Some time ago, there was a popular topic on Weibo: When did you realize that you were an adult?

There are more than 2,000 comments under the topic, and the most upvoted answer is: Since I can not care about the eyes of others, put down my dignity, and do things that I felt ashamed when I was young.

Although this sentence is sad to say, it is also a true portrayal of most adults. When we reach middle age, we have passed the age of high-spiritedness and no longer have the qualifications to make all-out efforts. We have become calm, restrained, free and easy without realizing it.

If it is for life, what does dignity mean? After the age of 40, these three things are more important than face.

1. When a person reaches middle age, family is more important than face.

Yesterday evening, an old friend came to me to talk to me and we talked until late at night.

In the past, his career was successful and his business was booming. He was particularly concerned about his own face and felt that face was the most important thing in life.

At that time, he was not short of money, and he would play with a group of gangsters until late at night every night. He did not hesitate to spend money to buy dignity, thinking that the more money he gave away, the more face he would earn back.

It wasn’t until this year when he encountered the epidemic that he lost nearly one million in one month. Looking at his frozen bank account, he finally realized that money is much more important than face.

He put down his dignity and called his former friends one by one, hoping that they could help him at the critical moment, but in the end very few people could respond to him.

In the end, he closed the company and used the remaining capital to buy a food truck. The couple ran to the night market to set up a stall, making money while paying off debts.

He did not dare to give up easily, because he had four old people waiting to be taken care of and two children who needed to be taken care of. He could not abandon his wife who was in trouble and in love.

What will happen to the family behind him if he gives up?

He smiled and said to me: "It's good to make money and do business, it's not shabby."

He put down his face, but protected his family's life and took good care of his parents, wife and children. It is the greatest honor for middle-aged people to save them from scrimping on food and clothing.

2. When people reach middle age, time is more important than face.

A netizen told me his story.

Thinking back to half a year ago, she was still an ordinary employee of a private company, working 9-9-6 every week and having no private time at all. The only entertainment she has left every day is to take a selfie video and upload it to the Internet to express her inner negative emotions.

A month ago, a video she uploaded suddenly went viral, with millions of views and fans quickly exceeding 10,000 within a few days. At this time, many product manufacturers spontaneously came to her door and asked her to endorse their products.

So she quit her job and became a full-time media person. When she entered the media circle, a group of Internet celebrities took the initiative to get acquainted with her, helped her introduce clients, and helped her win over fans.

Others praised her for her ability and sociability, but she said: "It's not that I'm sociable, it's just that my value is high enough now. When interacting with others, equal exchange will lead to equal friendship. . ”

When we were young, we always spent a lot of time building connections and using clever words to win over everyone around us, thinking that the more friends we have, the better.

But when you hit rock bottom and need help, very few people take the initiative to lend a helping hand. In the end, you realize that the only person you can truly trust is yourself.

If you are valuable, your friends will flock to you. If you are worthless, your friends will fall apart.

Instead of trying to impress others in the noise and trying to make connections, it is better to leave time to yourself and constantly work hard to become better and better.

3. When people reach middle age, health is more important than face.

A few months ago, an old friend of mine was seriously ill. I hurried to the hospital to visit him. Unexpectedly, After not seeing her for just a few months, it felt like she had aged dozens of years.

She also spoke to me coldly. When I asked a question, she would just answer it without any anger from a living person.

She said she would give up treatment so that she could save some money for her family. She also said that she wanted to travel. The doctor said that she still had half a year to live. She wanted to take this time to walk around instead of lying in the hospital bed and suffering.

Although she is not terminally ill, she has lost hope in life, and her words are full of despair and disillusionment. Seeing her in this state, I feel very sad. So what if I make more money in my life? Without a healthy body, fame and wealth are just a dream.

I hope every middle-aged person can understand this truth. A person's life only lasts a few decades. No matter whether your career is smooth or your family is happy, you must first learn to love yourself and take good care of yourself. own body.

At this time, you have seniors and juniors, and your life is not your own. Living well is also a responsibility. Because once you fall, the family behind you will also fall apart.

When you reach middle age, I hope you can be kinder to yourself, push away unnecessary drinking parties if you can, and don't stay up late to show off for work you can't finish.

You must not let yourself work hard and pay for half your life, and when it is time to enjoy the blessings, your body will not be able to hold on.

The wife said:

40 is a very embarrassing age, like being stuck in a crack in the wall, unable to get in or get out.

Over the years of dealing with emotional problems, I have met many middle-aged people who care about face. They value dignity more than anything else, and pretend to live every day just for a little face.

It not only delays myself, but also drags down my family.

When you reach middle age, you should not only gain age and wrinkles, but also experience and horizons. But if you enter middle age and don't even understand this, and you just want to live the rest of your life relying on the dignity of others' charity, then you will never be able to gain true happiness.

After all, face is earned through strength. If you are useless, it doesn’t matter if you know anyone. If you are useful, everyone will give you face.

Author: Madam Silent