If you are a manager, "influence" is an important part of leadership. This word is usually called "communication influence" together with communication, which means that communication is invalid without affecting the other party.
When you talk to a person, the other person makes you feel like a spring breeze, which shows that the other person has a high emotional intelligence. If you want to be a "popular" person, please read on.
Communication is the art of listening first, and then the art of speaking. Communication is not only about "choosing words and making sentences", but also about "thinking mode". The focus of communication is "understanding".
Effective communication =? Do you know each other's information? +The other party knows your information+achieves * * * knowledge.
From the perspective of information theory, effective communication means "fully reducing the information uncertainty of both parties".
If you are worried that you are not good at communication, you might as well change your mind and try the opposite method, which is simple and quick.
The following is a list of tests, you just need to answer "Yes/No":
(1) often interrupts each other to express their views.
(2) Many people feel unreasonable and always don't understand themselves.
(3) When there are many people, they don't want to talk and don't know what to say.
(4) When others are angry and sad, there is no other way but to say "Don't be angry and sad".
(5) I work hard, but it is difficult to gain the appreciation of the leaders and get the opportunity to rise.
(6) The range of interpersonal communication is narrow, but the intimacy with friends is high.
(7) It is believed that communication can only be persuaded by clear logic and careful reasoning.
(8) It doesn't matter that technicians are not good at communication.
(9) Introverts are usually not good at communication.
(10) I often regret what I said.
If there is more than half of "yes", you may have a wrong understanding of "communication".
I recommend you to read a book "Communication Methods" to help you establish a correct understanding of communication.
The author got the founder and CEO of App. She didn't go to college, and then she founded a well-known knowledge payment platform in China, which is incredible in today's world of "judging ability by diploma".
This book has an official background, and naturally it cannot be separated from one of its core competitiveness, "knowledge quality control", and the quality of the book is guaranteed.
I don't pay much attention to who wrote a book, how many people endorsed it and how many people promoted it. If I don't study, I have no right to speak. I leafed through this book and have a say.
A film critic looks at movies from a different angle from the ordinary audience and has his own unique framework. Ordinary viewers will see whether the protagonist is good-looking, whether the story is interesting and whether the picture is effective. Intermediate film critics will analyze shooting techniques, lighting, plot logic, etc. from a technical point of view, express what ideas and so on. Senior film critics will bluff. At first glance, symbolism, constructivism, deconstruction and postmodernism are inseparable between the lines.
I am a writer with a little occupational disease. After I got the book, the first thing I did was to look at the structure, framework and logic of the book. Research catalogue, research chapters, research writing. If you are determined to write a book, I suggest you try it later.
Communication Method is a book that perfectly embodies "user thinking". From the reader's point of view, solve the pain point of readers' "poor communication", make readers easier to read and understand, deepen their memory and make readers easier to use.
The title of each chapter is "How to ...", which lowers the understanding threshold and improves the practicability.
Questions will be asked at the beginning of each chapter for readers to read with questions.
There are famous sayings and epigrams at the beginning of each chapter to enhance the style.
There are key points at the end of each chapter, which is convenient for readers to grasp the key points and deepen their impressions.
Each chapter has a refined communication formula, which is convenient for readers to understand and remember.
It is a scene-based, problem-driven reference book, which can be read from any chapter alone, without reading it from beginning to end, just like looking it up in a dictionary.
There is no reading threshold for readers, and it is a sincere book.
I suggest you buy one and read it at any time, that is, after reading it. I sorted out the framework of the whole book, and this is the only one on the whole network for your reference. (The picture is recommended to be saved and viewed by computer. )
Brief introduction of the author
Wu Xiaobu is the author of Cognition: the so-called growth is the upgrading of cognition.
(In WeChat's "Dangdang Shopping" applet, search for "cognition", the one ranked first).
Committed to the research of meta-knowledge and meta-cognition, helping individuals to establish a "mental toolbox", scientifically establishing a personal knowledge system and improving their ability to solve problems.