In the transitional period from children to adults-adolescent junior high school students are in a period of contradiction and confusion in their outlook on life, values and interpersonal communication. Therefore, as teachers, we should understand, encourage and respect our students and help them grow up healthily and happily from the psychological problems they face. The following are some counseling strategies that meet the characteristics of young students and have achieved good results. Examples are as follows.
Strategy 1: Listen to the flowers in the psychological weekly diary.
Psychological diary is a window for teachers to understand students' hearts, a way for students to vent their emotions, a means for students to record their growth footprints, and an important way for teachers to know themselves, communicate with teachers and students emotionally and promote class management. Adolescent students think a lot and are eager to communicate with others and pour out their feelings.
The topic of psychological weekly diary can be decided by the class teacher, and the Chinese teacher can also encourage students to express their true feelings in combination with writing, such as? Teacher, I want to tell you? 、? Speak from the heart? 、? What if I am the head teacher? 、? After the exam? 、? Growing pains? And so on, can also be played by students at will. The head teacher should communicate with the students in a sincere and timely manner with an equal attitude according to their problems.
Student: I'm afraid of every exam result. Why do I always get bad grades in the end? I'm a loser, a real loser. Sometimes, I have an idea in my heart, if only I hadn't studied. I don't feel confident to write here. Once again, I felt difficult to breathe, and my mood suddenly became heavy. In fact, on the surface, I seem to be overbearing and irritable, but in fact, I have strong self-esteem. But every time I see the teacher, I feel that I am a poor student in the eyes of the teacher. I came to this school only to learn knowledge and enter the university. Maybe this is a dream? Teacher, I don't think you know me at all.
Head teacher: I'm really sorry. It is entirely my responsibility to make you feel this way. If a teacher can't understand his students, he must be an incompetent teacher. If a student can't tell his inner feelings to the teacher, he must be a very failed teacher. I don't think I want to be one of them? Poor? Healthy. I asked the teachers what they thought of you. They don't have the discrimination you said, really not. On the contrary, they are more impressed by your efforts. So, maybe it's your guess? Learning depends not only on efforts, but also on methods and confidence. A person can lose everything, but confidence can never be lost. If you accidentally throw it away, please bring it back at once. Actually, these words are addressed to you and me. I may not be worthy to be your class teacher, let alone your friend, but I have been trying. Let's work together, shall we?
Strategy 2: It is undisguised to confide in young people's minds.
This is similar to group counseling in psychological counseling, and it is based on the common problems of some students, such as inferiority, lack of self-confidence, or emotional confusion and communication difficulties.
Student A: I have always thought that I am not a lucky person and have a strong sense of inferiority. I think life is so dark, so I don't have much hope for my future. Teacher, in fact, I have long wanted to say to you: can you talk to me more? "Since I entered junior high school, I have always felt very lonely and can't find better friends. Every time I see a conversation between my classmates, I always think of playing with my classmates in primary school.
Head teacher: I'm afraid I'm in the same boat with you. I also feel unlucky, but I don't feel lucky now, because many students in our class support me and are willing to communicate with me. Really, I really want to talk to you.
Student B: Teacher, I like talking to teachers since I was a child, because teachers appreciate me very much, because I am a frank person. Maybe you haven't found Mr. Zhang yet. I always feel that you don't pay attention to me at all.
Head teacher: Maybe I was careless and didn't care enough about you. Please forgive me. We really need to understand each other and create a harmonious atmosphere. This is my pursuit and our common hope.
Student C: Teacher Zhang, let me ask you why I can't see your smile. I hope you can smile. Otherwise, it will give people a sense of fear. Thank you!
Head teacher: Sometimes, I feel lonely. I think that's because I'm on the opposite side of everyone. Now I want to return to the team and everyone as a whole. I don't want to be a teacher or a student. I just want to be a sincere friend.
Strategy 3: Open your heart in psychology class and walk together.
Psychological class meeting is the spiritual collision that the class teacher directly faces all the students. At the class meeting, we should give full play to students' initiative, enhance the interaction between students, and properly use some psychological topics and skills to guide them.
To tell the truth, we should trust and support, but also be tolerant and understanding. It's a bit like holding a press conference or talk show on TV, asking students and teachers to give up their worries, take off their masks and face themselves and others sincerely.
Student: Miss Wang, you are the head teacher of our class and a member of our big family. You are always so amiable and caring about us. Your voice is usually too low, so is your teaching. This prevents you from establishing prestige among us. Perhaps this is your greatest weakness.
Head teacher: Thank you for treating me as a member of this family. Thank you for pointing out my weakness. To tell the truth, I'm afraid I haven't understood everyone yet. Prestige may come from sincerity, understanding and communication.
A teacher said to me: those students can't give them a good face. Even in class, they must always keep a straight face.
I tried to do it, but all I saw was everyone's cold face, blurred eyes and closed heart. I don't think this is what I want to do or what everyone wants to see. I hope all of us can get along with each other sincerely, understand each other, communicate frequently and spend this youth happily.
[Psychological Debate] The contest of wisdom and the collision of hearts are mainly to correct students' cognition through debate, such as? How about men and women at the same table? ,? Does puppy love do more harm than good to middle school students or does more harm than good? wait for
[Example] Does puppy love do more harm than good to middle school students or does it do more harm than good?
[Objection] Love can satisfy emotional needs.
Emotion makes people fall into the narrow circle of their own world.
[Opposition] Love helps to understand the opposite sex.
[Founder] restricts communication with more members of the opposite sex and cannot really understand the opposite sex.
[Objection] Communication is romantic.
Facing the friction and frustration in communication, the coordination ability of middle school students is limited. Facing the pressure of study, how to solve the contradiction?
This can also be used as a method of self-debate, teaching students to struggle by themselves, so that students can take the initiative to use it in their later lives, calmly analyze things, and know how to do it wisely and how to do it better.
[Psychological activity] Feel the team and enjoy it. Psychological activities can not only vent bad emotions and soothe mental trauma, but also promote students' intellectual development, enhance their psychological quality and improve their socialization.
[Example] Advantages The big bombing made students stand in front of the podium. Modesty? Listen to everyone's praise, students use it? Advantages? As a bomb, take turns to fight? Bombing? The game requires only advantages, not disadvantages. In this relaxed and happy atmosphere, students can cultivate their optimism, ease the tension in interpersonal relationships and learn interpersonal skills.
[Example] Psychological story solitaire? Story solitaire? There are two kinds. One is that the teacher makes a beginning, and then each student says a sentence to make a story. The other is that the teacher writes the first half of the story, and then the students discuss the second half in groups. There is a competition, which requires team members to cooperate and compete in groups.
The class affairs of the consultation meeting are discussed by students, and then decisions are made. Students participate in the discussion of class affairs as protagonists, so that their decisions can be accepted and implemented more easily.
Psychodrama performance can reveal problems through performance. Give the students a mirror and group the classes. Each group will hand out a piece of paper with open scenes written on it. Role-play the following scene and let the students discuss it.
Such as: scenario setting:? The mid-term paper was handed out. My deskmate got 96 points and I got 62 points?
The first performance requirement: two people get along very unhappily (through verbal or nonverbal communication)
The second performance requirement: two people live in harmony, and the same table is willing to help you.
Ask the students to discuss: Why does the first communication method make them get along very awkwardly? The head teacher's analysis is mainly jealousy, which shows dissatisfaction and jealousy with others' strengths and achievements, even cynicism and even immoral behavior. As for the solution, he mainly learned to praise and appreciate. Some students said this. Let me hold your hand and share the happiness of your success, or give me a little aura of your study and a little light?
Strategy 4: Psychological aphorisms face up to weaknesses and make the starting point of youth more beautiful.
For students who are in their youth, due to the bipolar nature of emotions, they often need constant psychological training.
Personal Motto Everyone should have his own goals (short-term goals and long-term ideals), write a motto for his own shortcomings and put forward his own action plan.
The impulsive person wrote: Take a step back and broaden the horizon.
Violator: People make mistakes not because they don't understand, but because they think they know everything.
Not long-lasting: the pyramids are made of stone.
Distracted person: study harder, grasp the center, and be more specialized than miscellaneous.
Class? Weekly motto? Write a class motto on the blackboard every week to encourage everyone. Mottos can come from individuals or be created by the collective. Such as: today's work, finished today, act immediately; Self-love, self-esteem, self-confidence, self-discipline and self-improvement; Learn to be a man, be aboveboard and open-minded; There is no such thing as failure unless you stop trying; You won't succeed forever unless you keep working hard.
Strategy 5: Psychological training Smile always ripples on the face of youth.
Psychological training is an important way to improve students' psychological quality, relieve psychological pressure and promote their psychological growth. We often adopt the following methods.
[Relaxation Training] Relaxing the body can relieve psychological stress and sense of psychological crisis. Take three deep breaths, then relax, and pay attention to the meditation in your mouth one by one according to the order from top to bottom and from front to back? Relax? And slowly realize the feeling of relaxation. This kind of relaxation training should be practiced frequently at ordinary times, and can be used to relieve tension at any time in case of any major event (such as speech test, etc.). )
[Smile Training] Smile is the catalyst of good interpersonal relationship and the best way to make people feel happy. You can experience your inner feelings with external training. The more external imitations, the deeper the inner feelings. Ask students to smile in front of the mirror for ten minutes every morning, even on weekdays? Mouth up? Keep a confident smile. After a while, you will get unexpected results.
[Mental image training] Choose a comfortable posture, and after completely relaxing, let the students recall their childhood psychology. What did they care about then? What do you like? what do you think? We should see ourselves growing up, knowing a lot of things we didn't know in the past, experiencing a lot of things and improving our ability. Then we should imagine our future experience, and constantly let students learn to praise themselves and their psychological advantages in personality, thus forming a positive psychological image.
Mental health education requires helping others to help themselves, which has two meanings. On the one hand, we should help students learn to help themselves and achieve psychological growth; On the other hand, teachers should help themselves in the process of helping students to help themselves, and constantly discover the problems existing in their own education and teaching management, so as to promote the continuous improvement of their mental health level and quality, always keep a young heart, really grow up with students, and make beautiful youth excited and young hearts fly!
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