Some people say that people can often help others, but they can't let the people who are helped take it for granted? This sentence is very objective and correct.
First, why do you help others?
It is the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation to be helpful, charitable and helpful. Within the scope of our own power, try our best to lend a helping hand to those in need and give them roses, so that our hands are fragrant.
However, in recent years, some lawless people deliberately touched porcelain when others helped him, which made many well-intentioned people afraid to lend a helping hand, made some people who were willing to help others feel chilling and disturbed the social atmosphere. But such people are a minority after all, and the positive energy of society will gradually make them have no place to stand.
Second, how to help others.
1, help others just right, too much.
As the old saying goes, a bowl of rice raises a benefactor and a bucket of rice raises an enemy? A person will be very grateful to give him a bowl of rice when he is hungry and cold to solve his survival problem. If you continue to feed him, he will take it for granted. In the end, he may even think that you have given him too little. Why do you give him a few bowls when you are so much? Not only do you not know how to be grateful, but you breed hatred for you.
Too much help can easily make the other person feel dependent. Once you stop helping, he will think that you are not doing well and you should help him. You may remember that Sun Li once sponsored a student to enter a university, but he was hurt by the sponsor. This is a typical example.
2. Be willing to help others. Don't always think that others should be grateful to you.
It is kind to help others actively. Don't think that you will get something back if you pay. If the other party doesn't answer, you think that the other party is an ungrateful person, and you think that you should drop a drop of water to repay the other party. Originally, helping others is for the convenience of others. If you have this idea, you must be unhappy, so when helping others, we should care less and take more actions.
If you help others and they want to give you something in return, you should accept it gladly.
I don't know if you know. Zigong redeemed people? And then what? Luz received the cow? This story. The redeemer of Zigong will not receive any bonus in the future, and his behavior is noble, but what about other people who will redeem the people of Lu in the future? Do you accept the bonus or not? How many ordinary people can be as noble as Zi Gong?
After saving people, Lutz readily accepted the cow thanked by the other party, which made the people feel that doing good deeds would be rewarded, and naturally brought more people to do good deeds. It can be seen that sometimes doing good deeds can change customs and educate the people.
Therefore, when you help others and others really want to repay you, you should still accept their thanks, which will not only reassure them, but also drive more people to do good deeds. So as not to make the recipients feel psychologically burdened and feel that they owe too much to others.
It is very important to help others and provide methods and ideas. It is better to teach people to fish than to teach them to fish.
Whether it is to help a poor area get rid of poverty or to help a student study, it is more important to give them methods.