? This ghost haunts everyone it can meet, and it makes many aspects of a person smell of dissatisfaction: face, skin, figure, education, knowledge, personality, wealth, status, reputation, environment and so on. When such a person appears in front of you, you find that he has been overwhelmed by his dissatisfaction with himself.
? The greatest consumption of mankind does not come from the overdraft of intelligence or physical strength, nor from the struggle with nature or the same kind, but from its own war against itself. Because in this war, the soldiers, guns, ammunition and even tactics of the "two sides" are provided by themselves, and no one can support them.
? People are naturally satisfied with themselves. Look at the babies, their serene and calm expression is the performance of self-satisfaction to the extreme. They are also entitled to be satisfied with themselves: as the creator's most outstanding product, being dissatisfied with themselves is really disrespectful to the creator.
? Re-observing children's toddlers will find that they always hold on to walls, chairs or adults before moving forward. At the beginning, that step was not so much for stability as for falling, a simple and heroic fall. They will never be dissatisfied with themselves because they fall. Will they continue to look for someone or something to support them, or will they stand firm before taking a step? Fall down again and again, stand firm again and again until it is no longer so easy to fall down.
? It is hard for us to imagine that a child who has never stood firm will learn to walk slowly in the future. Fortunately, God didn't implant an attack on the baby in advance, so they won't blame themselves for their shortcomings. Unfortunately, in the process of growing up slowly, due to the influence of the surrounding environment, adults have also learned to torment themselves because of their little shortcomings. Under this kind of tossing, standing firm has become a problem, so every step seems flustered, impetuous and obscene.
? People who are dissatisfied with themselves, those who are eager to change themselves, and those who want to reshape themselves all plant their dissatisfaction with others or the environment into their hearts. The demands of the outside world have become their own demands on themselves, and the attacks of the outside world have become their own attacks on themselves.
? Aside from occupational classification, people can probably be divided into two types. One is to give yourself a psychological "beating" before going out, and then become depressed and look sick or guilty. If such people go to see a psychologist, the psychologist can almost feel that they are holding a knife and force the doctor to take them apart from the inside out and put on new parts. Of course doctors don't do that. Doctors are interested in how they become so hard on themselves.
? The second kind of person is someone who blows himself in the mirror before going out. Li Ao has a famous saying: If I want to find someone I admire, I will look in the mirror. It seems that he is typical of this kind of person. Some people may worry, will this blow themselves crazy before going out? Of course not. It is the kind of person who goes crazy before and after going out that "hits" himself before going out. There are no people who are blown crazy in this world. Only self-attack can make people crazy.
? "Modesty makes people progress, pride makes people lag behind", which is a bunch of famous sayings that are easily misunderstood. The misunderstanding is so deep that everyone should recite this sentence as a warning after others have achieved results. Leaders treat their subordinates like this, teachers treat their students like this, and parents treat their children like this, as if they didn't say sorry to others. Many people are stingy to praise others. At the level of consciousness, the purpose is to be afraid that others will become proud and then fall behind. Subconsciously, it may be that others' success has caused their own anxiety, so they are so stingy.
? I have asked many people: Do you become proud when others praise you? Almost no one nodded yes. In fact, your acceptance and praise of yourself will not really lead to complacency and retrogression. This kind of self-praise and acceptance is the recognition of God's creation, the respect for parents' genes and upbringing, the affirmation of all those who are related to themselves, and the best gift for all those who care about themselves. In this sense, there is no more "anti-social" and "anti-family" way than being dissatisfied with yourself.
? The ideal of becoming better is understandable in itself, but it needs to be remembered that we basically have to think that we are good in order to become better. If we think we are bad and lack basic satisfaction with ourselves, then the desire to be better should be regarded as the worst of all our bad things. If you must be dissatisfied with something, it should be dissatisfaction with yourself.