? Love is very wonderful in my eyes. Compared with friendship and family affection, it seems mysterious and unpredictable. Love is often irrational. Love that is too rational and cares too much about personal gains and losses will not be so pure in its focus. Pure love, pure liking for a person, often cannot be explained.
? When I was watching the cartoon "Pleasant Goat and Big Big Wolf" when I was a child, I remember a eating scene. Because Feiyangyang burped while eating, Meiyangyang sitting next to her became very unhappy after hearing this. She frowned and clenched her fists, and said loudly to Feiyangyang, "Feiyangyang, can you eat more politely?" ? But when the Pleasant Goat sitting next to the Boiling Goat also made the same sound, the Beautiful Goat smiled happily and said to the Pleasant Goat, "It doesn't matter, boys are called heroic like this!" I can't explain things like this. Why does Meiyangyang have such completely opposite attitudes towards two sheep making the same move? I believe Feiyangyang has fainted in the toilet from crying. I will only say one thing at this time, this is like love!
? Although love is unreasonable, although it can make you excited instantly, I believe you will not be excited for too long, because when the passion passes, when the romance passes, when the excitement passes, it will return to dullness. Rationality belongs to marriage. Therefore, before a smart man falls in love, he must understand at least three points based on the relationship between them:
First, he must be self-aware.
? Your family background, education, appearance and other rigid conditions must match those of the woman. If both parties are equally matched, I think this is the most stable love. What the ancients said about being well-matched is actually correct. If the gaps between you two are all opposite, and you are much worse than others in every aspect, then don't be wishful thinking. If the woman is white, rich and beautiful, there will definitely be countless suitors around her, so why does she choose you instead of so many others? What's more, you are still short and poor, and the reverse is also true. Is it enough to just rely on your sincerity? Only people who have watched too many idol dramas would think so.
? Second, we must be predictable.
? After a man has passed the level of self-knowledge, he still has to predict whether they will be happy and stable after marriage, because love is extremely unstable. It comes and goes quickly. If you want your marriage to last for a long time, you should roughly predict the situation after your marriage when you are in love, or in other words, you are willing to accept this for a lifetime. I feel that when two people are in love, one is usually stronger and the other is weaker. I think this kind of relationship will last forever, even for a lifetime, so you will still maintain the same lifestyle after marriage. This was the case with my parents, and it was the case with other families I observed. If both parties are strong or both are weak, your marriage may not last long. I often hear people say that so and so is afraid of his wife. In fact, it is not "fear" but "love".
? Third, you must understand yourself.
? You need to know what kind of person you are? How is your character, temper, temperament, reverse quotient, emotional intelligence, and IQ? Then compare it with the other person. If you are smart enough, you should find a stupid woman who is not very smart to live with you. Only then will these two people be happy. Because love is irrational and complementary. If they are the same, both parties will lose enough curiosity about each other. Also, rational love is not called love, it is called business.
? Nowadays, many people will ask, do you believe in love at first sight or love that lasts for a long time? Frankly speaking, I have never believed in the so-called love at first sight in this world. What I think of love at first sight is to put it bluntly, it is about someone else’s appearance. You said you don’t even understand a person’s personality, temperament, and outlook on life. I haven't even said a word yet, why do you say you like someone, and what do you rely on to fall in love with someone at first sight? I think there is only one answer, appearance. What falls in love at first sight is often not the face but the face. So I still believe in love over time, because it is more reliable, but if both parties have no good feelings at all, and even less after a long time, then I feel that no matter how long it takes, there will be no love, and people will just get tired of it. They would be angry, so why do they still stay together? Because what creates love over time is not love, but the result of weighing the pros and cons between both parties.
? The result of love is marriage, and the premise of marriage is love. Without love, what kind of marriage would there be? Just like when two people fall in love, they must start with acquaintance, then get to know each other, fall in love, and finally stay together. But many girls nowadays are not like this. What they marry is often not love, but bread. This is There is a famous saying that it is better to laugh in a BMW than on a bicycle. Of course, there is no perfect love in this world, but I believe you will definitely meet the love that suits you. If you neither believe in love at first sight nor in love that lasts, then in your eyes, everything in this world is a tragedy or a conspiracy theory, then you will live a very painful life. So what I said is not important at all, what you think is the most important.
? In short, I think love is nothing more than two people living a relaxed, comfortable and happy life together. Secondly, they must know how to trust, understand and respect each other. Never force yourself or do it for anyone. Change yourself, some things really can't be forced, especially love. As for what Zhang Ailing said: "When I met him, I became very low, as low as the dust, but my heart was happy, and flowers bloomed from the dust." Just take a look at it, don't do it. Because you like someone and become humble and feel ashamed of yourself, you have to pick up your self-esteem. Loving someone is not like this.
? Family affection is dull but long-lasting, love is passionate but short-lived, when the enthusiasm fades, it becomes dull, and when you leave briefly, it becomes long-lasting. I believe that when love sublimates and marriage becomes stable, love becomes family affection.