There are many proverbs circulating in rural areas, and they are often used to comment on a certain phenomenon. Although they are biased, they also tell a certain truth. People are poor and six relatives are broken? It is such a proverb, which is somewhat exaggerated, but it also reflects a certain reality and tells the human nature. Then, if people are poor, they will really break six parents. What does it mean to break six parents if people are poor?
The six relatives usually refer to parents, brothers and sisters, wives, uncles and aunts. In China, which pays attention to blood relationship, these people are close relatives. Under normal circumstances, they will maintain each other and maintain each other. However, once a person is down and out, in trouble, with parents, brothers and sisters, wives, children and aunts. So, why is this wonderful change happening?
Once a person is in trouble, he will have the idea of making a comeback at first, but after being in trouble for a long time, his mentality will change quietly; Become sensitive, suspicious, self-centered, a casual move, a word, or a look from others will make him associate with it. He feels that it is all because he is poor and is against himself, but he is unable to resist. In order to avoid such unnecessary harm, he often closes himself up, which is manifested by not interacting with people easily, including his parents, brothers and sisters. Interpersonal relationship is like this, often walking, naturally close, not walking for a long time, naturally alienated.
On the other hand, parents want their children to live a prosperous life, and wives also want their husbands and fathers to be capable, and their closest relatives, such as aunts, uncles and aunts, also want their relatives to be developed. However, things are impermanent. For some reason, such as serious illness and headstrong, a person's parents and wife are lazy and greedy for pleasure, so that he can make ends meet and his life is in trouble. For such people, parents, wives, aunts, uncles, aunts and other close relatives, they often mourn their misfortune and anger them, and they are not false to their good colors. Over time, they will deliberately alienate them and not associate with them.
From the objective conditions, the reality is cruel. Once a person is in trouble, he has to bear not only material pressure, but also mental pressure. If you want to make a comeback, you need to accumulate wealth again and overcome mental pressure. For many reasons, it is difficult to do these two things. You can only muddle along and live your own life in a difficult situation. When I thought I was proud, my relatives and friends kept coming and going, but now I am like a passer-by. I can't help but feel sad and cold. Even if it is difficult, I will no longer associate with those relatives and friends.
As far as relatives are concerned, one of the realistic reasons is that there are many people who add icing on the cake, but few people who give charcoal in the snow; Both relatives and friends and ordinary people want to get help or benefits from each other. From this perspective, it is impossible to meet their own requirements to associate with poor relatives. Even relatives can associate at first, but after a long time, not only can they not get benefits, or help, or even post them upside down, so they are reluctant to associate with him. In fact, this is human nature, although it is not recognized by most people, but
people are poor and have no friends? , said the helplessness of the poor, but now the times have changed, people's understanding level is high, as long as there is a sense of self-reliance, and bold action, to maintain a normal heart, why care about their temporary poverty, and why care about those who are far away from themselves when they are poor. If you are poor, don't leave your relatives, it will be chilling. People are hungry, don't eat onions to burn your heart. People who are poor and seven points are freezing cold, and they are down and out, and they are warm and cold. Asking for people is like swallowing a three-foot sword, and relying on people is as heavy as the sky. Only when you are down and out can you know who your relatives are and who your enemies are, and you can understand that Coptis chinensis is bitter, and it is even more bitter without money. It's hard to climb to heaven, and it's even harder to ask for help!
Six relatives are defined as father, mother, brother, brother, wife and son. It is said that if a person is poor, even the closest people will not talk to you. The above six relatives are also our closest relatives. Degang Guo famously said that the poor people play with ten steel hooks in the cross street, but they can't hook their loved ones. The rich are in the mountains and forests, brandishing swords, guns and clubs can't break up the meaningless guests and friends? .
When people are poor, don't visit relatives. This is the backbone of being a man. When you fail, when you are poor. You will find that those who laugh at you first, those who attack you first, and those who fall when they are down will always be your so-called relatives and friends. Instead of condescending to ask them to help us and let them laugh at us. Why don't we take it ourselves and do it? Face up to yourself, be yourself, and make everyone look at you with new eyes.
I can see that the first half of this sentence is sad enough, but do you know? The second half of this sentence is even more heartbreaking. The second half of the sentence is,
A humble person advises others. That is to say, if your position is very humble, don't advise others, which is also called speaking softly and not advising others. Because you don't have any weight, no one wants to listen to you, even if you say words of wisdom. In the real society, people with money and power can say a word casually, which can be sought after by all. And a person who can really talk about the problem, no one cares. Even if you are right, in the eyes of outsiders, everything you say and experience before you succeed is worthless.
This sentence of the older generation has inspired us. If we want to be respected, first of all, we should respect ourselves, and only you can take yourself seriously and enrich yourself in a down-to-earth way. Finally, people's popularity, power and money will come with it.
You feel meaningless when you walk. Sometimes you feel that everyone is not on the same channel, and slowly. Although I don't feel so serious myself, it's true that my feelings have become very cold.
I didn't even go home for the New Year's money when I was doing business in Chongqing in 1917. I didn't feel much that year. In the second year, I lost some money because I was depressed. I felt that the relationship between relatives and friends was very cold, and sometimes I was not as good as a social friend. But it's not as serious as not being in contact with each other. After all, most of the time, you can't look up and see it!
But to be honest, young man, you can fail, but you can't be without fighting spirit. You should make people who look down on you regret it. Nowadays, people all want you to live worse than him, and few people want you to live better than him, unless they are their close relatives!