Parent-child relationship In many families, the relationship between parents and children is very stiff, especially when children reach puberty. By adolescence, children's sense of independence is getting stronger and stronger, and their inner strength is getting stronger and stronger, and they begin to resist their parents' teaching and disrespect their own ideas. Adolescent children especially need the approval of their parents, and they need to treat him as an adult, a person who can have his own ideas. Although his values are still unstable, his emotions are prone to ups and downs, and many things are also very confused. If parents still think that they eat more salt than their children, and that children are often naive, they must listen to themselves. Parent-child relationship will be rigid and family atmosphere will be depressed. At this time, if the child is more individual and rebellious, the child will start to have various problems. Parents are most concerned about their children's grades, and children will use this as a weapon to fight against their parents, and their grades will begin to decline, indulge in the internet or drop out of school, and even have self-harm behavior. Without investigation and study, children who are tired of learning and drop out of school are basically middle and high school children, because children of this age begin to have the consciousness and strength to resist their parents' dictatorship. If a child already has such and such problems, the first task is not to pay attention to the child's study, but to pay attention to the child's emotions, moods and thoughts, and to accompany the child patiently. Listen to your child's thoughts and respect his thoughts. Even if you think it is incorrect, children will avoid many pits when taking detours. When a child's idea may be incorrect, you just need to remind him to take responsibility for his actions. Often, bad things will make children grow up and cultivate their sense of responsibility after correct guidance.
Teacher-student relationship. I talked with a junior high school student yesterday, and the senior high school entrance examination is about to take place. My mother is very anxious, and her children's grades are not satisfactory, although they go to the best school in our district. In the whole process of tutoring children, I will always be you, don't you think? what do you reckon ? I won't directly tell her what the correct answer is. If the child can't answer, I will review the relevant knowledge points about this problem with her again, because the topic is endless, but the principle of solving the problem is fixed. Only by mastering the essence of the problem can we solve all kinds of test questions with ever-changing forms. Most importantly, as long as she answers correctly, I will definitely affirm her with a positive tone, express my appreciation and emphasize that her basic skills are very good. With my encouragement and affirmation, I had a pleasant conversation for nearly two hours. Then her mother gave me feedback. She thinks my class is very good and looks forward to giving it to her next time. In fact, I know very well that her teacher level in key schools is definitely good, but it doesn't make her feel good. I think the main reason is that teachers only pay attention to grades. There must be many excellent children in good schools, and teachers pay less attention to children with poor grades. Her mother once told me that her daughter especially dislikes math teachers, and as far as I know, this math teacher is a famous teacher. This famous teacher is probably famous for his teaching. He is an excellent teacher, but not an excellent educator. Engineers of human souls, more importantly, should influence children's souls and guide them to have positive values and vitality. But today's famous teachers, if they prepare lessons carefully, still give priority to imparting knowledge and ignore spiritual education.
There are also relationships between husband and wife, friends and colleagues ... we should all deal with relationships first and then deal with things. Harmonious couples, close friends and happy cooperation between colleagues all need good relations. Relationship is greater than everything!