Activity goals:

1. Let students understand the misunderstandings that should be paid attention to when making friends, and through activities, eliminate confusion and get rid of misunderstandings;

2. Feel the joy of life and happiness, so as to be kind to everyone around you and every day of your life with a positive and optimistic heart.

Activity preparation:

1. Register as host, identify two of them, and write the opening remarks and transitional language;

2. Ask each student before the meeting Collect and prepare information about middle school students’ friendships and friendships, make free choices, join corresponding topic groups, and organize speech materials;

3. The monitor on duty is responsible for the arrangements before the class meeting. Good venue.

Activity process:

Host 1: The childhood that looks forward to growing up goes away unknowingly, and the teenagers who enter middle school are inspired by the God of Youth one after another, and gradually have the power to possess

My own "mature and grown-up face".

Host 2: The childish figure is shining with youthful glory and full of youthful vitality.

Host 1: Young hearts are surging with the waves of youth;

Host 2: Young hearts are tasting the taste of youth.

Host 1: In this flowery and rainy season, it has brought excitement and surprise to us boys and girls, as well as anxiety and troubles.

Host 2: In this colorful young age, there are more dreams and more hazy "love".

Together: On the occasion of classmates, between men and women - the theme class meeting of "We are all good friends" begins now.

Moderator 1: Today, the main topic of the theme class meeting is: "Getting out of the psychological misunderstandings of classmates' interactions." Before the class meeting was held, students were required to prepare topics and proceed according to pre-designed procedures.

Moderator 2: Let’s first ask the head teacher to speak.

Class teacher: Classmates, I am very happy to see you have grown up. However, you will have so many troubles as you grow up. Today I put before you a hot topic that you

usually talk about - "schoolmates' interactions". I believe you will handle it correctly. I just want everyone to speak their minds

and tell the truth. Leave the rest of the time to the students.

(The leader of each group raises the topic and discusses it collectively. The leader represents the group and summarizes it)

Topic 1: Friendship is close and there is no distance.

Topic Summary: An important condition for establishing good interpersonal relationships is psychological compatibility, and one of the ways to promote psychological compatibility is to shorten the psychological distance between each other.

From this perspective, close psychological distance between each other is a good thing. However, things must be reversed at the extremes. If the distance between two people is too close, it will also make people uncomfortable. This is because in interpersonal communication, everyone requires a certain space, which is called interpersonal space. Because it surrounds this person like a big bubble, some psychologists vividly call it "interpersonal bubble". If the distance is too close, "the interpersonal bubbles will squeeze each other, and their independent requirements will not be met, and people will feel uncomfortable being intruded. It can be seen that on the one hand, people need to communicate with others To establish close relationships with others, on the other hand, they also need a certain amount of exclusive psychological space.

In daily study and life, many classmates once had very good relationships, no matter what they did. We travel together, even when we go to the bathroom together, but the results are often good. They may not last long, or they may gradually become estranged, or they may break up on bad terms, so that some classmates complain that I am very good to him. Why did he alienate me and betray me?

What is alienation and betrayal? To a large extent, the other party feels that the "interpersonal bubble" is "crowded" and wants to try to create some distance. And

Once this attempt is not understood by the other party or even misunderstood, the consequences can be imagined, so the distance is really a very subtle thing, too far, no

OK, but can't communicate; too close, also not possible.

Properly creating a little distance can not only allow both parties to gain sufficient psychological freedom and feel comfortable

and at ease, but can also increase the beauty of distance, thereby making the relationship more harmonious and harmonious.

How to be intimate yet spacious? Some people say that it is absolutely not possible to stay away from each other, because it gives people a feeling of disloyalty to the friendship. But we can

start by adjusting the spatial distance to control the closely related psychological distance. Of course, the most important thing is for both parties to maintain some independence in their daily activities. I will say whatever you don’t want me to say, and you will do whatever I do. Cultivate more independence and less dependence among friends, and you will be free in action, mentally free, and the sense of distance will be appropriate. A moderate distance will make people enjoy the happiness of friendship.

Topic 2: Friendship is harmonious and there is no room for conflict - the relationship between classmates and friends should be harmonious, but what should we do if conflicts occur

Topic Summary: When interacting with classmates The conflict cannot be completely denied and should be viewed dialectically. If a conflict is really unavoidable, just let it break out naturally, happily, and healthily. I believe that after the rain, the sky will be bluer and the sunshine will be brighter. If you have to cover it up and avoid it, then the "boil" will not be able to come forward, and the friendship will only gradually become moldy.

Conflict is not terrible. What is terrible is that when a conflict occurs, we may hurt our friendship because we cannot control our emotions and maintain a clear mind.

In this regard, we must keep in mind the principle that when facing the other party's sudden words and deeds, we should not retaliate in kind, but should adopt an attitude of understanding

and tolerance, control our emotions, and let wisdom govern our words and deeds. Let kindness dominate wisdom, treat each other kindly, and resolve conflicts.

Topic 3: I have a vague feeling for him or her - the problem of puppy love is a common phenomenon on campus today, how should we face it and how

deal with it

Topic summary: The middle school period is a period of laying foundation. There is no direction for what career to pursue in the future. For every middle school student, the future life path is still very long.

Everyone has a long way to go. It is difficult to predict what career you will engage in and where you will work in the future, and as time goes by and life changes, everyone's thoughts and feelings will continue to change. The eternal vows made in middle school often cannot withstand the severe test of real life. Nine times out of ten, puppy love in middle school cannot bear the sweet fruit of love, but can only become the bitter wine of life.

Puppy love among middle school students is often characterized by strong emotions and vague understanding. The reasons for falling in love are often extremely simple and have no solid ideological foundation. For example, some are driven by curiosity and mystery about the opposite sex; some are judged by appearance and are attracted by the other person's appearance and demeanor; some are envious of the other person's knowledge. and talent

; some have a good impression of each other due to chance encounters, etc. The puppy love of middle school students is like sailing into the sea without a compass or a rudder.

The danger of hitting the rocks and sinking lurks at any time.

Therefore, you can actively participate in some recreational and sports activities, cultivate your interest in reading, cultivate healthy interests in these activities, develop hobbies and specialties,

so that excess "youth energy" can be obtained It can be used beneficially and effectively; it can also promote mutual understanding between students of the opposite sex in various activities, learn how to respect the opposite sex, and learn the basic etiquette and ability to get along with the opposite sex; if you receive a love letter, you If you don’t know how to deal with it, you can consult a mental health teacher,

or talk to a teacher you trust and ask them to help you make suggestions.

Class teacher: Students, this event was organized very successfully. The students have almost become experts in mental health research. The conversation just now made by the students

"Three psychological problems in schoolmates' interactions" was very pertinent and the reasoning was very correct.

I think students should understand the fact that the middle school period

is a time when individuals and interpersonal relationships are relatively simple. During this period, students’ interpersonal relationships are mainly with their parents, teachers and peers. People

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There are few direct conflicts of interest between the two parties. If every student at this time can treat others with a natural, frank, equal, and friendly attitude, be able to understand the emotional needs of others, respect the rights and will of others, sincerely praise, and kindly By criticizing and helping others, you will be able to maintain and develop harmonious relationships with others, and gain friendship and the joy of life from them.

Topic: The Times Needs a Healthy Psychology

Teaching Purpose:

1. Let students understand the importance of a healthy and perfect psychology to human growth and life;

2. Understand what kind of healthy psychology a high school student should have;

3. Learn how to face troubles and setbacks, and understand the importance of cherishing and loving life.

Content and form:

1. Prose with soundtrack: Cherish life (read by Lu XX and Fang XX). Please see Appendix 1 for the content.

In response to the current phenomenon of suicide among young students, students will search for relevant cases and present them in the form of programs, so that everyone can understand the meaning of life and help students understand, cherish and respect life. , love life.

2. The content of the collection of humorous jokes (performed by 6 people including Ge XX) is shown in Appendix 2.

In life, something we can encounter anytime and anywhere and use when dealing with others is humor. What gives us the greatest happiness and frees us from much pain is humor. What we understand least and often neglect to explore is humor. Humor and laughter are a potential human instinct, a part of human nervous tissue, and have specific physiological and psychological functions. Sense of humor and laughter are unique and universal functional phenomena of human beings. They are beneficial to physical health, maintain psychological and physiological balance, and give people a relaxed and happy feeling. Through this program, students can improve their survival skills and improve their quality of life.

3. Student Forum: How to face setbacks and failures (see attachment 3)

Three students talked about how to face setbacks and failures through their personal experiences. Since the students have just experienced the high school entrance examination, they have a lot of thoughts on this issue. By asking everyone to write "How to face setbacks and failures" in advance, three representative examples were selected to further help students learn how to deal with setbacks and failures. skills to learn crisis intervention skills for dealing with trauma.

Four. Music and mood: (introduced by Dong XX, the literary and art committee member)

Music that promotes sleep includes: Mozart's "Lullaby"; "A Midsummer Night's Dream"; "The Moon Reflected in Two Springs"; "Autumn Moon over a Flat Lake"

Music that drives away drowsiness: the fourth movement of Beethoven's "Pastoral"

When it increases appetite: Mozart's "Suite"

When you feel tired: Haydn's Suite "On the Water" Music"

When you are in a melancholy mood: Mozart Symphony No. 40 in B minor

5. Saxophone solo "Going Home" Performer: Dong XX

6. Health knowledge: (1) Qualities of successful people

(2) Healthy and perfect psychology

(3) The role of self-confidence

7. Games: Psychological test (conducted by representatives selected from each group led by Lu XX and Yao XX, with the purpose of allowing each student to experience mental health knowledge everywhere)

8. Guitar Playing and Singing: The Glorious Years Performer: Jin XX

Postscript:

During the entire preparation process of the theme class meeting materials, the students learned a lot about mental health under the guidance and guidance of the teacher; at the same time, the sketch During the rehearsal of jokes, talking about feelings, and preparing for the introduction of relevant knowledge, some students who are usually not cheerful and some who are more introverted have been exercised and become cheerful; the students' abilities in all aspects have also been exercised, and they have received unexpected benefits. effect. In order to consolidate the results, we will conduct a series of themed class meetings on "The Times Needs Mental Health" such as: "Cherish yourself, respect others, care for disadvantaged groups", "Cherish family, value friendship, love the collective",

"Respect Nature cultivates a simple attitude towards life" so that students can think about issues of life and death, explore issues of ultimate concern in life, and aspire to be a healthy generation that is full of vigor, wisdom, and pursuit of life ideals. This truly plays the role of mental health education. .

Location: Indoors

Format: Discussion, games

Goal of the class meeting: Today, take on “responsibility” Tomorrow, achieve “ideal”

Class meeting operation demonstration:

1. Opening: The class teacher introduced the management, service organizations and service content of our school’s mental health education. Enable students to master the methods of psychological help-seeking.

2. Mini-game: oral whisper (I had already walked to the station in the morning and found that the sky was a little cloudy, as if it was going to rain soon. I was worried, afraid of rain, so I went back to get an umbrella. Unexpectedly, it was a sunny day again later). Start by whispering from the first person to the last person in the group, and then ask the students to talk about their feelings.

The purpose of this exercise is to understand how truth becomes false; understand that the longer the path of transmission, the greater the distortion. So when you interact with people, if you want to know the true feelings. Be sure not to rely on hearsay; both those transmitting and receiving information are responsible for ensuring accuracy. )

3. Organizational discussion:

Origin: A large number of new faces appeared on university campuses in September, but not all of these young faces were full of smiles. . Perhaps due to abnormal performance in the examination room, perhaps due to errors in filling in the application form, or perhaps for various other reasons, some people feel that they have gone to the wrong place even though they have entered the university - this is not their ideal school! Many students have a very obvious (inner conflict): "I like going to university, but I don't like my university because it cannot be compared with Huda, Central South University, let alone Peking University, Tsinghua and other prestigious universities. "The problems caused by this are: lowered self-expectations and lack of motivation to learn.

What to do? How should you spend your college life in the next few years?

3.1 How to solve the contradiction of “I like going to college, but I don’t like my own university”?

3.2 Why do so many students not study hard?

3.3 You find reasons for yourself, but does life believe in reasons?

3.4 What is the difference between us and our classmates from Peking University and Tsinghua University?

3.5 Is the difference between students from Peking University and Tsinghua University irreparable?

3.6 What are the advantages of our school?

3.7 How do we make ourselves take responsibility for ourselves from now on?

4. The class teacher gives summary guidance:

Life does not believe in reasons, and growth depends on the efforts here and now.

No matter how many mistakes a person has made in the past, as long as he is willing to seize the present and draw resources from past mistakes that are beneficial to future growth, he can create opportunities for himself in a virtuous cycle. This not only avoids the trouble of "young people don't work hard, but old people are sad", but also can fully meet their own growth and development needs.

Notes:

[Class meeting operation demonstration] is for reference only. Each college can design various theme class meetings that suit its own characteristics without violating the purpose of the activity.

Theme Class Meeting 2

Theme: One small step for self-acceptance, one big step for self-confidence in life

Time: April 16, 2006---- ---April 30

Location: Indoor or outdoor

Format: Discussion, games

Goal of class meeting: No matter what my current situation is, I choose Respect the uniqueness of your own life.

Class meeting operation demonstration:

Small game before the class meeting: "Choices when a shipwreck in the ice sea" Facing a shipwreck in the ice sea, the only lifeboat can only accommodate 3 people, and there were 10 people on board at the time People, they are: singers, movie stars, doctors, students, the elderly, children, Miss World, scientists, soldiers, athletes. Please choose which three people should stay and tell them why. Do it twice, first time: regardless of role. The second time: Each person is assigned to play a tenant role. Ask students to discuss each time after completing it

(Key point of this activity: everyone is important).

Origin: During the process of psychological consultation, we found that on the surface, today’s young students have a very high self-esteem, but if you look deeper into their hearts, you will find that they always have low self-esteem in their evaluation of themselves. Swinging between the two extremes of self-esteem and self-esteem, it is especially easy to stay at the point of inferiority. A person who always blames himself and dares not set higher requirements for himself is because he lacks self-acceptance; a person who always blames others and cannot accept others is also rooted in his lack of self-acceptance; and a person can not only be kind to himself, but also be kind to himself. He can also be kind to others. The key is that he can accept himself. To this end, this theme class meeting was designed.

The head teacher opened the session: Self-acceptance is an important trait that constitutes a healthy personality. But students who have experienced strict discipline will ask this question: Will self-acceptance lead to self-abandonment? Wouldn’t it become a complacency? The traditional education model makes us good at blaming ourselves and not good at accepting. I am used to investigating my own shortcomings, and gradually learn to look at myself with a critical eye...

1. How do you understand self-acceptance? Self-acceptance is a natural right that people have. It does not require outstanding merits, achievements, or making changes that others want to be accepted.

2. How many people can accept themselves?

3. Will self-acceptance hinder growth? We know from past consulting experience that many students have a misunderstanding. They are worried that self-acceptance will make them unwilling to make progress, and even think that self-acceptance = self-destruction.

4. Effective ways to achieve self-acceptance

4.1 Stop being against yourself. Let me tell you: "Stop fighting against yourself" means to stop being dissatisfied and critical of yourself.

No matter how many inappropriate things you think you have done or how many shortcomings you think you have, from now on, stop criticizing and blaming yourself, learn to stand on your own side and safeguard the dignity and value of your life.

4.2 Stop being harsh on yourself. Specifically: allow yourself to make mistakes, but you must do the following two points after making a mistake:

4.2.1 Make compensation to make up for the losses caused by your mistakes;

4.2.2 Never make the same mistake twice, that is, never make the same mistake twice.

4.3 Stop denying or avoiding your negative emotions

4.4 Accept yourself unconditionally

5. Please discuss how to be more than just Acceptance, how can we grow better.

The suggestions for everyone are:

5.1 Treat your own weaknesses and mistakes with a constructive attitude and method

5.2 Try to maximize your strengths and avoid weaknesses, Give full play to your strengths, and don’t learn from each other’s strengths unless absolutely necessary

6. The class teacher’s summary and guidance: If we can learn to sincerely accept ourselves, we will naturally accept others.