The 30 golden sentences in Fu Lei’s family letters are as follows:

1. Slowly, you will develop another mood to deal with the past: that is, you can think about it without being shocked, and you can Analyze the causes and consequences from an objective standpoint and serve as a reference for the future to avoid making the same mistakes again.

2. Always covering yourself up, not facing up to reality or the root cause of your illness, and dragging your feet, going on without sunshine or rain, will only cause you greater harm to your spirit. It’s time to find the courage and do a thorough reckoning.

3. People spend their whole lives floating in high tides and low tides. Only mediocre people live like stagnant water. Or you need to have a very high level of cultivation to be able to find no results and achieve true liberation. As long as the highs don't make you nervous and the lows don't make you decadent, that's fine. If the sun is too strong, it will scorch the grains; if the rain is too strong, it will drown the crops.

4. The greatness of motherhood lies not in reason, but in that kind of intuitive emotion.

5. Only art and knowledge never let people down; no matter how much labor, hard work, loyalty and enthusiasm you spend, you will get as much harvest and progress as you can.

6. Try to ignore success or failure as much as possible, just do your best and feel no regrets.

7. Not getting carried away by victory is the best evidence of strength.

8. My child, the terrible enemy is not necessarily a ferocious-looking one. A friendly and passionate friendship can sometimes waste a lot of your precious time.

9. "Everyone is in high tide and low tide all his life. Only for mediocre people, life is like stagnant water." "As long as the high tide doesn't make you nervous and the low tide doesn't make you decadent, that's fine ”.

10. "Pay more attention in the future: when you insist on the truth, you must pay attention to the way, attitude, tone, and tone of your speech. The more reasons you have, the more easy-going your attitude will be. Upholding the truth is an arduous task. Struggle is also education work; it requires good methods, methods, means, and patience. You must not get angry and misunderstand.”

11. A person can only face reality and mistakes. Use rational analysis and thorough understanding, so that they will not be eroded by memories... You must look at these things as the ashes of the soul. Of course, you can't help feeling when you look at them.

12. Be patient. No one will encounter times of depression from time to time, but they will pass soon.

13. The real light is never a time of darkness, but it is never covered by darkness. A real hero is never one who never has humble sentiments, but one who never succumbs to humble sentiments. Therefore, before you can defeat external enemies, you must first defeat your inner enemies. You don’t have to be afraid of sinking and falling, as long as you can constantly extricate yourself and renew yourself.

14. Everyone has shortcomings, including both men and women in love. The problem is not to find a partner with no flaws, but to find a partner who can recognize and admit their flaws, be willing to gradually change them, and tolerate each other at the same time.

15. The most powerful argument in the world is practical action, and the most effective education is leading by example; never ask others for things you can’t do; criticize yourself first for the mistakes you have made. Change your own first.

16. After falling down one after another, as long as you can get up, you will gradually climb to the top and transcend the ego. Bitter tears are the wine that nourishes your soul. People who have not experienced acute pain will not have deep and broad compassion.

17. One night, she advised you to practice again tomorrow. You replied, "Will I still get results like you did?" Of course, it will not work to deal with people's good intentions by counter-criticism. By extension from these small things, you and I must have done a lot of harm to others unintentionally. No wonder others say we are proud.

18. Only fools turn around when they hit a nail on their own, while smart people learn to behave when they see others suffer.

19. As long as it is the truth and a real lesson, whether it is from parents or friends, or from acquaintances, you must accept it.

20. If you suppress your emotions more, focus more on skills, and use your reason more, I believe you will be able to reduce fatigue.

21. Abandonment without fighting is hypocritical, and detachment without suffering is frivolous.

22. "It is dangerous for the other person to regard you as her whole world, but it is also very valuable! Now that you have realized it, you will slowly wake her up: It is better to make insinuations rather than bring it up directly, and also Make her feel that it is to maintain her personality independence and expand her world view.

23. As long as you can be strong, I will be relieved for the rest of my life.

24. You can't do it on weekdays. Too busy. If someone asks you to go out, you have to make up for your homework. This will hinder your energy. It is better to refuse a few times because of your piano practice. If you are not nervous, you should not be too busy; you would rather be free on your own. Think about it quietly...Don't be too affectionate. Sorry. If you don't go out with others during working hours, you won't offend others.

25. I just don't know. Lonely. When a child is lonely, he will create a world and create many spiritual friends!

26. The most important thing for learning is to be "common". Only by being knowledgeable can you not be rigid, pedantic, bitter, or stereotyped. ; Only by "communication" can we cultivate integrity, mind, and vision.

Only by being "common" can one become "big". If one is not big and has no knowledge, there is a danger of sitting in a well and looking at the sky.

27. There is a big difference between writing your thoughts down (whether in a letter or in other ways) than just imagining them in your head. Writing it down requires careful and accurate thinking, so the self-examination written on paper is particularly profound and leaves a deep impression on myself.

28. Art cannot be limited to perceptual knowledge, nor can it be limited to rational knowledge. It must carry out the third step of emotional depth. In other words, what artists need most, besides reason, is the word "love"! The so-called innocent heart not only refers to purity and innocence, but also refers to love! There is a saying in French called "Great Heart", which means "love".

29. Try to ignore success or failure as much as possible, just do your best and feel no regrets.

30. I have repeatedly asked you about your financial situation in the past, mainly to understand your material foundation and to speculate on how long it will take to reduce your performances and strengthen your studies - not just music studies. I understand very well that material life is not guaranteed in Western society, and any lofty ideals are out of the question.

But the so-called material security depends first on your living standard, and secondly on whether you can arrange your income and expenditure, maintain a balance, and save regularly. The standard of living itself can go up or down, and there are countless levels of good and bad, high and low levels. You need to think clearly and thoroughly about which level you are prepared to set.