First, a concept "circle" is put forward, that is, the scales draw "ranges" and "fields" according to their own standards; In this circle, with the distance from the balance (please pay serious attention to this phrase), the balance presents people with extremely different images.

well, in a simpler way, it can be divided into four levels: far, middle, near and extremely close.

"Far": To quote a famous saying by Oscar Wilde, "One can always be kind to people he doesn't care about". If you feel that a balance is graceful, courteous and elegant in front of you, even if you feel that he is "attentive" and "thoughtful" to you, please ignore it automatically. This is a habit. You are at least 1, kilometers away from the balance world now, even if you are only 1 meter away. "medium": familiar. Never think that you are familiar with a certain "balance" just because you have known it for 1/2 months. The familiarity of the balance definitely needs to be calculated by "year". Maybe during this time, he will text you frequently and call you constantly, as if he "loves" you, so please ignore it automatically, because it is their habitual ambiguity to prove their "charm" index. Why do you do this? Because you haven't entered his world, their social circle is ambiguous with people who are basically "strangers" to them, and they feel safe. Note: If within 1-2 months, the balance turns from hot to cold, and then there is an unexplained "missing" and "breaking up", and then no matter how you stay, you don't contact, or even there is no sign of replying to you at all. Please forget this person, and it is useless to entangle again. For some reason, you will never have the opportunity to enter the next level. "Close": After getting along for 2-3 years, after some things, what you see is still not the real him. He may talk to you about his worries and his own anguish, but! ! ! Those things are not what he really cares about and values most. However, at this time, the balance will care about you, support encouragement and praise when getting along with you, make you feel very safe, and even feel that he seems willing to be responsible for your future, or he begins to promise you. However, please ignore it, because the forgetfulness of the balance is great. The more sincere you say it, the faster you forget it.

"Very close", if one day, you suddenly find that the familiar beautiful "angel" balance suddenly turns into a "devil", and your attitude towards you changes from heaven to hell, as if it were another person. Congratulations! You finally really entered the world of "balance", and what is the real balance world like? Please turn all his "advantages" presented to you before into "antonyms" automatically. This is painful, painful and painful (because of personal experience), but please cherish it, cherish it all the more, and cherish it with all your patience, tolerance, understanding and love, because this is the most precious gift that the balance can give you-"trust", and he finally trusts you and can finally remove all the disguise in front of you. Show your true self, which he thinks is the least beautiful, the least elegant and the last thing he wants to face. At this moment, he will have you in his heart, and he will no longer "say" any "promises" to you, but he will definitely regard your happiness as his responsibility.

But (I think my "but" is a bit of a blow), don't think that this is love, because the essence of scales is never to believe that there is such a thing as love, and scales have no life, so it is impossible to really have the emotion that "human beings" can have. They are definitely the most indifferent constellation to the so-called "love" among the 12 constellations. Everyone says that Libra can't live without love, wrong! ! ! What they can't live without is "identification", not "love", but in their view, love is the greatest "identification" that other 11 living species can show! !

The person I love most is Balance. Why do I put "love" in quotation marks? Because I finally understand that to love them in their way, they need "love". The love of Balance is completely different from what we know. What I want to say is, "it is not easy to love the scales, but it is not easy to really love anyone."

article 1: the essence of the balance:

first of all, the balance is not a "human", it is a precise "humanoid" machine; This is a description of Tianping people's perception and way of thinking. I believe that there is fate. Everyone looks up at the stars. When you are born, those stars will brand a special mark on your soul through the distance measured in light years. And these marks will influence your personality under unpredictable circumstances, and determine your destiny by shaping your personality. Libra's perspective on the world and emotions is completely different from that of other 11 constellations. Because "there is no life", their understanding of the outside world is through "analysis and calculation" to draw conclusions, not from "feeling" Scales never believe in "feeling". Especially when deciding on marriage or letting a person into life, Libra will never make a decision based on the illusory "love". When he proposes to you, he has definitely done a lot of investigation, analysis, balance and preparation that you don't know. Therefore, almost no balance will truly "fall in love at first sight", and when a balance will "fall in love at first sight" for someone, it also indicates that this will probably be a short-lived feeling. Because this too strong emotion will make this precise instrument "unbalanced", and the result of "unbalanced" is to make the balance feel extremely dangerous and produce more "analysis and calculation", which is similar to the feeling that the system has insufficient memory and then crashes; In the end, the balance gave up, because at that time, he still regarded this so-called lover as a "stranger" and did not need to take responsibility; This is helpful for us to understand the indecision, "coldness", cold violence and even habitual ambiguity of the balance. They just need to collect, test and analyze a lot of information to decide what to do with you!

Secondly, the balance does not have "humanity", but has "physical property". Therefore, he will be confused and unfamiliar with the complex, illusory and uncalculated "feelings" that life can have, so he will feel afraid.

Many people say that the balance is "cold" because of their inner "inferiority complex". In fact, the balance is extremely narcissistic, and their hearts are very, very proud. If you don't mean to hurt their self-esteem, they will remember it clearly. The reason why people feel that they will subconsciously retreat, alienate and avoid is just because they don't understand, and for things they don't understand, the scales will have fear and naturally choose to disappear from self-protection.

second, what is the love of scales?

what is the love of scales? In fact, it is not complicated, and the love of scales is a "weight".

Libra is usually very clear about what they want, or what is their happiest and safest feeling and state, far more than any other constellation. They will put this "requirement" as a weight in a weighing pan, and in the process of getting along with you, everything you give him will automatically evolve into a weight and be weighed in another weighing pan.

The most perfect condition is balance, and only when this condition is reached can they get along with you for a long time and give themselves to you with confidence.

If you understand this, you may understand that there are many seemingly incomprehensible behaviors in the process of communication. For example, Libra's refusal, for example, why so many Libras say that they will never return to grass, all because the test results prove that those people have been "eliminated" and they will never reach the balance that Libra wants.

Also, why Libra is only suitable for long-flowing love? Many people say that you can't be too kind, too enthusiastic and too eager to catch up with Libra. Of course, that will damage the whole system. Well, the question is, if Libra sets the weight of the so-called "weight", when will it increase and when will it decrease? Which degree is the damn "balance" he wants?

Chapter 3 How to Love the Balance

On the other hand, it is not easy to love the balance, but from another angle, it is also easy, because:

1. Libra is extremely kind, and they will never intentionally hurt others. Please believe that if they do, it is only because they "don't know the rules" and they are not deliberately playing with their feelings.

2. Even if you can't be a couple with Tianping, if you can get their trust, you will get more loyal and reliable friends than couples. They will treat you as a relative and take care of you all their lives.

get to the point, how to love the scales?

1. Don't change, just be yourself. Don't become like that just because you think Tianping likes something. In fact, Tianping has a wide range of hobbies. They will like ladies, but they are more likely to be attracted by rebellious girls. Just be yourself and show him your truest appearance; Moreover, most scales are extremely smart, and "pretending" can't fool them.

2. be firm. The sensitivity of the balance actually comes from his need for constant balance, and if you can treat him with firm love at every moment when he is about to be out of balance, his balance will never be out of balance. Of course, they don't believe in so-called "verbal" love, but only believe in your actual efforts and actions.

for example: different places. For example, he mentioned to Tianping that he wanted to live in his city, but he "pushed three obstacles and four obstacles" and even began to play missing and use cold violence. That's because he can't "bear" your future and life, and his balance will definitely be out of balance. But if at this time, you can firmly tell Tianping that I love you, so I want to be with you. Besides, I have found a job in your city, rented a house, booked a plane ticket, and you will meet me at the airport on Wednesday. I think the balance will appear at the airport on time and hug you.

3. Don't guess. Don't guess what the balance thinks, let alone let the balance guess what you think. Balance's perception and way of thinking are different from ours, so he will understand and accept what he has to say directly. What kind of "species" is the balance?

4. Finally, talk about some basic attributes necessary to love scales.

Kindness is the most important.

Patience, the scales are generally super invincible and impatient, which requires the patience of the other party;

Be independent. Don't try to cling to him, let alone pin your future on him. The balance is unbearable. The only result is to force him to leave.

Firm, the balance swings from side to side, but you can't, the balance is insecure, you must give him a sense of security;

Guardian, only when he finally becomes his guardian, can he feel at ease to give you custody of this fragile and sophisticated instrument, so that you may never lose him.