A friend scolded her husband angrily, while carefully putting the fish and shelled shrimp into the bowl of her ten-year-old son.
My friend's son enjoys his mother's service with peace of mind. From time to time, he has to command two sentences: "Give me a bowl of soup!" " ""wipe my mouth! "
I watched my friend's mother-child interaction and couldn't help sighing: "This way of raising a baby will only raise a second husband!"
The friend disagreed: "My son is excellent! With such good grades and playing the piano, how can he be as worthless as his father? "
How many parents also raise their children as my friend said. I only think that children should play the piano, play chess, calligraphy, painting, poetry, hops, and which kind of rice, oil, salt, sauce and vinegar tea to use. I would rather suffer by myself than let my children live an adult life.
Therefore, how many retarded giant babies have been raised are old-school mothers. It is better to make children angry at an early age than to wait for them to sigh when they are adults.
0 1. Let the children touch some water with their fingers.
Many parents can't wait to do everything for them, asking their children to grow up without touching the spring water. It seems that only in this way can we show our love for our children.
Is that really the case?
Actor Huang Lei and his wife Sun Li are both famous figures in the entertainment circle.
They have many eldest daughters and have lived in the spotlight since childhood. They are recognized as "other people's children": they are beautiful and have good personalities. They don't put on airs at school and are gentle with their classmates.
She is not only super self-disciplined, with good academic performance, but also versatile. She is a typical lady. ...
Such an excellent girl, who is also the second generation of Xing, has excellent family conditions. In many people's cognition, she should be a naturally spoiled little princess who has never touched her fingers since she was a child.
But this is not the case. Although Duoduo is really a little princess loved by her parents, this little princess can also do housework.
Huang Lei and Sun Li shared many trends of doing more housework in Weibo.
In this couple's Weibo, it is not difficult to find that many people can cook and the cakes they make look attractive. Popsicles are almost as good as those bought, and they can also be made into cinnamon rolls ... which makes netizens lament that "Dad's position is in jeopardy".
Besides cooking, she can knit. Sun Li shared many photos of knitting wool hats for his brother. The way you bow your head and concentrate is so gentle and lovely!
In addition to these technical jobs, Duoduo will also decorate the room. She decorated a unique Halloween with waste from home. ...
These housework activities make Duo Duo more lovely.
The great revolutionary martyr Li Dazhao once said, "I think the best way to seek happiness in life is to respect labor." All happiness can be obtained through labor, and all hardships can be freed through labor. "
So the so-called "ten fingers without touching the spring water" is really not a commendatory term. Because children who can't do housework are often lazy, dependent and independent.
As parents, let children dip their fingers in some spring water, let them do some housework and take part in the labor within their power. This is not only to cultivate their self-care ability, but also to let them learn to be considerate of their parents.
Parent-child relationship will also be improved in the same work.
Let the children listen to the noise in the street.
Netease Video A mother shared a warm-hearted video, and her four-year-old son went to buy oyster sauce alone.
The mother asked her son if he could buy a bottle of oyster sauce himself.
The son readily agreed, put on his shoes, asked for money and was ready to go out.
Mother repeatedly told me, "You should pay attention to safety. When you see a car when crossing the road, you should stop at the side of the road, okay? "
The child promised and opened the door and went out.
When the child went out, the mother worried about the child's safety and secretly followed behind to prevent the child from finding out.
Seeing that the child bought oyster sauce, the mother secretly followed the child to ensure that the child returned to the community safely.
After entering the community, she hurried home from the other direction, not letting the children know that she was secretly following.
The child came home with oyster sauce, very happy, and happily shared his experience of buying gas with his mother.
The mother also listened patiently to the child and constantly encouraged and praised him.
This process is much more complicated than mom buying a bottle of oyster sauce herself. So, why does mother go to so much trouble to let her children buy oyster sauce?
The clever mother gave the answer: "We have always attached great importance to cultivating children's independence. Let him go shopping and get to know some people in the market. We hope that children can experience some fireworks. "
When talking about children's education, Mr. Zhu Ziqing once said: "To let children walk in the middle of the right path, we can't always let them be under the wings of an old hen like chickens. This is a lifetime of futility. "
This sentence means that to educate children, we must let them experience life.
In the streets and lanes, the necessities of life are hidden, and noisy voices are playing the joys and sorrows of all beings. It is the best place to experience life.
In today's society, it is no longer an era of "listening to things outside the window and reading only sage books". It is not an experience to take children to the market, go to the streets, see all kinds of life and listen to the southern accent.
03. Feed the children and work hard.
There is a beautiful little girl in my friend's house.
From the first day of junior high school, friends let their children work and study.
Flowers are sold on Valentine's Day, apples are sold on Christmas Day, and leaflets are distributed when there are no festivals.
The first time I sold flowers, the little girl blushed with shame and couldn't even open her mouth. She stood in the street with a big bucket of roses in her arms.
Boss, a bucket of flowers with water in it, I don't know.
One afternoon, only a few flowers were sold. The little girl was tired and anxious, and tears came out.
In the end, this first attempt failed, of course, and the lost expenses were "ruthlessly" deducted from the daughter's change by friends.
After several attempts, the little girl can sell goods with a sweet smile.
Even if they go to high school and are busy with their studies, children will use their holidays to "earn a little money". This not only did not affect her study, but became an adjustment to intense study.
Looking at the gentle little girl at ordinary times, she looks smart and glib when she "does business". At first, I didn't quite understand what my friends did.
The conditions at home are not bad, so why let the children suffer?
The friend's answer is thought-provoking: today's children don't know what sweetness is because they have never suffered.
Only by letting them taste the bitterness of life can they know the sweetness of learning. Suffering now is to make children work hard and make them suffer less in the future.
My friend's words reminded me of Turgenev's famous saying: "Do you want to be a happy person? I hope you learn to suffer first. "
Adults are like this, and so are children. Only after hard work can we taste the sweetness of a comfortable life.
Many children have poor endurance now. When they encounter setbacks, they will have emotional breakdown, psychological problems and even do stupid things.
Of course, there are also reasons such as great learning pressure and improper educational methods.
But a very important reason is that children have never suffered the hardships of life and have never experienced a little wind and rain. Just like flowers growing in a greenhouse, they look beautiful, but they can't stand a little wind.
04. Write it at the end
German writer Monson once said: "Life is tempered by various experiences."
I'm impressed.
We should believe in the tenacity and tenacity of life.
Every child, at the beginning of his life, has the instinct to love life, the tenacity potential and the qualification to grow up.
The reason why some children become more fragile as they grow up is precisely because parents think of their children as fragile and cultivate them.
Children treat him like a pampered flower in the greenhouse. How can they stand a little wind and rain?
Imagine a child as a canary in an ivory tower, how can he grow into an eagle with wings and flying?
A child regards life as delicate and fragile porcelain, how can he withstand the beating of life?
Therefore, raising a baby may wish to touch the earth. We should believe in the power of children.
Let children learn to work, walk into the market, know how to endure hardships and be contaminated with fireworks. Slowly, the child will be really strong and sensible. Then grow into a true, brave and self-reliant person.
Lan Yu: Middle school teachers who are not satisfied with the status quo attend classes during the day and code at night. I hope every child can be treated gently by the world.
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