In this life, nine out of ten people will be unhappy.

However, whether it is bitter or difficult, it all belongs to oneself after all and has nothing to do with others.

No one in this world can truly empathize with your sadness and anguish.

Sung in the song "Holding Hands": Because I love your love, and because I dream of your dreams, I feel sad with your sadness and happy with your happiness.

Because I have passed your path and suffered your hardships, I am happy with your happiness and chase your pursuit. ?

Those romantic beauties, in reality, are just ordinary firewood, rice, oil, salt and chicken feathers.

Modern women have long since awakened themselves and no longer regard it as a virtue to abandon their own dreams for the dreams of others and to humiliate themselves for the sake of others.

Be a woman who is not easy to mess with. Get angry when you should be angry. Forget when you should forget. Live your life truly and wonderfully.

01: A woman who is not easy to mess with is not dependent on others

Writer Shen Jiake said:

The truth of life is that regardless of gender, most of the people in life Sometimes, you need to accompany yourself.

Those women who live wonderful lives are never dependent on others.

Even if she was born into a good family, married a good husband, and had enough material and capital to depend on her family, she would still choose to be an independent flower, relying on her own abilities to bathe in the sunshine and withstand wind and rain.

Even if she has a fortune, she is still willing to have a job of her own, not for making a living, but for her independent self.

Because they know that only by being independent in thought and economy can they be their own queens.

My colleague’s husband owns a big company, lives in a big house, has a luxury car, and has a nanny, but my colleague still goes to and from get off work in a low-key manner.

Someone asked her, if your family doesn’t lack your monthly salary of several thousand yuan, why do you still have to suffer this?

She said that work is not only a means of making a living, but also a dignity and a sign of a woman's independence.

Although the salary is not much, it is earned by oneself and spent with confidence.

Only a woman who is independent in thought, financial independence, and not dependent on others will truly shine with independence.

Women with independent abilities are not easy to mess with.

With this ability to not be attached to others, even if life is not so rich, you will definitely be able to live a pleasant life; if you have money, buy better things, if you don’t have money, buy worse things. Things, as long as you put your mind to them, you can live a poetic life in ordinary life.

The self-confidence and independence in one’s heart will never be humbled by being attached to others;

The light in one’s body will never be humbled by being attached to others. dim.

02: A woman who is not easy to mess with, does not follow the crowd

In "Sister Riding the Wind and Waves", the 48-year-old Ning Jing has become famous all the way, and she is in a state of confusion.

When performing, she looks cool and cool.

When she first came to the program, the director asked her to make an introduction, and she directly said: Do you want to introduce yourself? If they don’t even know me, then my decades of work have not been in vain! ?

When being interviewed, he said domineeringly: Of course I want to debut in C position, I must be in C position. ?

Such an arrogant attitude once caused netizens to question: He is old, has a bad attitude, and is not easy to mess with.

Some netizens even said why she is so cool?

Behind not being trivial is of course strength!

Director You Xiaogang said: The Empress Dowager Xiaozhuang created by Ning Ning is one of the most satisfying characters in the Secret History series for me. ?

After the tranquility, there will be no more Da Yuer!

Her acting skills, her singing skills, and her dancing skills are all impressive!

The following performance allowed her to prove herself again:

The reason why I am so cool is because I have this strength!

The reason why I am so stubborn is because I never follow the crowd!

She is like this, free and unrestrained, hardworking and persistent!

A strong woman does not follow the crowd, always follows her heart and is her truest self.

Although men in the world like women who are as gentle as jade, they prefer women who are hard to mess with, do not follow the crowd and have their own opinions.

03: For the rest of my life, be a woman who is not easy to mess with

In the hit TV series "Only Thirty", Gu Jia, played by Tong Yao, is a very happy and perfect woman .

Her husband has a successful career, her children are cute and well-behaved, and her family is happy and envied by many people. This is the happiest look for a woman.

However, she ostensibly retreats behind the scenes and is a full-time wife and housewife.

But in fact, she secretly takes the lead in everything:

In order to help her husband's company obtain resources, she relies on many people to get into the circle of rich wives by buying designer bags;

When her husband's company offended someone, she quietly went to deal with the aftermath;

When her children were bullied at school, she went straight over and beat up the two parents;

A female subordinate wanted to seduce her husband. She knew the clue from an orange. Using a box of oranges and a private conversation, she domineeringly said to the female subordinate: Use more brains at work! Stop thinking wrongly! ?