Ah ah ah, I was so beautiful in a few photos early in the morning that I couldn’t contain myself~~Has the little girl Huang Duoduo from "Where Are We Going, Dad" grown up to be this beautiful?

He is indeed the child of Huang Lei, the former Yan King! Of course, another highlight is: Duoduo dyed her hair.

In recent years, whether adolescent girls can dye their hair and whether they should dress up or even adopt a mature style has been a question that has been discussed repeatedly among parents.

13-year-old Huang Duoduo demonstrated with his actions: I have the final say in my hair.

The beautiful photo was posted on the evening of the 22nd by Sun Li, Duoduo’s dedicated stylist. Duoduo’s dedicated stylist in recent years also wrote: “Sister’s new hair color.” In the photo, Duoduo is wearing a lavender T-shirt. Wearing a short black skirt, tilting her head and smiling sweetly in the mirror, her newly dyed purple shoulder-length hair is simply the most fashionable and fashionable.

As expected, online reviews immediately exploded. Some people said to Huang Lei, "My father-in-law is here, please accept your respects from my son-in-law." Some netizens questioned, "Is the school allowed to dye hair at the age of 13?"

Of course, some netizens explained that Huang Duoduo is here This is an international school and hair dyeing is allowed.

But many netizens are still reluctant to let go, questioning whether Huang Lei is letting his daughter go. What to do if you learn to fall in love early? Some netizens said that my father would have broken my legs if I dared to dye my hair. This sentence caused many netizens to scream.

How parents in the entertainment industry raise their children is a perennial topic. Huang Duoduo, an adolescent girl, has always been at the forefront of trends. She started getting her ears pierced at the age of 9, and then started wearing rings, learning makeup, and dyeing her hair. She has almost become the opposite of many Chinese-style parents' education.

The strange thing is that she seems to have grown up along with her nature. The famous saying of Chinese parents - "I am doing this for your own good" seems to have never appeared in her life, but she has He has grown up to be the best among his peers. Not only is he well-behaved, sensible, versatile, speaks fluent English, and has strong independent abilities, he is also becoming more and more charming as he grows older.

So how many Chinese parents did 13-year-old Huang Duoduo slap in the face with his purple hair?

How many people have heard the saying "Girls love to dress up but don't study hard" when they were young? This is really a familiar educational quote, right?

But after seeing Huang Duoduo’s growth experience, it will be strange: How can she do it?

Huang Duoduo’s classic dressing-up story is that she had her ears pierced at the age of 9, and it was Sun Li who did it herself. At that time, people said that a mother should slap her daughter when she sees her ears pierced. Beat her until she can't find her way to the point where she can kneel down and reflect? Why are you still taking photos with joy? It seems that Huang Lei's education is really not good.

The stories about how Huang Duoduo dressed up came one after another. Not only did she wear rings and makeup, but she also wore clothes that exposed her navel. It can be seen that Huang Duoduo’s precocious puberty has always been criticized by the public on his journey to be beautiful. focus.

Of course, what most people are worried about is Huang Duoduo’s studies.

But now it seems that Huang Duoduo's studies are the least to worry about. When he was taking "Where Are We Going, Dad", he could already read English books and communicate with Feynman in full English.

I can play the piano very well and can also draw. I am a well-rounded student.

What’s even more frightening is that I am still very interested in handicrafts. I have previously posted photos of knitting yarn seriously, cooking delicious food with my grandma, and baking with Huang Lei.

At the age of 12, he could design his own dress, and he could also write an introduction to his works in English. At that time, some netizens questioned whether it was embarrassing to write in Chinese? The result was quickly refuted by netizens. Isn't it normal for international schools to hand over students' works to be written in English? Can a good barber be better at barging?

Now it seems that Huang Duoduo is walking steadily on the road of comprehensive development of morality, intelligence and physical fitness. Recently, she has frequently made her mark in the film and television and fashion circles. She first voiced the role of the "little girl" in the French animated film "The Little Prince", followed her father on the stage of the Tianjin Grand Theater, and then appeared at the Bonpoint show in Paris.

Such an excellent resource is of course indispensable for the strong recommendation of Huang Lei and his wife, but Huang Duoduo’s performance is convincing.

Not only are there eighteen kinds of martial arts, but you can also see the fashion evolution of the young girl Huang Duoduo.

Earlier photos of Huang Duoduo still showed him as an artistic young man, gentle and tranquil with a hint of sadness.

But the latest styles are beginning to lean towards European and American fashion.

Whether the new look is overly mature can be discussed, but it is undeniable that Huang Duoduo has really become a top academic girl who is at the forefront of trends. Does dyeing her hair prevent her from studying hard? This problem has actually been slapped in the face in advance.

Huang Lei and Sun Li’s education methods in recent years are almost the opposite of Chinese-style parents. Many people call Huang Lei a free-range father, but this understanding may be too simple and crude.

Huang Duoduo was born on February 6, 2006. Many people don’t know that her name is Huang Yici. In the educational story of a Chinese-style tiger mother, what she provided along the way was clear and heart-warming. Education template.

To briefly summarize Huang Lei and Sun Li’s education methods, there are only four words: respect nature.

When Duoduo shows interest in new things, we give her the right guidance and then let her try. The traditional concept is almost non-existent.

When "Where Are We Going, Dad 2", Huang Duoduo became a fan with his gentle and sensible character. It can also be seen that Huang Lei and Sun Li really respect the children's wishes in their education, but It will also guide children to grow independently.

A classic case is that someone in the show gave Duoduo a puppy, and Duoduo couldn't put it down.

Belle also liked puppies very much, so she asked Huang Lei if he could let her play for a while. Huang Lei did not agree directly, but said to Belle: "The dog belongs to sister Duoduo, you should ask Duoduo. "

After Duoduo gave the dog to Beibei to play with, Beibei played with it for a long time. Duoduo was worried. When he ran to find his father, Huang Lei said to his daughter: "You can solve it yourself."

It should be said that Huang Lei's handling of this incident was very unusual. For the first time, he did not make the decision without authorization and let Belle take away the puppy like many Chinese parents did. Instead, he retained a lot of independent decision-making rights.

When Duoduo wanted to take back the puppy for the second time, he once again did not force himself like a Chinese parent, but let the children solve the problem themselves.

It is precisely because Huang Lei and Sun Li gave Duoduo enough personal space and sense of security that Duoduo was so bold to socialize and express himself.

These parents never dictated their daughter's life from an authoritative position. They emphasized letting Duoduo grow up on his own. As parents, the only thing they always did was to "support".

In my opinion, this is not free-range breeding, but good breeding.

It is not that the parents are absent, but that they provide enough space for personal growth in the companionship, allowing the children to grow up on their own. Facts have also proved that Duoduo has become the most responsible child among all the children in "Where Are We Going, Dad" , the most responsible child.

Many people question whether the second-generation stars have let themselves go because they have extraordinary resources. But neither did Huang Duoduo.

Previously, her partner He Jiong took on the role of heroine for the first time in Lai Shengchuan's drama "The Book in the Water". Huang Lei revealed that her eyes were swollen from crying with her wife Sun Li in the audience. Not only because of the emotions in the drama, but more importantly, they saw a lot of growth.

It’s not surprising that He Jiong posted on Weibo to praise Duoduo’s melon-eating crowd. What’s even more telling is that director Lai Shengchuan also highly praised Duoduo’s performance, saying that the character Shui’er in “The Book of Water” is a The 10-year-old girl used to be played by adults, but today she was finally played by a real child. Duoduo allowed him to see the original intention when writing this script.

Lai Shengchuan's strictness in the drama industry has become an industry legend, so this seal should be convincing.

It is true that the second generation of stars enjoy good resources, but Duoduo's ability to fulfill his role is the key to success.

Every family has its own way of education, but now it seems that letting Duoduo grow up freely has not taught a girl who lets herself go. Having her ears pierced and dyeing her hair does not mean she is a bad girl.

Today, Duoduo still has a childlike innocence, but he also knows how to take care of his younger brothers and sisters, and is considerate of his parents. His life has begun to move towards a broader stage of life. His resources are indeed extraordinary, but he is not showy or pretentious, and he is not like the second generation of stars. With bad tempers, such second-generation stars can invisibly correct everyone's perception, and also cheer up and untie more children.

Her success really slaps too many Chinese parents in the face.

Comparing the educational quotes of Huang Lei and Chinese parents can reveal the difference between the two educational concepts.

Chinese-style parents: Parents, this is all for your own good.

Huang Lei: "I never regarded her as a child. She is a thoughtful person. She has her secrets, her thoughts, and her life. She does not belong to me. We are each other. Independent individuals, I don't impose my will on her, we get along like friends."

Which one is better? I don't judge easily. Because many Chinese parents still think it’s cool to break their children’s legs when they say they want to dye their hair.

Gibran said in "The Prophet": Your children are actually not your children. What you can give them is your love, but not your thoughts, because they have their own thoughts.

Sorry, in the eyes of Chinese parents, children do not need to have their own thoughts, theirs is enough.

In "Everything Is Good", Yao Chen's tiger mother ruined her future of going to a prestigious school with just one sentence when she was a girl, because the tiger mother thought it was good for her to study in a normal school, and she could just marry anyone in the future, and study like that Well not necessary.

Well, this is all fake. But the famous tiger mother Zhu Yuchen in the entertainment industry vividly interprets the image of many Chinese mothers guiding their children.

Well, this is an extremely rare phenomenon in the entertainment industry.

In last year's Mango Channel variety show "Youth Talk", the child cried so hard that he asked his mother, "Why can't you see my efforts?" The mother was calm as usual, "I eat more salt than you eat rice." Calmly, he only said six words: "I am doing this for your own good."

This sentence runs through the entire variety show. No one thinks this is rudeness in the adult world, because it is all for your own good.

The characteristic of Chinese-style parents is to suppress their children while protecting them, preventing their children from seeing the truth of the world, because their focus is on learning. As for what the world looks like, they will know it in the future.

Huang Lei said: I have made Duoduo realize since she was a child that she is not a special child. All children are special at home, and adults surround them, but in society, no one is special. There are many truths that we adults understand, but we also need to let children understand.

Under the traditional education system, children naturally feel that it is their task to listen to everything their parents say. The question is, in a society that is accustomed to suppressing children's nature and denying children's self-assertion, how many parents can allow their children to complete their true growth and feel the warmth of family at the same time?

What is even more puzzling is that children who were strictly controlled by their parents when they were young will automatically continue the discourse patterns of the previous generation when they grow up, and the famous sayings of Chinese education are passed down from generation to generation, just like the truth.

Such cages created by "your parents are doing it for your own good" and "dying your hair will make it bad" strangle all the personal aspirations and thoughts of boys and girls. If you don't listen to your parents, you're a bad kid and there's something wrong with you.

Many extreme educational tragedies are actually the biggest outbreak of habitual denial of children’s education.

There seems to be a kind of unconscious deception here from generation to generation. In stories about education, the cost of education is always ignored, and only the glory of parental love is depicted. Children later also think of the pain caused by forced control. and worries should be endured and are reasonable.

But like Huang Lei and Sun Li Education, isn’t it true respect for nature to let children make independent choices?

This is not to say that Huang Lei does not have doubts. The 13-year-old Duoduo is already 1.64 or 65 meters tall. As a father, he will be worried when his daughter is approaching puberty. But he would frankly communicate with Duoduo and say: "You may reach puberty in a year or two. By then, you may not be willing to go out for a walk with your father, and you don't like to listen to what your father says." But after Duoduo listened, His face was full of doubts.

I think this is Huang Lei studying with Duoduo. The former learns to be parents, and the latter learns to be themselves.

Such equal communication between parents and children can help a child understand the meaning of life better.

Huang Lei once wrote in a letter to his daughter: "I must say it pessimistically but calmly and honestly: We only have this life. So these most ordinary emotions are the most precious happiness to us. I hope you can live like this in the future: protect your spouse, children, and each other with all your heart.”

Such a relationship between parents and children is first of all mutual understanding and mutual respect, and they will go together forever. In the face of complex life, parents tell their children what life is really like, and then the decisions they make are the real decisions. Decisions imposed by parents are not decisions.

We are parents for the first time and need to learn together with our children. However, many parents think that they do not need to learn to be parents and that being a parent is a gift.

"Parents are doing it for your own good" is the most irresponsible assertion, because parents have no right to easily decide their children's life for their own good.

On the basis that each has an independent personality and life, giving children the most selfless love but respecting their growth is the educational lesson Huang Lei and Sun Li teach Chinese parents. From Huang Duoduo People all over China have watched her educational achievements when they grew up, and many Chinese-style educational sayings have been slapped in her face, including the fact that dyeing your hair will turn bad.

Sure enough, some people use their lives to heal their childhood, and some people use their childhood to heal their lives.

Another most personal feeling is that the male god’s daughter is getting better and better as she grows older. Then I thought about the male god giving up on her appearance, but what’s wrong with passing on good genes?

But what Chinese parents should remember is that in addition to bringing the best genes and love to their children, their children's future life path should be taken by themselves.