Clear the concept first, don't confuse it. Self-confidence and pride are different. Self-confidence means believing in your own ability and self-affirmation. Pride is self-expansion. Generally speaking, self-confidence and pride recognize themselves, but pride will look down on the people around you and feel that they are not as good as themselves.
Modesty is not confidence. Modesty knows that you have shortcomings and you still need to learn. Not being confident means not agreeing with yourself. To put it simply, I am not confident, I don't recognize myself, I humbly recognize myself, but I know I still need to improve.
Why does pride make people lag behind? Because pride will limit people's progress. Proud people can't see their own shortcomings and feel that they are already excellent, and others can't compare with them. They will be satisfied with the status quo. Over-recognition of one's own ability may actually be that one does not have this ability, but is exaggerated by oneself. People around you may be better than them, but they can't see it.
They live in a circle of their own creation. In this circle, he is the best and he feels very satisfied. There is no need to work hard, others can't compare with me anyway. But in fact, people outside the circle are making progress, and their stagnation is retrogressive compared with others.
Modesty makes people progress, because modesty makes people reflect on themselves and look for their own shortcomings with others, instead of focusing on their own strengths. No matter how strong and excellent a modest person is, he will find that there is something to be improved in himself. So they can't stop learning, learn from others and make continuous progress.
We should be confident and modest. Know yourself rationally, understand your own advantages, and also need to see your own shortcomings.
Many people know that they are good-looking, that their skin is actually not good, and that they are better-looking than themselves. In short, don't set limits for yourself and live outside the circle. I hope it helps you ~