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A brief discussion on "Tolerance"

The sea is open to all rivers, and tolerance is great." The mind that rejects the big river is so spectacular. Looking at the ancient and modern times at home and abroad, all those who have succeeded in their careers have the magnanimity of "opening up to all rivers" and the virtue of tolerance.

There is such a true story: The boss of a company was so proud of his "knowledge" that if his employees made even the slightest mistake, he severely criticized and punished them severely. Soon, almost all employees resigned. The boss still refused to accept the lesson and continued to do the same thing after rehiring the employees. The result was the same as before, and the employees left him. He couldn't understand, I am the boss, shouldn't my employees be punished if they make mistakes? He didn't understand that due to various reasons in life, Everyone will make mistakes of one kind or another. If you can be tolerant of other people's mistakes and give them a chance to correct themselves, this is the basis for gaining the understanding and support of others. In Chinese history, the reason why Emperor Taizong Li Shimin had the "Reign of Zhenguan" His brilliance is directly related to his tolerance and generosity, and his ability to listen to different opinions. The famous minister Wei Zheng was originally a vassal of Li Shimin's elder brother, Prince Jian. During the struggle for power in the royal family, he encouraged Prince Jian to kill Li Shimin. After Li Shimin launched the Xuanwumen coup and seized power, he ignored old evils and put people according to his talents. Wei Zheng felt that he was "happy to meet a master who knows him well and will do his best". He loyally assisted Li Shimin and made great contributions to the creation of the prosperous age of the Tang Dynasty. .

In daily life and interpersonal communication, there will inevitably be misunderstandings, frictions and conflicts. When encountering this situation, some people will attack each other with harsh words, tit-for-tat, or even fight. The result is that both sides lose more than they gain. , but there is no "gain", only "loss". Loss of friendly feelings, loss of harmonious relationship, and even loss of life. In fact, there are frictions and conflicts. As long as it is not a malicious attack or an irreconcilable contradiction between ourselves and the enemy, we should put ourselves in the other party's shoes. Think, take the initiative to take responsibility and say "I'm sorry". In this way, tense situations and storms will turn into smiles and handshakes, and gentle breezes. Being strict with yourself and being lenient to others are the virtues of being a human being, and they are also the basis for winning the trust of others and ensuring a successful career.

Of course, being tolerant is not about gaining a good reputation. For the sake of harmony, giving up positions and principles, and not even respecting morality and laws, just asking for good for you, me, and everyone is pushing tolerance into the abyss of error. . There is a saying that goes well: Starting from the desire for unity, through criticism and self-criticism, we can achieve new unity.

Tolerance is the highest reward for the tolerant. .

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Talk about "Tolerance"

When queuing up for meals in the canteen, bumps and bumps are inevitable. You were distracted and stepped on someone. I apologize. When others say "I'm sorry", they will understand the meaning and give you a gracious smile or a smile. The clouds are gone and the rainbow is still there.

To be tolerant when getting along with others. Dai Lou Shide taught his younger brother to be tolerant towards others as an official. His younger brother said: "If someone spits in my face, I will wipe it off myself. Lou Shide said: "This is not enough." You wipe it off, or you go against the offending person's will to insult you. I think it's better to let the spit dry up naturally. "As the saying goes, "One step is higher when dealing with things, and one step is a blessing when treating others." This is consistent with Confucius's education of students to be gentle, courteous, and thrifty. A Hong Kong writer has a collection of essays called "Tolerance is a Song," which sold out as soon as it was published. It can be seen that the Confucian idea of ??generosity and loving others still has a strong moral foundation. Therefore, it is necessary to be more tolerant when others are frustrated and fail, and to restrain the residual dreams, indicating the sunrise, when you succeed. Being more humble and less arrogant is also an encouragement to those around you.

So, should we all do the same in life: "A big belly can tolerate things that are difficult to tolerate in the world; "Always smile, laugh at the laughable"? In fact, this is not necessarily the case. We need to make a detailed analysis of the things that are tolerated. We can only "allow things that should be tolerated in the world." For those who are extremely evil, benefit themselves at the expense of others, and play tricks on others. Scum, we must not be as tolerant as Mr. Dong Guo.

I thought it was best to "respect gentlemen and treat villains". For example, when social security is chaotic and hooligans cause trouble, only by implementing a "severe crackdown" and taking effective measures can the safety of people's lives and property be guaranteed.

There is an article called "The villain should not be offended", which I dare not praise. Be gentle and tolerant to bad elements who endanger society. In the end, you will be the first to be unlucky. Here, to apply Lu Xun's point of view, if you are tolerant to him, he will not be tolerant to you; when you suffer disaster, it is not only impossible to tolerate him, but also impossible to not tolerate him.

Life requires tolerance, but tolerating without distinction means a lack of social responsibility.

Without tolerance, people will become dangerous; with blind tolerance, people will become fragile.

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Maitreya Buddha and people

"A big belly can accommodate things that are difficult to tolerate in the world;

A kind face is always there Laugh, laugh at the ridiculous people in the world."

This is Maitreya Buddha's way of life. He uses his big belly to pretend to be things that the world cannot tolerate; he uses his loud laugh to laugh at everyone who can be laughed at. Buddha is able to do this, but for humans, it cannot be just that.

There are many things in the world, big and small, good and bad, and all kinds of things abound. Although the prime minister can hold a boat in his belly, there are some things that are tolerable after all. "What can't be tolerated?" We must be like the Buddha, who tolerates all "unbearable things". Wouldn't blind tolerance suppress people's personality? Tolerance of "unbearable things" is impossible. People have joys, angers, sorrows and joys. , Where does anger come from? Tolerance and tolerance towards criminals will make criminals more arrogant and violate the law more unscrupulously. Of course, no matter how big the belly is, it cannot be tolerated. Maitreya's "big belly can be tolerated" is not without merit. Although some non-principled things may make people angry, we must carefully analyze them with a tolerant attitude and find out the parts that can be tolerated between people. , will make interpersonal relationships develop healthily and harmoniously. From this perspective, tolerance and generosity are also needed.

Maitreya Buddha's "kind face always smiles" seems to be ridiculing and "ridiculous". "People" cannot be generalized. People who are sentimental and ask for trouble should be laughed at; but for other people, such as the emperor in "The Emperor's New Clothes", it is inappropriate to just laugh at them. Although the emperor is ridiculous , but what should attract people's attention is the hateful nature of liars. What's the use of just smiling at them? Therefore, when we encounter ridiculous people, we should see the unforgivable people and things behind the ridiculousness, and then go for it. Call out injustice, call for misfortune, and take it as a warning.

It seems that if you want "everyone to be happy", you can't just "look" and "smile", but you should look at the problem from a correct and far-reaching perspective and punish it. If you can promote good things and promote good things, be strict with yourself and treat others leniently, you can purify the social atmosphere and improve interpersonal relationships, and one day everyone will be happy.

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Tolerance

Before I start today’s speech, let me tell you one thing: two days ago, I lost classmate Wang Chunwei’s pencil case on the ground, and I felt very sad. I felt really guilty, even though I didn't apologize to him at the time. I thought classmate Wang Chunwei must have been very angry, or at least had some thoughts. However, strangely, he still talked and laughed with me the next day, without any intention of blaming me. He told me that losing the pencil case is a small matter, but the friendship between classmates is huge. It is not worth hurting my feelings for this pencil case, not to mention that I didn’t mean it.

I am very worried. Thank you, classmate Wang Chunwei, for being tolerant to me. This is true for many disputes in life. If you can think more about the other person and forgive others' mistakes, you will have taken the first step towards tolerance.

There is a familiar saying: "The sky is vast, but what is broader than the sky is the human heart." "It seems that we have already heard callouses in our ears, but we are often just giants in language and dwarfs in action. How many people in life have the courage and mind to speak from all rivers?

I once praised the same person as the greatest A girl who had a tutor took a taxi together. Because the driver took the wrong route, she grimaced and showed the driver a look.

I was confused. Maybe my conversation in social situations was not as gentle as hers. However, at the moment when the driver apologized repeatedly, I just said from the bottom of my heart: "Forget it, it doesn't matter." Maybe he was not familiar with this area. The terrain is unfamiliar to us, maybe he accidentally drove to the wrong intersection. In short, his job is to drive, just like our job is to study. We have lost a lot of points on the exam paper because of our ignorance, so why go there? How about demanding an ordinary taxi driver and blindly thinking the worst about him?

It can be seen that although tolerance is just a simple word, it is different from "smiling without showing teeth", which can be trained in the short term. Tolerance means understanding others with your heart. Learn to put yourself in someone else's shoes, and tolerance can infiltrate your soul.

I have just said that understanding is only the first step of tolerance. What about tolerance in a deeper sense? We often have to deal with people we don't like, and we often say: "I can't stand this person." This causes you to be incompatible with someone. All of this is often caused by personality incompatibility. I think sometimes the barrier between people is precisely because they cannot tolerate each other's personality or way of doing things. However, imagine who is at fault for the personality incompatibility? Maybe there is no right or wrong at all, the only question is whether there is still room for others around your increasingly expanded self? If you blindly ask others to cater to you and make you get used to it, then it is selfishness and authoritarianism that are getting in the way. If you learn to say: "I can't stand this person, but he also has the right to choose." Then you will have taken the second step of tolerance.

However, the most difficult state of tolerance is to tolerate others being better than yourself. Everyone will definitely ask: "Tolerance, at most, is just tolerating other people's shortcomings and allowing things that are different from one's own to exist. What does it have to do with other people's advantages?

In fact, this is what we are least able to hold on to. The last line of defense is jealousy. Why is he so good? Why is he better than me? If you say this to yourself, then, like many people, you also have pink eye. Just think about it, Daqian. There are countless people in the world who are more capable than you. Success is the reward of hard work, so why should you be better than him? I think those who are ahead of you step by step should get your respect. If a narrow mind cannot tolerate comparison, If you are an excellent person and only respect yourself in your heart, you will never be able to surpass others or yourself.

We should indeed have the good cultivation of tolerance, but if we are blindly tolerant, we will lose our principles. It may also slip from tolerance to indulgence. So how should we draw the line between "tolerance" and "condolence"? When right and wrong are clear, everything is self-evident; but in some cases, this balance is extremely difficult to grasp. Therefore, it is still not easy to fully grasp the "tolerance" section in the big book of life!

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When people interact with each other, it is inevitable that they will When conflicts and differences arise, what is most needed at this time is mutual tolerance and understanding.

Be good at learning to be tolerant. You should not dwell on others' mistakes and never forget them. You should leave others with opportunities to correct themselves. And he doesn't care about the past and helps the other person to make progress together.

So what is tolerance?

Some people say that tolerance is like water, because it can make people calm down and see things clearly. The original reason is that at the same time, I also see myself clearly; some people say that tolerance is like fire, because greater tolerance means not only not caring about personal gains and losses, but also being able to warm the hearts of others with your love and sincerity; others say that tolerance is A poem, because tolerance is not only reflected in the handling of a certain thing in daily life, but is a broad-mindedness that is sublimated to the universe - a poetic tolerance towards people

I admit all of these. "Water" is the way of warmth, "fire" is the connotation of warmth, and "poetry" is the broad tolerance. Tolerance with a calm heart is already rare; tolerance that provides help in times of need is extremely valuable; and tolerance at the highest level is even more touching. , but I believe that tolerance is a manifestation of understanding. Only by understanding others can we tolerate others. There will inevitably be bumps and bumps in life. If you want to live an easier life, you must learn to be tolerant. Forget about learning tolerance, you must first understand.

Tolerance is a virtue, a kind of tolerance, and a lubricant for coordinating interpersonal relationships. However, we cannot blindly tolerate without principles and end up becoming indulgent good people. If the so-called tolerance becomes If you tolerate adultery, wouldn't the world be in chaos? Therefore, tolerance must have a principle and a degree.

Understanding is needed between people. It can help helpless friends gain some warmth in embarrassment and see a little light when mistakes are shrouded in them.

Friends, please remember: the vastest thing in the world is the ocean; the sky is wider than the ocean; but what is wider than the sky is people’s minds

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There is a cloud made of rain in the wind

Far away, at the edge of the sky, a white and elegant cloud rises leisurely. Yun looked down at the earth, took a deep look at his original habitat, a small pool, and then swam in the sky with the wind. The sky is so magical and vast, the sunshine is so kind and gentle, the eagle is so vigorous and brave... everything is so fresh and beautiful, much bigger and better than that small pool. Yun thought in his heart that he must cherish this hard-won happiness.

Yes, it was once just an inconspicuous turbid rainwater in a small pool, keeping company with the pool and making friends with the sand. One day, when the sky was bright and blue, it looked up and suddenly saw a light cloud floating in the sky, and a beautiful longing arose in its heart. Friends kindly asked him to keep him, but he said he was like the arrow from the bow. Friends had no choice but to bless it and told it to come back to them if it got tired. Therefore, this stream of rainwater is willing to endure the pain of sun moxibustion. After going through countless hardships, it takes off its mundane world and floats into a clear and moving cloud in the sky, as pleasant as smoke.

The clouds float freely in the sky. During the day, I occasionally rub shoulders with birds and occasionally say hello to the sun; at night, I greet the stars or chat with the moon. From east to west, from south to north, just like this, the clouds traveled to every corner of the sky with enthusiasm. Floating and floating, one day, the clouds suddenly became aimless. The huge sky itself seemed so small, and a wandering loneliness deeply invaded it. Thinking of the friendly warmth of the sun on weekdays, the cloud longed to follow it, rising with it in the east and setting in the west, and no longer drifting with the wind. However, when it told the sun its wish, the sun said: "No, no, you will cover my brilliant light and become a stumbling block for me." The cloud had no choice but to quietly avoid the sun and wander painfully in the sky. , wandering into a touch of desolation, a bit desolate.

Yun thought about how quiet and bright the stars and the moon were on weekdays, and longed to be with the stars and the bright moon in the quiet night sky. However, it was also politely rejected. The clouds had no choice but to silently avoid the stars and avoid the moon, floating in the wind with the sadness in their hearts, like a fallen flower falling into the flowing water, without direction.

The sun is still shining, the stars and the moon are still shining. The clouds are still drifting in the wind and wandering in the sky.

The cloud vaguely remembered the warmth of the pool, the sincerity of the sand, and a drop of tear falling in the wind. Standing firmly in the sky where he first ascended, a strong desire to return home grew in the heart of the cloud like fire and wind. On the distant ground, the small pool was waiting for it kindly with an unchanged attitude.

Late night.

Cold wind.

The cold rain is Xiaoxiao.

There was a burst of hot stuff falling into the small pool. It was not rain, but the tears of clouds swaying in the cold night.

Under the night sky, a small pool of water is accepting it with its broad and warm mind.

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Be tolerant

There is such a fable in "Li Wengong Ji" written by Li Ao of the Tang Dynasty: two people ride on a national horse and a steed. While driving, the horse bit open the long-maned neck of the national horse, causing it to bleed, but the national horse continued to drive as before. The horse returned home, but it was trembling all over and could not touch grass or water. After the national horse comforted him by touching it with its nose and eating in the same trough, the horse recovered as before.

When I first read this article, I was very angry at the brutality and domineeringness of the horse, and even more so at the incompetence and cowardice of the national horse.

But seeing the final change of the horse, I couldn't help but secretly cheer for the national horse, applaud the tolerant spirit of the national horse, and applaud the harmony and harmony brought about by tolerance.

Tolerance is a silent education. Tolerance will eventually make the person who hurt you willingly or unwillingly go to the dock of the moral court and accept the trial of his own conscience: the horse is exactly the state of mind tolerated by the national horse. I was shocked and blamed myself. This kind of silent education will eventually allow the perpetrators with lingering consciences to be inspired by justice and lead a righteous life. The story of "The Intersection of Lian and Lin" has given us profound enlightenment. If Lin Xiangru was also a small-minded person, and Lian Po was obsessed with every detail, I am afraid that the State of Zhao would have been annexed by Qin Dynasty. It was precisely because of Lin Xiangru's generosity in serving the country regardless of personal interests that he inspired and educated Lian Po and made him plead guilty. The friendship between Lian and Lin made Qiang Qin dare not easily attack Zhao even though it had a large number of troops. Tolerance actually produced an unexpected and huge effect.

The result of tolerance is that a person will go wider and wider on the road of life. "Only tolerance can win people" is indeed a wise saying. Otherwise, it will be difficult and even gradually lead to destruction. The national horse tolerated the horse, and the two horses kept pace with each other from then on, and moved towards glory together. Xiang Yu, who was "strengthening the mountains", lacked tolerance. First, Chen Ping, who often made strange plans, and Han Xin, who was good at using troops, left him. Finally, even his closest "Yafu" Fan Zeng was forced to leave, leaving him besieged on all sides and committing suicide in Wujiang River. ending. It can be seen that only if you truly have tolerance, you will not make enemies on all sides and get into trouble.

Here, we need to learn from the behavior of the national horse: its tolerance makes the horse feel ashamed, and then uses tolerance to comfort the horse and make it a friend. So in a sense, tolerating others is also tolerating yourself, giving others some space, and what you will get will be a blue sky. Let us have this blue sky and tolerance!

The story of the national horse and the steed should become a mirror for people in real life to reflect on themselves and understand others. As the market economy develops and competition becomes increasingly fierce, the relationship between people will become increasingly tense. Isn't there a saying nowadays that "there are no fathers and sons in business"? Once there is a conflict over money, status, reputation, etc., some people will abandon their tolerance, pick up the knife of "an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth" and strike at their opponent. In fact, these people do not understand the meaning of tolerance. Tolerance is like the fragrant orchid in the deep valley, which makes people become more and more fragrant the more they smell it; it is the strong pines on the steep rocks, which makes people become stronger the more they press on it.

Of course, tolerance is not unprincipled tolerance, tolerance that does not look at the target. The objects of tolerance must be "good horses" rather than "bad horses". They must be people whose consciences are still intact and have changed their minds. We must not tolerate the most vicious gangsters and those who violate laws and disciplines.

An old saying goes: Tolerance means greatness, and tolerance means height. Let us have a tolerant heart. Many years later, you will find that on the road of life, you have left behind intoxicating and magnificent scenery.