heard about this, I saw tears in her eyes. There is her self-blame and distress. At that time, I was actually not at all sad that my mother was not by my side to take care of me, because my parents had to go to work to earn money and were very busy and had no time. Thinking about it now, after all, you can't have it both ways. They worked hard to earn money and let me live a good life. It was already very hard. I understand them very well and know that they love me very much, and I also love them very much.

Junior high school was a turning point for me. In the first semester of the first year of junior high school, I still lived as usual, with mediocre grades and an ordinary life. There was also no lack of concern from my parents and family members. I live on campus, but I have to go back every Friday during the holidays. My father works night shift, but he will take time during the day to come to school to pick me up even if he doesn't sleep. This day-to-day life was suddenly broken in the first semester of junior high school. That day was also a Friday. Originally, this was the day when my father came to pick me up from school, but what I waited for was my uncle coming to pick me up and take me home in advance. The news was something I had never even thought about, my father passed away. Because I wanted to work hard to make money so that we could live a good life, I worked day and night, went to work at night, and couldn't rest during the day. My body was always in a state of fatigue. Myocardial infarction took my father's life. At that time, I felt that my whole world had collapsed. The father who used to take me everywhere was no longer there. The father who used to buy me ice cream quietly had left. The father who used to treat me as a treasure would no longer be there. Yes. My mother and my father had a very good relationship, and my mother couldn't accept my father's death at the time. This was the first time I saw my mother cry so heartbroken. But life must go on. In my heart, my mother is a very strong and good mother. After my father passed away, my mother took on the burden of the family. I see my mother's hard work and feel sorry for her. In order to let my mother worry less and reduce her burden, I began to learn to be truly sensible from then on, and I also gained a lot of motivation in study. I used to have mediocre grades in the class, but with my final efforts, I got the best result in the high school entrance examination. When I was a child, I was the first in my class and was admitted to a better high school with better grades.

In addition to thanking my mother, what I also want to thank in my heart are my friends and classmates. I was a very quiet person at that time, and my father’s death made me close myself even more. It is my friends and classmates who accompany me. They chatted with me, gave me the most sincere concern and care, and accompanied me through the most difficult time. Because of their company, my personality was no longer withdrawn, and I gradually became lively and optimistic to face life. I learned to be strong, optimistic, and sensible. I know that life must go on. Live every day seriously, and life will give you hope.

In high school, I came to a new environment to study. The unfamiliar environment allowed me to slowly adapt to it. Due to family financial reasons, my mother found a stepfather for me when I was in high school. But things are always not as good as expected. My uncle is okay with me, but he is still a little alienated. He is a high-minded person and is not willing to work for others. If he goes to work, he will get bored doing anything. Later I found out that he likes gambling. The gambling family started quarreling. Compared with the warm and harmonious family environment where my father was always in before, it was a huge difference. I couldn't accept such a noisy family environment for a while. When I go home and do homework at night on weekends, I am afraid of hearing them quarreling. Sometimes I sit on the stairs, biting my lips and crying, motionless. I don’t know what I am afraid of. I was in my third year of high school at that time, and I began to be afraid of returning to that home. I spent most of my time in school. I usually contacted my mother through phone calls to understand the situation at home. Sometimes I heard my mother say that she and her uncle had quarreled recently. What about the family's finances? When I was in school, I was always worried about my mother and my family's situation. When I was approaching the college entrance examination in my third year of high school, I was under a lot of pressure. I felt like I was having trouble every day. Maybe it was because I was too nervous or stressed, or maybe it was because of my family. The reason is that the results of the college entrance examination were not very satisfactory. I did not get into a university that I was very satisfied with. I just exceeded the first grade by a few points. The college entrance examination was still a bit of a blow to me, but I didn't choose to repeat it. I just took it as it came, and I chose to face it.

The first semester of college was a low point for me. Perhaps it was because I had not fully recovered from the shock of the college entrance examination. When I was a freshman, I was not interested in anything and did not study well. , I am not doing well in making friends, my family is not going well, I feel like everything is in a mess, and I feel like I can’t do anything well. If I didn’t do well during this period, I would naturally get bad results. I failed one subject in my studies. I felt very uncomfortable with such a result. At the beginning of the second semester of my freshman year, I made up my mind to do well on my own. When planning my college life, I can't live in such a hazy state. Don't shrink back. I have to work hard to adjust my mentality and lifestyle. Listen carefully to the lectures in study, actively participate in meaningful activities in life, make more friends, do not care about others, and be willing to accept criticism from others. I believe that if you treat others sincerely, you will always gain sincere friendship. I saw this passage on the Internet: To realize one's value requires constantly pushing oneself, perfecting and improving one's ideological morality and cultivation, so as to become an excellent person. This requires strengthening many aspects. First, persist in reading and reading. Read good books, read more, and have conversations with great souls, so as to improve personal accomplishment and determine your lifelong learning goals. Second, learn to make choices and treat others with tolerance. Third, improve your personality and maintain a positive and optimistic attitude. I think it’s quite good, and I will try my best to go in that direction.

Now I am on the right track compared to my freshman year. In the days to come, I will actively study, broaden my horizons, and evaluate myself and others relatively objectively. Use your own eyes to carefully observe the people and things in the world. Be proactive, act regularly according to the plan, and achieve it bit by bit. Success comes from every small step on the way forward. Don't imagine that you can reach the sky in one step with good luck, so you should focus on your short-term goals and believe that you will be able to achieve that great goal in the end. Persevere and work hard to achieve your goals every day. No matter how small your achievements are, maybe they are growth! Today, when you understand some principles of life, you can look back and re-examine your growth experience and discover what setbacks you have suffered in the past. , Pain is not completely worthless, on the contrary, it has far-reaching meaning. Now, I have more tolerance and understanding of the people and things around me, and I am no longer obsessed with personal gains and losses. Therefore, some people say, "Behind setbacks and pain is the space for growth."

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Speaking of my personality, my feelings are more sensitive and delicate, so I am more emotional towards other students. Maybe a small word can touch me, but generally I don’t. I will show it, but I will think about it a little in my heart. People who meet me for the first time will think that I am a quiet and shy girl who doesn't like to talk. However, this is not the case. I just understand one sentence: Of course, this is true. It’s not like this on purpose. Maybe it’s because of some experiences that my personality has become like this, but after being together for a long time, everyone thinks that I am a warm, cheerful, optimistic girl who loves to laugh and has a sense of humor. . I have always treated the friends around me with sincerity. I think they are worth making friends. After going through some things and my father’s death, I know how important the word cherish is. I cherish everyone who passes by me. People, cherish the time we spend together, cherish this hard-won fate and emotion, and be grateful to everyone who appears in my life.

I have been cheering for myself along the way. , I am stronger than I thought. In the face of some setbacks and sufferings that have not happened to me, when I think about it happening to me, I will definitely say, if this happens to me, I will definitely not be able to bear it. But when a real tragedy happened to me, I realized that the sky was not falling. I gritted my teeth and went over. I took a look at where I came from and saw clearly the deep and shallow footprints of growth. Growth needs to be experienced and felt by ourselves. , in this process we will keep falling, but we need to keep getting up. Every time we get up, it proves that we have grown up a little bit, joys and sorrows, birth, old age, illness and death, success and failure, are always with us in this world. No one always has smooth sailing, and no one never experiences pain and sadness. Frustration and blows are never scheduled with others. They will come, catching people off guard, and even lingering for a long time, inseparable from others, so I There is no need to unrealistically imagine that it has nothing to do with me. If I face it, it will be solved and I will grow up. What I have to do is learn to smile, learn to grow, and learn to cherish. I will always insist on empathy and self-reflection to improve my character. Through this report, I got to know myself again. Sometimes we really need to calm down and get to know ourselves again. Because by constantly re-understanding yourself, you will realize your own shortcomings and strengths, and you will have a comprehensive understanding of yourself. In the future, you will work hard to correct your moral character, words and deeds, so that you can understand the taste of growth and the happiness of your true self. .