Filial piety when entering the country>Original text: Don’t be lazy when responding to your parents’ orders. Don’t be lazy in your parents’ teachings. You must listen to your parents’ responsibilities and obey them
Winter is warm and summer is warm, and morning is calm and drowsy. If you are determined to make a mistake, you must report it, but you must face it. Your business will remain unchanged
No matter how small the thing is, don’t be arrogant and be good at doing things for your children. No matter how small the thing is, don’t hide it secretly and hurt your loved ones
What you love and what you hate is what you hate. I want to get rid of it. It will hurt my body and cause sorrow to my family. It will hurt my morals and cause shame to my family.
Why is it so difficult to love me and be filial? If you hate me, I am filial and virtuous.
My dear, my face is soft and my voice makes me more happy. My voice is soft and my voice is not pleasant. I cry again and cry. I follow the tart without complaint.
My dear, I have an illness. I taste the medicine first. I wait around day and night. I don’t leave the bed. After three years of mourning, I often swallow my house and turn into wine and meat. Absolutely
Exercise all funeral rituals and sincerity, and treat the dead as they were alive. Explanation: Filial piety and brotherhood are the foundation of Chinese culture. The ancients said: "Filial piety comes first among all good deeds." If a person is filial, he has a kind and benevolent heart. With this benevolence, he can benefit many people. At home, when our parents call us, we should answer immediately as soon as we hear it, and don't agree slowly. When our parents want us to do something, we must act quickly and do not delay or be too lazy to do it. When our parents want us to learn well and teach us, we must be respectful and not casual. We must listen to what we say. When we make mistakes and our parents blame us, we should obey them and bear our mistakes. We should not disobey them and make them sad. As children, you should pay attention to whether your parents are wearing warm clothes and whether the place they live in is warm in winter. In summer, consider whether parents feel cool. Every morning when you get up, you must visit your parents to ask if they are well; when you come back in the evening, you must also say hello to your parents. When you go out, tell your parents where you are going. When you get home, be sure to meet your parents to make them feel at ease. There is a certain order in daily life and rest, and they do not change casually what they are doing. Even though things are small, don't make the decision without telling your parents. If you do it arbitrarily, it will undermine your duty as a child. Even though things are small, don't hide them secretly behind your parents' backs. If your parents find out, The parents must be very sad. Children should try their best to prepare all the things that parents like, and carefully exclude things that parents dislike. If our body is hurt, it will definitely bring sorrow to our parents. If our character is lacking, our parents will feel humiliated and lose face. Parents love and protect their children, and it is extremely natural for children to be filial to their parents. What is the difficulty in such filial piety? If our parents hate us, but they can still fulfill their filial piety with all their heart, that would be a rare thing. Most people always believe that children have the obligation to perform filial piety only after parents have given something to their children. How is this different from bargaining at the vegetable market? When parents make mistakes, their children must advise them to correct their mistakes, and when admonishing, they must not keep a straight face or speak harshly, but their faces should be gentle and cheerful, and their words should be gentle and calm. If parents do not accept our advice, then we should wait until the parents are happy before giving advice. If the parents still refuse to listen, a filial person cannot bear the injustice done to his parents, and may even burst into tears and beg his parents to change their ways, even if they are beaten by their parents without any complaints. , children must taste it first to see if it is too cold or too hot. No matter day or night, you should serve your parents, and you should not leave your parents too far away at will. When your parents are seriously ill, they need someone to take care of them the most, especially if their children can accompany them and take care of their daily life. This is the warmest thing in the hearts of parents. with satisfaction. When our parents are dying and seriously ill, how can we, as children, give up this opportunity because we are busy with our careers or have no time? When parents unfortunately pass away, they must mourn for three years. During the mourning period, they often cry in sadness because they miss their parents. They also live in a simple place and give up drinking and eating meat. When handling the funeral of parents, one must follow the etiquette, not be careless, and be sincere when offering sacrifices. Treat your deceased parents with the same respect as you treated your parents when they were alive. Why do we do this? Confucius said: "It takes three years after a child is born to leave the arms of his parents. He can walk and eat on his own, which makes the parents feel a little relieved. As children, after the death of our parents, why can't we spend three years of mourning? I miss my parents all the time during the semester. Where do I miss my parents? "Parents are the closest to us in life and have the greatest kindness to us. Only by studying the etiquette of serving our parents and treating filial piety as a big business can we be based on it. Between heaven and earth. A loving father and a filial son may not necessarily make our family rich or have a garden or a villa to live in. However, filial piety can establish a natural and harmonious order and allow us to live in a peaceful and happy environment. If home is a person's fortress, filial piety is the cornerstone under the fortress. The more filial piety you have, the more protection your family will have. Let us use filial piety to make our family a fortress. These rules in the "Disciple Rules" may seem ordinary, but if we implement them seriously, they will bring joy to our parents. It's not something that can be compared to something sexual. Now we can cultivate such good words and deeds in our family, and there will naturally be unexpected gains in the future.
------------------------------------------------ ----------------------------------------〈Chu Zedi】Original text: Brothers, friends, brothers, Dao Gong Brothers live in harmony and have filial piety. How can there be any resentment when there is little wealth? Words can be tolerated and anger can be extinguished
Eating or eating or sitting and walking away. The elders go first before the younger ones and then the elders. Call others to take their place and ask others to arrive as soon as they are gone.
Address your elders, do not call them by name. Do not see your elders. If you encounter a long illness on the road, bow to your elders without saying a word and retreat. Stand respectfully
Get off your horse, get off your car and pass by, waiting for a hundred steps to go
Elders stand up Children should not sit on the seat of elders; sit in front of the elders, but it is not appropriate to sit in front of the elders. It is not appropriate to keep your voice low and not hear it.
If you are close, you will retreat and you will be late when asked. Don’t look away.
Be like your father. Serving your father and serving your brothers is like serving your brothers. Explanation: When you go out, you are your brothers. It talks about the way brothers get along with each other in the family and the rules for how to get along with their elders. Within these norms, children are trained to be courteous and respectful, and they will naturally integrate into the group and be accepted by everyone. Brothers and sisters should be friendly to their brothers and sisters, and brothers and sisters should be respectful to their brothers and sisters. In this way, brothers and sisters can be harmonious and reduce conflicts, and parents will be happy in their hearts. In this harmony exists filial piety. Take the money and items used outside the body lightly and care less, and there will be no resentment between brothers; don't be too impulsive when speaking, and be able to hold back from saying hurtful words, then unnecessary conflicts and resentments will disappear without a trace. In daily life, some people think that when children are still young, they should not be too demanding when they get along with their elders. They will naturally adapt to them when they grow up. They even dote on children and give delicious and useful things to children first, so that children They take this for granted and do not know how to be courteous to their elders, thus misleading their children into developing bad habits. However, the "Disciple Rules" instructs us not to neglect the virtue of politeness that should be cultivated from an early age because of adults' favor. Whether it is eating or drinking, we must ask our elders to use it first; if we sit with our elders, we must ask our elders to sit down first. ; If you are walking with elders, you should let the elders go first. When an elder calls someone, if you hear it, you should go and summon the elder. If the person you called is not there, you should come back and report to the elder. You can further ask the elder if there is anything you need help with. When addressing your elders, you cannot call them by their first names. That is impolite. In front of your elders, do not show that you are very talented or look down on your elders. When we meet an elder while walking, we should quickly step forward to salute and greet us. If the elder does not speak to us, we should step aside and stand respectfully to let the elder pass by first. If you are riding a horse, you should dismount when you meet an elder. If you are riding in a vehicle, you should get off the horse, let the elder pass first, and wait until you are about a hundred paces away from us before you get on the horse or the car. If the elders are still standing, we, the younger ones, should not sit down first. If the elders are sitting, we should only sit down after being allowed to sit down. When speaking in front of elders, the voice should be low, but if the voice of the answer is too low to be heard clearly, that is inappropriate. You should be pleasant and your voice should be soft and clear. When you enter to see an elder, you should walk quickly and behave politely. When you leave, you should exit slowly. When an elder asks a question, you should stand up and answer, look at the elder, and do not move left or right. Treat uncles and uncles with the same respect as you treat your own father, and treat your brothers of the same race with the same kindness as you treat your own brothers.
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Guanbi The socks and shoes must be tied tightly, the crown and clothes should be properly positioned, and they should not be messed up to cause filth.
Clothes should be clean and elegant, but should not be expensive. /p>
Don’t drink when you are young, drinking is the most ugly thing.
Step calmly, stand upright, bow deeply, bow respectfully, do not step on the threshold, do not lean on the threshold, do not lean on the dustpan, do not shake your knees
Slowly Don't make a sound when opening the curtain, turn wide and don't touch the edge, hold the empty weapon as if it were full, enter the empty room as if there were people
Don't be busy and make many mistakes, don't be afraid of difficulties, don't take the fight lightly, never approach the evil, and never ask about out-of-the-way things
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When you enter the door and ask who is alive, when you go to the hall and your voice will be heard, people will ask who is right. My name is not clear to me
When using a character, you must ask clearly. If you don’t ask, it will be a stolen character. Return it in time. It is not difficult to explain the urgent explanation: As a son of man, we should get up as early as possible in the morning and go to bed as late as possible at night, because the years of life are very limited and time is easy to pass away. Young people will become old people in a blink of an eye, so we must cherish the precious time now. Every morning when you get up, you must wash your face first, then brush your teeth and mouth, and wash your hands after defecating. This is a good child who pays attention to hygiene. Wear your hat properly when going out, and button your clothes properly; socks and shoes should be worn appropriately, and shoelaces should be tied tightly, so that the whole body is neatly groomed. Hats and clothes that have been taken off should be placed in a fixed place and should not be thrown around to avoid getting wrinkled and dirty. When wearing clothes, you should pay attention to neatness and cleanliness, not expensive and gorgeous clothes, and you should dress according to your own status and the financial situation of the family.
Don't be picky about food, and eat appropriate portions and don't overeat. We are still young and underage, and we should not try drinking, because when we are drunk, we will become ugly and most likely to behave inappropriately. When walking, your steps should be leisurely and your standing posture should be correct. Pay attention to bowing deeply when saluting and being respectful when kneeling. When entering the door, do not step on the threshold. When standing, avoid leaning forward. When sitting, do not spread your feet like a dustpan or a tiger, and do not shake your feet or shake your buttocks. Only in this way can you show an elegant and pleasant posture. When entering the door, slowly open the curtain and try not to make any noise. When walking and turning, keep a wide distance away from edges and corners so as not to hurt your body by touching them. Handle empty utensils as if they were full. Be equally careful when entering an unoccupied house as you would enter an occupied house. Don't do things in a hurry, as it is easy to make mistakes when you are in a hurry. Don't be afraid of difficulties and hesitate to shrink back when you encounter things that need to be done, and don't be rash and casual and perfunctory. We should not stay near places where fights are likely to occur; we should not be curious to inquire about evil and weird things. Before entering the hall, ask: "Is anyone there?" When you are about to enter the hall, first turn up the volume to let the people in the hall know; if someone asks: "Who are you?" When answering, you must say your name. If Just say "I" or "I", and the other party won't be able to hear who it is. If we want to use other people's belongings, we must make it clear to them in advance. If we use them without permission, it is equivalent to stealing. If you borrow items from others, return them immediately when you are done using them. If you need it urgently in the future, you will not have too many difficulties if you borrow it from others. These principles of ordinary language behavior allow us to act as soon as we know it, control ourselves, make things more efficient, treat others more harmoniously, and create an environment in which our body and mind are harmonious. There is no need to be discouraged if we can't do it for the time being. As long as we can clearly identify the direction, agree with the teachings of the sages, and be willing to use our time to ponder slowly, just like a rough stone can slowly reveal its beauty.
--------------------------------------------- ------------------------------------------〈Trust〉Original text: Anyone who makes a promise and believes it is deceitful and deceitful. Xi Ke, it is better to say too much than to say too little. Just keep it true and don’t be sycophantic
Be careful with cunning and cunning words and filthy words that are popular in the market
Don’t talk lightly when you see what is not true. Don’t tell things lightly when you know what is true. If it is not appropriate, don't take the promise lightly, and keep the promise lightly. It is wrong to advance or retreat
Every word is heavy and easy, don't be anxious, don't be blurry, let others talk long and short, don't worry about yourself
See others well. That is to say, if you think about everything, even if you go far away, you will gradually come to see the evil in people. If you introspect, you will correct it without warning.
Only morality and learning. Only talents and skills are not as good as others. You should train yourself like clothes. If your food and drink are not as good as others, don’t be sad.
I have heard anger, I have heard praise, I am happy, I have hurt my friends, I have come to benefit my friends, but I have heard fear, I have heard praise, I have been frightened, I have been honest, and people gradually get close to each other
Unintentional is not called wrong, intentional is not called evil, and mistakes can be changed to nothing if they are covered up. Zeng Yigu’s explanation: Whenever you speak, you must first pay attention to credibility. Can deceitful and untrue words always work in society? It is better to say less than to say more. Be honest about the facts and don’t use unrealistic rhetoric. , In addition, treacherous and arrogant words, dirty words and the vulgar tone of scoundrels must be strictly avoided. You have not seen the truth of the matter, do not express your opinions easily, do not understand the matter clearly enough, do not spread it easily, feel that the matter is inappropriate, do not agree easily, because if you agree easily, you will be in a dilemma. You should speak calmly and comfortably. Don't speak too fast or too hastily, or in a way that makes people unable to hear you clearly or misinterpret your words. When you encounter others talking about other people's rights and wrongs, if it has nothing to do with you, don't meddle in their own business. When I see the good behavior of others, I have the good idea to emulate them. Although I am still far behind, as long as I work hard, I can gradually catch up. No matter whether it is a big good or a small good, you must have the confidence to think about it and the courage to do it. If you do a small good, you must be careful not to do it. When the opportunity to do a big good comes, you must seize it in time and try your best to do it reluctantly. When you see others committing sins, you should first reflect on yourself. If you have made the same mistake, you should immediately change it. If not, you should be more vigilant and not make the same mistake. When your moral knowledge and talents are not as good as others, you should push yourself and try to catch up. As for the clothes you wear and the food you eat are not as good as others, you don't have to worry or be depressed. I get angry when others say my faults, and I feel happy when they praise me. In this way, there will be more and more bad friends, and sincere and helpful friends will not dare to be with us. If I first reflect on myself when I hear others praising me, I am afraid that I don’t have these advantages and have an empty reputation; when I hear others criticize my faults, but I happily accept them in my heart, then upright and honest people will be more likely to be close to us. If you do something wrong without intention, it is called a fault; if you do it knowingly, it is a sin. If you accidentally make a mistake, if you have the courage to correct it, you will make fewer and fewer corrections, and gradually you will have no fault. If you deliberately cover up the mistake, it will add another sin of concealment.
--------------------------------------------- ------------------------------------- "Pan Love All People" Original text: All people must love God Same as the earth and the same load
Those who act high are famous and respected by others, but not good-looking and talented. Those who look forward to being great are not respected by others. They are not said to be great.
Don’t be selfish if you are capable. Don't be frivolous, don't flatter the rich, don't be arrogant and poor, don't be disgusted by the old, don't be happy with new things
Don't disturb others when they are not busy, don't disturb them with words, don't disturb others
Don't expose others' selfish motives. Don't say that people are good, they are good people, and the more they know, the more they think about and encourage them
Praising people's evil is a serious disaster, and doing good and encouraging virtue are both faults and irregularities.
Whatever takes and values ???? When you know what is right and what is right, you should take more. When you join others, ask yourself first. If you don’t want it, do it quickly
If you want to repay kindness, if you want to forget to repay resentment, you will not repay kindness.
Being noble and dignified even though you are a noble servant. Compassion and magnanimity can win people's hearts, otherwise reasoning can convince others. There is no words to explain: Caring for and caring for the public is like the sky and the earth. There is absolutely no selfishness. It does not matter whether it is a good person or a bad person, smart, stupid, valuable, poor or humble, regardless of race or nationality. Protection and carrying are purely a kind heart, not for fame and fortune, and without any pretense. It is the realm of great harmony where “the sky covers the same ground and the earth covers the same ground.” A gentleman who loves everyone has the concept of oneness with others in his heart, so he is willing to put aside his selfishness and care for everyone. If we learn to be kind to others everywhere, improve our moral character, keep our character, and learn all kinds of things in depth With talent, I believe that I can also create a career that benefits the public. People with high moral character will naturally have a high reputation, and what people respect is their virtue, not their outstanding appearance. People with great talents will naturally have a high reputation, and what people admire is their true talent, not just their ability to express opinions. Don't be selfish and conservative when you are capable of doing things; when you see others' talents, you should praise and affirm them more and don't belittle others out of jealousy. Do not be flattering and seeking glory towards the rich; do not show arrogance towards the poor, do not dislike or despise relatives and old friends, and do not blindly like new people and new friends. The most sage teacher Confucius taught us that it is better for poor people to enjoy themselves morally than to flatter others. Rich people should not only not hinder others with their pride, but also love etiquette and respect the public. The poor and the rich just have different lifestyles. They must learn etiquette to enrich their talents and give full play to the benevolence of everyone. Only in this way can we create a happy society where "the poor are happy, the rich are polite". If the other person is busy and has no free time, don't bother him with things; if the other person is very unstable physically and mentally, we won't disturb him with gossip. Never expose other people's shortcomings. If others have secrets that we don't want others to know, we shouldn't tell them. Praising others for their good deeds is tantamount to doing good deeds yourself, because when the other person knows about it, they will be more encouraged to do good deeds. Publicizing the faults of others is tantamount to doing evil yourself. Excessive hatred will bring disaster. If you do good deeds, you can encourage each other, and both parties can build good moral character. If you make mistakes and do not advise each other, both parties will leave flaws in their character. When dealing with people's financial matters, they should be clearly distinguished and not ambiguous. Or, if you only share your property with others, you should be generous and give more; if you use other people's property, you should take less; if you have something to do or something to say to someone, you should first ask yourself if you like it. If you don't like it, you should Stop immediately. If others are kind to me, I should always want to repay them; if I accidentally become grudges with others, I should ask others for their understanding and forget the hatred as soon as possible. The shorter the time for resentment, the better, but the intention to repay kindness should last forever. Don't forget, when dealing with maids and servants at home, your behavior must be dignified and dignified, not frivolous and casual. If you can be more kind and generous, it will be even better. Power can make people obey. Although they dare not resist on the surface, they do not agree with it in their hearts. Only by influencing the other party with reason can one be convinced without any complaints. Although few people use maidservants nowadays, the relationship of superiority and inferiority can still be seen everywhere. Let us learn from the virtuous gentleman's love for others, think more about the public, and jointly create a community of mutual care and consideration. Warm society.
---------------------------------------- ---------------------------------------- "Qin Ren" Original text: We are all human beings but we are not the same. The benevolent people among the common people hope for fruit. The benevolent people are fearful and outspoken.
Being kind to benevolent and infinitely good and virtuous. As time goes by, the less and less kind, the less kind and infinitely harming the villain. The categories are not necessarily neat. Generally speaking, the laity who follow the trend account for the majority, while the benevolent people appear to be rare. For a truly benevolent person, everyone will naturally respect him. A benevolent person will not deliberately conceal or distort the facts in his words, nor will his face and attitude deliberately seek to flatter others. If you can get close to a benevolent person and learn from him, you will get unlimited benefits. Your own moral character will naturally improve and your mistakes will be reduced. If you refuse to get close to benevolent people, a lot of harm will occur invisibly. Villains will take advantage of the situation and surround you, and everything will be a complete failure.
-------------------------------------------------- ------------------------------- "Yu Liwen" Original text: If you don't practice it but learn it, the article will become flashy. Let one's own opinion obscure the truth
There are three ways to read: read this with all your heart, eyes, and words. Don't admire each other. Don't get up until the other end is over.
Be wide, be limited, be tight, work hard, and work hard to clear the blockage. If you have any doubts, take notes and ask for help
Clean the room, clean the walls, clean the desks, clean the pens, inkstones, grind the ink, be off-centered, use wrong words, be disrespectful, and have a heart-first disease
List the classics and have a fixed place After reading, even if there are some missing parts in the restoration, please make up for them.
Don’t look at the screen of a non-sage book. Don’t be smart or have a bad will. Don’t destroy yourself. Don’t abandon yourself. Saints and virtuous people can be tamed. Explanation: For filial piety and brotherhood , sincerity, trust, universal love for others, and kindness, but are unwilling to practice these duties and only study and explore in knowledge. This is the easiest way to develop illusory and flashy habits. How can you become a truly useful person? ? On the contrary, if we only focus on practice but refuse to study knowledge, we will easily be attached to our own opinions and fail to conform to the truth. This is not the attitude we should have. Today, it is common to slander sages, doubt the ancients, and despise the moral principles. In particular, basic filial piety has been regarded as narrow-minded and outdated in recent years. Although everyone is determined to reform the social chaos, they have also spent a lot of manpower and material resources to promote it. However, the concept of ethics has been forgotten for too long, making it impossible to rectify the social order. stand up. Confucius once pointed out: "A gentleman who is determined, self-reliant and benevolent should study various knowledge extensively, and then use etiquette to restrain his words and deeds. Such a gentleman with knowledge and etiquette will not be too outrageous in his words and deeds." "Disciples" "Gui" specifies the content of etiquette. As long as you follow the "Disciples' Regulations" and practice it, and learn various classics and life knowledge, you will have lofty wisdom and practical courage. A person with both wisdom and courage will definitely not deviate from the right path. The right path is the straight path, and you will reach your goal quickly. The method of reading should pay attention to three aspects, namely, understanding with the heart, understanding with the eyes, and understanding with the mouth. These three must be done in a practical way. When reading this paragraph, don’t think about other paragraphs. If you haven’t finished reading this paragraph, don’t jump to another paragraph because you are not interested or curious. Read it step by step. There should be rules when reading. There should be a relatively generous time limit for reading a book or a homework. However, you should not wait until the time limit is approaching before you start reading just because you have extra time. Being anxious will delay things, so be regular. If you are good, you should study hard quickly. When you encounter a place that is blocked and difficult to pass, you must study more intently. As long as you have the time, you will naturally be able to understand it. This is what is said about reading a book a thousand times, and its meaning will appear by itself. If you have any questions and you still can't understand them after repeated thinking, write them down with a pen and ask the relevant teacher for advice. You must get the correct answer before letting it go. The study room should be kept simple and clean, the surrounding walls should be kept clean, the desk should be clean, the pens and inkstone used should be placed correctly, and the ink should be polished on the inkstone. If the ink stick is worn flat, it means that the intention is not correct, and if the writing is casual and unfair, It means that if you have a disease in your heart first, you should arrange classic books and place them in a fixed place. After reading them, return them to their original place immediately. Even if something urgent happens, you should tidy them up before leaving. When a book is incomplete or damaged, it should be repaired immediately to keep it intact. If you love books, and books love you, there is a certain amount of respect in them. Every amount of respect will bring you a harvest, and if you are very respectful, you will gain a lot. If it is not a book that conveys the teachings of sages and sages, put it aside and ignore it, because the improper principles in the book will blind our intelligence and corrupt our pure aspirations. Don't be self-righteous and arrogant, and don't be willing to degenerate and give up on yourself. Although the realm of sages is high, everyone can reach it as long as they follow the steps and proceed step by step. When you are young and ignorant, if you use proper teaching materials and a good environment to cultivate learning, you can create sages. The principles taught in the "Disciple Rules" are exactly the teachings of the saints. Starting from being filial when entering, being a brother when going out, being sincere and trustworthy, loving all the people, being kind and benevolent, and studying the literature, start from the ethics in daily life. When the family extends to school and society, it can best cultivate the character of a gentleman. Therefore, this book should be read and recited carefully, deeply rooted in the heart, and used as a mirror for personal reflection and a pointer for behavior.
Di Zigui has many famous sayings. Different people have different experiences. I hope they are useful to you O(∩_∩)O