Recently, several mothers have messaged me privately, hoping that I would recommend some books to them, in order to help their children smoothly transition from parent-child reading, picture book reading, and passive reading stages to independent, active, and unafraid of difficulties. reading stage.

I am quite scared about this topic. Although my son still likes to read and his reading volume is not bad, judging from the first grade's ability to form words, make sentences, look at pictures and write words, these should be In the aspect that best reflects the "efficacy" of reading, he does not seem to have obvious advantages due to reading. I have always adhered to the principle of "quantitative change leads to qualitative change" when it comes to my son's reading. In addition to the books I read and liked in my childhood, the books I selected were basically recommended by searching online, or directly from the children's book list on Dangdang.com, and then they were simple and crude without asking. The result is just "stuffed". Speaking of which, my son's love for reading is more due to his personality. As a mother who accompanies him all the way, perhaps my biggest role is to accompany him.

Writing this article, on the one hand, I hope that by sorting out my son’s reading history from preschool to now, I can think more seriously about "reading"; on the other hand, On the other hand, I also hope that in my review, I can give some reference to friends who value reading.

1. The importance of reading

"The book has its own beauty like jade, and the book has its own golden house.", "Reading thousands of volumes, writing like a god.", " Reading, this ordinary process that we take for granted, is actually a process that combines the human soul with the great wisdom of all nations, both ancient and modern." "Books are like medicine, and good reading can cure stupidity."...

< p> There are proverbs and famous sayings about "reading is important" at all times and in all countries. It can be said that as a mother, I have been taught since I was a child that "reading more books is the right way to learn." I have never questioned it. The importance of reading, but as I grow up, I actually get farther and farther away from real reading. A large amount of fragmented and fast information fills my life. In recent years, I have invested in reading in an increasingly impetuous and utilitarian state. In the national reading trend that continues to rise from top to bottom, the frequency of my book purchases is increasing day by day, but the number of readings is declining. What is the result of the mismatch between goals and practice? anxiety!

I have transferred my hope (power) of reading to my son. Since his birth, my book buying category has basically been children's books. The impetuous and utilitarian heart of reading led him to travel in the ocean of books. Fortunately, he has been swimming quite happily in the past few years; fortunately, he has not been "contaminated" with my impetuousness, and I have begun to reflect on myself.

Reading is a means to enlighten wisdom, broaden horizons, and nourish the soul, not an end. You should not read for the sake of reading, nor do you need to worry about reading.

Leaving aside for the moment those well-known Chinese and foreign celebrities who are born with dyslexia and cannot benefit from reading, just looking around me, there are actually many successful people who do not like to read. The most typical and frank one among them should be one of my bosses: he was born in technology research and development, and he succeeded in starting a business early. He has quick thinking, unique vision, strong learning ability, and is especially good at employing people. He is a very admirable entrepreneur. However, He really doesn’t like reading, and he makes no secret of his resistance to reading. Once while chatting with him, I recommended a well-reputed management book to him. He chuckled and said, “Read it first.” , just tell me after reading it! I get a headache when I read the book.”

Proposing that reading is not necessary for success does not deny the importance of reading, but I hope that I can adjust my reading state. In the process of helping children develop good reading habits, when encountering obstacles, they will feel less anxious and more peaceful, and can truly feel the beauty of reading.

2. Love at the beginning of reading

When children do not yet have the ability to read independently, an inevitable reading method is parent-child reading. In my opinion, this The form of staged reading is even more important than the reading content itself.

Parent-child reading is actually more of an output and expression of love. There is a passage in Jim Trillis's "Reading aloud Manual": "You may have unlimited wealth, boxes and boxes of it." Jewelry and cabinets of gold. But you will never be richer than me. I have a mother who reads to me." Parents pass on love and security to their children through parent-child reading. Years later, when the children grow up. In 2016, when they faced setbacks and difficulties and needed the protection of love, perhaps they would be less panicked and helpless because of their profound memory of "reading = love". They would probably naturally and habitually With the help of reading, you are full of power to complete self-salvation in the cruel reality.

"Reading Manual"

3. Reading Enlightenment

Unlike our post-80s childhood, most of our next generation's reading enlightenment begins with picture books. Especially the classic foreign children's picture books that have been highly praised in recent years. When Lele was about one year old, I started buying picture books for him based on the list of picture books recommended on the Internet. The picture book is rich in pictures and not many words. It is indeed the best reading choice for children who are just beginning to understand the world.

There are many lists of excellent picture books. I think there is no one that is better or worse, only different children have different preferences.

Within the scope of conditions permitting, of course, the more the better. In addition, the picture book library that has emerged in recent years is actually a good choice. You can borrow a batch first, and then choose the one your child likes best to buy.

Reading in the younger age group has a distinctive feature, that is, it is repeated over and over again. A picture book has been told dozens or hundreds of times. The adults are on the verge of collapse, but the children are still persistent: "Mom, tell it again! Again "Speak!" This is a characteristic of age. We can only be patient and follow its needs.

How to read picture books specifically? Is it word for word? Is it random? Or does it refer to reading words and teaching literacy at the same time? I think there is no fixed formula. Every child has different needs and preferences. The whole reading process is actually more like "One Hundred Thousand Why Babies" leading us in a "question and answer" game. What are their concerns? Maybe in the pictures, maybe in the text, or maybe in addition to the picture book extension, continue to be patient and leave the initiative to them, and we can cooperate.

"David Can't"

Naughty children are always more attractive. Watching David banging the spatula, picking his nose and buttocks, the children always laugh with joy. As my son grows up and gradually begins to think independently, when I tell him "David", it's not just hahaha. David is his friend, or maybe it's him. He stands firmly on David's side. I used his immature language to defend David's naughty behavior. Feeling this change in him, I bought him another set of classic books. The details will be listed below.

"Baby Bear Picture Book"

Whether this set of books is effective in developing good habits, to be honest, I have no obvious feeling from my son, but when it comes to children I like it, I really like it. In just one book of "Lunch", I have already talked about how life is hopeless. It has only been a few years since I breathed a sigh of relief. Now I have started a new round of "Little Mouse, let me see your Is the lunch box good?" Yes, my daughter also likes this set of picture books.

"Ants and Watermelon"

For Lele, who is a machine controller, what she likes most is the content of the little ants carrying the watermelon home and then squeezing the juice and storing it. The simple picture of a funnel placed on a bottle kept him in a full mental state. It was so novel that it was as if he had never asked me or answered me before, dozens of times and hundreds of times: "Mom, they are like this." What are you doing?", "Juicing! Juicing!"

4. Expansion of reading

I looked through the historical orders and found that since my son’s kindergarten class, I have been trying to buy him pure text books, trying to increase his reading ability. Reading depth and breadth, but in fact this is a pit I dug for myself. Children at this stage are not yet sensitive to words and prefer to read with images, so the result is that I hold the story book and read with emotion. After a long time, the children were still uninterested and had to give up temporarily.

Pure text books are a bit overwhelming, but picture books with more text and more complex and rich picture content are still possible. Perhaps it is precisely because the complexity of the picture books he reads has increased, so has the child's need to explore and discover. His mother's thoughtful answers gradually cannot satisfy him. He is eager to understand what the book says on his own, and he begins to try to read independently. Even with picture books, the biggest obstacle to independent reading is still the text. Therefore, Lele’s child began to enter the "Mom, what is this written about?" stage.

The literacy issue of preschool children has attracted much attention. I bought a membership of "Wukong Literacy App" and "Four Five Quick Reading". After trying it, in order to maintain the loving mother and filial piety in preschool, It can only be put on hold. Finally, I found that "interest is the best teacher". There is nothing better than arousing children's interest and making them take the initiative to read. The following books are "complex" picture books that Lele likes very much, because his interests are more towards popular science. Category, so I will also focus on it when buying books. The first principle when choosing books should be the interests of children, and then consider the improvement of complexity on the basis of interest.

"Funny Physics"

"Funny Chemistry"

These two books are interesting three-dimensional flip books. The formats of the books are very diverse and interesting. The content is also very vivid and rich. After taking my son through it a few times, he started to read it by himself, and he still read it frequently. I often heard him exclaiming that he had made new discoveries while watching it. The "Fantastic" series also includes "Fantastic Mathematics" and "Fantastic Creatures", which should also be very good.

"The Magic School Bus"

This is indeed a set of magical popular science. As an adult, I also find it quite attractive. This series should also be regarded as Lele's favorite in kindergarten. He already has a "picture version" and a "bridge version", and is planning to buy another "reading version".

classic. There is no generation gap. My son also likes Baba Daddy very much. The omnipotent Baba family satisfies the children's various imaginations of interesting life. I started with two sets.

5. Curved Reading

As I mentioned before, I introduced pure text books a little early and failed to advance smoothly until I found a reading aid. The artifact - "Ximalaya FM", you can find the audio of most classic children's books on the all-purpose Himalaya, and many of them are professional broadcast productions, which are more attractive to children.

Lele is a child who doesn’t like to sleep. Bedtime stories are an absolute blessing for him. It doesn’t matter whether the story has too many words or too deep content. Anyone who comes is welcome, as long as he can avoid sleeping. Turning off the lights, lying on the bed, and listening to stories quietly is a wonderful time worth looking forward to during the day. It lasts for about one to two hours every night until our sister is born.

In addition to audio, some movies and TV shows adapted from classics are also good introductions to reading. Gradually, children will actively ask to buy books that they have heard of and read, and gradually transition to independent pure text reading.

The feasibility of this curved reading has also been reflected in my daughter. Our younger sister is particularly obsessed with the "Peppa Pig" cartoon. In order to protect her eyesight, I bought her a series of Peppa Pig picture books. She also likes them very much. When she clamored to turn on the TV to watch "Peppa~Peppa ~", picture books can be substituted for easy comfort.

"Zheng Yuanjie's Series of Works"

"Pipilu Mobilization", "Lu Xixi's Biography", "Shuke Beita's Biography"... Zheng Yuanjie's works are my childhood favorites. When Lele argued with me that David was not naughty, I knew that he would definitely like Zheng Yuanjie's book. Every child has a rebellious and kind heart, and Zheng Yuanjie is the child's best friend.

"Roald Dahl"

The Roald series is very readable. Children Lele were especially excited when they got this set of books because he read some of them. I have watched "Charlie and the Chocolate Factory" as a movie three or four times, but other stories are also very exciting.

Since my sister was born, firstly, my son’s independent reading has been relatively smooth, and he no longer really has time to take care of it. My son has not heard "mother tell stories" for a long time, and occasionally listens to his mother with his sister. Talking about "childish" picture books, it can be seen that he still enjoys this time, and of course, I do too.

Even if it is thrilling and suspenseful, even if it is tragic, even if it is professional and academic, even if it is monotonous and profound... we can always feel the beauty, joy, courage, and strength from reading...

Maybe after reading a lot of books, my son still can’t write wonderful words. Whatever it is, just read it! With Zi*Mian.

July 8, 2018