Such a shocking reversal is not uncommon on the Internet, and we can wait for the official announcement of the follow-up progress. Remember a clear sentence: "Listen to others and think about your own business." Now the internet is full of passers-by expressing their opinions and being at a loss. We don't have to rush to choose which side to take, but think about what this incident has inspired me.
Love and morality are not the same thing.
When we think of true love, it is easy for us to think of caring for each other until death do us part. This is a beautification. In actual love, the dopamine secreted by the brain will make the brain feel tired, leading to the gradual decrease and disappearance of dopamine secretion. This process usually lasts for one and a half to three years, then the passion tends to calm down, and some lovers become weak or break up.
So what does it take to keep your relationship going? Morality, interests, affection and habits, in short, are no longer pure passionate love, and are no longer impulsive and eager yearning for each other, resulting in addictive behaviors.
So before the love cools down, have you figured out what to rely on to continue this relationship? Have you adjusted your mentality and strategy? You can't live by gambling. If you bet on this person's conscience and bottom line, he may give you a negative value. People can't lose the heart of self-love at any time. Think about your bottom line. On this basis, strive for what you can grasp, improve yourself, and constantly increase added value for yourself. Your chassis is stable and you are not afraid of the other party's change of heart. In this process, try not to dislike each other. Winning cooperation and making each other comfortable is also a skill.
Remember that love and morality are different. Don't point to the sweetness at the beginning and don't want to betray the present. Women should learn to accept and let go. It doesn't mean that there will never be real pure love in the world, so we should consider our own reality. It's not worth risking your life with probability. Seeing the loving and envious couple in the report, we asked ourselves to find such people. It happens that the other person is not, so he is dissatisfied with injustice, pretentious, cute and ridiculous. Seeing Gates' divorce and Lin Shengbin's rollover, I think men are not trustworthy, and their marriage is unreliable. It is a sad regret to spend a lifetime in paranoia, fear and anxiety.
Love is always a matter for two people, from the beginning to the end. But marriage is not. Marriage needs more social constraints and is a basic and important unit in the social network. Their responsibilities and obligations are guaranteed by the marriage law, and their social members are supervised by the law on the protection of minors, which is an important part of promoting social stability and harmony. Aware of this, it is not difficult to understand the criticism that Lin Shengbin encountered after his newly-married son. Loyalty to marriage is no longer a personal matter. It is supervised, protected and sanctioned by the whole society and moral laws.
People say, "There is no immoral love, only immoral marriage." It depends on which side of the relationship you stand on to understand. It is a simple ideal to hope that love, marriage and morality can be perfectly integrated. Back to reality, how to protect our rights and interests in marriage, how to enjoy passion in love and keep it for a long time, or how to get together and separate, are all topics that we need to face seriously. I wish every reader of mine can be kind and live a transparent life.
2. Restrictions on the rights of public figures.
If you think Lin Shengbin is an internet celebrity, then he is a public figure like a star. Public figures also include senior officials, well-known entrepreneurs, media hosts, and even people who don't want to be famous but are related to a major news event and spread it, that is, involuntary public figures.
Andy warhol, an American artist in the last century, famously said, "15 minute rule": in the future, social media will be everywhere, and "everyone may become famous in 15 minutes"; Everyone can be famous 15 minutes.
The social resources enjoyed by public figures include media resources. They use the media more easily than ordinary people to achieve their goals. However, if the behavior of public figures is related to the interests of the state or the public, the people have the right to know and supervise. If the media reports public events related to public figures, "public figures should tolerate minor damage to their reputation." Some scholars believe that the qualification of public figures to file honorary lawsuits against the media should be strictly restricted.
Everything has advantages and disadvantages, especially being a public figure. So is Lin Shengbin. Generally speaking, there can be no double standards, and all benefits can be taken. You can't wait for someone to supervise your possible violations. Rights and obligations are equal. While occupying more social resources, public figures should also bear corresponding social responsibilities, become models of observing social morality, and need to keep the bottom line of not breaking the law. Lin's father should not have expected that public opinion supervision would no longer cause "a great psychological burden on his son." As long as it is not false accusation or slander, citizens have the right to express their opinions and express their beliefs and attitudes. Public figures are also obliged to accept stricter social supervision than ordinary people.
This also warns those who want to be online celebrities. Fame and fortune is a double-edged sword. If you want to be stable, you must first improve your legal awareness and don't do anything that ruins your future. Secondly, you should enhance your moral awareness and don't do anything that will ruin your reputation. An honourable death is better than a disgraceful life. This knife cuts bread and fingers.
Lin Shengbin once named Weibo "wife and children are in heaven", but China people don't talk about heaven. China believed in Heaven, Heaven and Heaven, and Heaven was in charge of the Jade Emperor. Even if a fairy loses her job, she will be defeated and suffer from reincarnation. To be a man, you still have to be in awe.