1 I only believe one thing: only when a person really writes for himself will his works have long-term vitality. Writing for myself, that is, writing for everyone who faces and thinks the same problems as himself, is the only possible way I can imagine to write for mankind. I don't have the consciousness and ambition to "write an eternal article". My consciousness and ambition are limited to writing an emotional article as much as possible and minimizing (inevitable) self-repetition, so it is inevitable to hesitate to write it. It is at the extreme of change and suffering that I can't help but pick up a pen and help myself with truth and lies. The so-called detachment is not detachment from the world, but keeping a distance from what happens to you in the world. With this distance, there will be a vision of the world. In Socrates' words, "the pursuit of a better life must go far beyond life". Socrates' "unexamined life is worthless" is still a wise saying and a belief that a sincere philosopher should have, but we should look at life from a broader perspective. & lt/SPAN>。 The meaning of the word "happiness" is too vague. Almost all people call their unattainable realm "happiness", but the realm that different people yearn for is so different. Sartre's life can be said to be successful. The two things that ordinary people want most, happiness in love and success in career, are almost flawless, but in his twilight years, he said, "Life has given me what I want, and it has also made me realize that it is not very interesting. But what can you do? " & lt/SPAN>。 10 Theoretically speaking, everyone in the opposite sex world may have the best object, a so-called "unique person", "unique person", or "one in a thousand" as Kipling said in his poem. However, life is short, and there is a vast sea of people. The chance of two people meeting is almost zero. If you pin your happiness on this meeting, happiness is almost impossible. However, in fact, love is not so demanding, and there is no doomed marriage. As Mo Luoya said, "If, due to various accidents (according to necessity), one suitor thinks that the unique object never appears, then almost similar love will be felt in another object." 1 1 Maybe love will always be a mystery, and no one can tell what the "only" he expects is like. Only when you fall in love and revel in the bliss of love, will someone shout to your lover in surprise: "You are the one I have been expecting, the only one." & lt/SPAN>。 In the sense of 12, a person can only have one soul-shaking love in his life, and only a few people get this lucky encounter. & lt/SPAN>。 13 Mo Luoya quoted the philosopher Santayana as saying: "Nine tenths of love is caused by the lover himself, and one tenth depends on the loved one." 14 love that is too rational and realistic is not love. The most passionate love always happens between the two most imaginative people, but it is also true that they are also the most easily disillusioned. If ordinary people can't find the right person because of bad luck, then artists are disappointed in love because of high expectations. Idealism in love often leads to Byronic sentimentality, which in turn leads to sentimentalism. Don Juan already has 1003 lovers, but he still hasn't found his "only one". He is destined to find one. 15 I know that there is a kind of truth that can constantly arouse fantasy, and there is a kind of fantasy that can constantly turn into reality. I believe that happy love is a truth that can constantly arouse fantasies and be transformed by the fantasies aroused by itself. 16 Mo Luoya quoted opponents of marriage as saying: "A couple always live by the standards of the more mediocre one of them." This statement can be described as mean. 17 Mo Luoya revised: "In a truly happy marriage, friendship must be combined with love." 18 "Happy families are all similar; Every unhappy family has its own misfortune. " This statement can also be interpreted as: thousands of factors can lead to the misfortune of marriage, but none of them can cause a happy marriage alone. 19 After various interesting discussions, Mo Luoya came to a seemingly ordinary conclusion: Happiness lies in love and selflessness. Kant once put forward four paradoxes faced by reason. We can say that life also faces various contradictions, among which love and loneliness are one. 2 1 Banuyo went to Groues, Bangtai to consult about marriage. He is in a dilemma on whether to get married or not: if he gets married, he will lose his freedom, and if he doesn't get married, he will be lonely again. When the most ardent love is traumatized and returns to itself, people learn to love themselves in loneliness, and also learn to understand other lonely hearts and deep love hidden in those hearts, thus realizing a transcendental happiness. & lt/SPAN>。 If happiness is a paradox, then the solution to this paradox exists in the process of striving for happiness. There are struggles and distress, but as long as there is hope, there is happiness. Transcendentalism is dead, but Emerson's wisdom lives on. The mystery of the universe will not yield to any formula, and no system can be eternal. Society is such a state that everyone walks around proudly like limbs sawed off from the body. Many monsters-a good finger, a neck, a stomach and an elbow-are never alone. Emerson wrote humorously: "docile young people grew up in the library and thought their duty was to accept the opinions of Cicero, Locke and bacon;" They forget that Cicero, Locke and Bacon were only young people in the library when they wrote these books. "I would like to add that fortunately, there were far fewer books in the library at that time than now, otherwise it might not be Cicero, Locke and Bacon. & lt/SPAN>。 There are two kinds of self-confidence: one is independence in personality, despising secular public opinion and utilitarianism; One is that intellectuals are arrogant, always self-righteous and feel good about themselves. So people must be independent in personality. But don't forget the most important thing: you still belong to yourself. The mind is a strange ledger, with only income and no expenditure. All the pains and joys in life are transformed into valuable experiences and recorded in its income column. Yes, even pain is an income. People seem to have two selves. One went to the world to struggle and pursue, perhaps triumphed, perhaps lost, and the other, with a quiet smile, welcomed this crying, laughing, sweaty and bloody man home, and showed him rich trophies, even those who lost. Tragedy is profound, and understanding tragedy also requires a profound mind. All noble feelings are ashamed to express, and all profound experiences are inarticulate. Great mourners mock fate with laughter and teasing, and cover up their sorrows with joy. Clowns may know more about the bitterness of life than heroes. Seriousness is no more serious than dogma is not truth. Truth doesn't need a straight face to increase its authority. Among those serious people, you can hardly find anyone who has seriously thought about life. No, most of them are not thinking about life, but power, not truth, but interest. & lt/SPAN>。 A person who really thinks seriously about life knows the limits of life and reason. He can laugh at himself, be tolerant, and be willing to use a joke to save an embarrassed opponent and teach a serious opponent a lesson. He talked about the truth in a humorous tone, as if deliberately trying to weaken the importance of his discovery and let it only enter the ears of true bosom friends. Especially in the era of the collapse of faith, those crazy people who pretend to be crazy and sell silly are all people who take faith too seriously. Lu Xun was well aware of this, saying that Ji Kang and Ruan Ji apparently destroyed the ethical code, but in fact they believed in it too much. Because they are not satisfied with the use and blasphemy of moral norms by those in power, they vent their inner anger with excessive behaviors that violate moral norms. Skeptics in the history of philosophy generally take the reliability of human knowledge too seriously, but the results are full of doubts. & lt/SPAN>。 & lt/SPAN>。 & lt/SPAN>。 My existence is not a self-evident fact, but needs to be proved, so there is Descartes' proposition: "I think, therefore I am."