Resentment is actually a feeling of resentment and hatred. Blaming one's situation on people and things around one's side will lead to resentment over time, so resentment is resentment, so how does resentment come about? Bian Xiao's analysis mainly includes the following points:
1, with high capacity, but insufficient capacity.
Pretending to be lofty means that you don't have enough positioning for yourself and don't know what kind of person you are; Lack of ability means limited ability to do things and high possibility of failure.
You can think about it, if people with this mentality have no resentment; Pretend to be lofty and think you can do anything, but when you become an official, you can't do anything. Over time, I began to think, suspecting that someone or something or even some policies failed me and made me depressed.
They never reflect on whether they have any problems. They always blame others, the environment, but not themselves.
2. Self-esteem is too strong and you take yourself too seriously.
People with high self-esteem are often particularly vulnerable, and it is especially easy to walk into a dead end and objectively analyze things; If you take yourself too seriously, you won't look at others. When you are hurt, you blame others, but you don't say it, just stop interacting with them. You are angry.
There is a very good saying: people who are easily angry and miserable are incompetent and timid. They just swallow everything, but they can't vent their anger. In the long run, it will form a grudge. It is wrong to see this, but it is also uncomfortable. They are full of worries and grievances.