"Only women and villains are difficult to raise. Those who are close will not be inferior, and those who are far away will be resentful." This means that only wives and villains are more difficult to manage and raise. If you get too close to them, they will disrespect you; if you distance yourself from them, they will blame you. It's a very delicate balance.

Source

The source of this sentence is a sentence in "The Analects of Confucius".

Excerpts from the original text

"Only women and villains are difficult to raise. Those who are close will not be inferior, and those who are far away will be resentful."

Translation

< p>Wives and villains are the two types of people who are more difficult to manage and raise. If you get too close to them, they will disrespect you; if you distance yourself from them, they will blame you.

Appreciation

What this article mainly wants to tell us is that for these two types of people, women and villains, we need to have a delicate balance, neither too close nor too close. Too distant. When interacting with women, you should behave in a gentlemanly manner and should not use lewd words. At the same time, we must actively join the WTO and make contributions to society.

Confucius meant to teach people to behave like gentlemen when interacting with women. You shouldn't talk dirty to a girl just because she has a crush on you, and you shouldn't blame a girl because she's distant from you. Regarding Confucius' views on women, the predecessors believed that Confucius despised women, which was actually a misunderstanding of certain chapters in the Analects of Confucius. For example, "There is only one woman, only nine people." The "one woman" here only refers to the women in the harem, while the "nine people" refer to talents from society.

In addition, Confucius emphasized that actively joining the WTO and making contributions to society presuppose that the country has correct political principles and governance methods. And "being an official" is not the same as holding an official position.

Creative background

You may not be able to fully understand the meaning by just reading this article, and it needs to be interpreted in conjunction with the background at the time. The era in which Confucius lived was a feudal society, and people's values ??and moral concepts were very different from modern society. At the same time, Confucius emphasized that the country has correct political principles and governance methods out of consideration for social stability and development.

Notes

Wei: only

Difficult to live with: difficult to get along with

Disrespectful: disrespectful, rude

Resentment: Complain, dissatisfaction

Life inspiration

This sentence reminds us that we should maintain appropriate distance and respect in interpersonal relationships. When we get too close to someone, we may lose their respect, often because we don't give them enough space and respect. On the contrary, if we are too distant from someone, the other person may feel left out and dissatisfied. At this time, we also need to pay attention to maintaining the relationship with the other person. Therefore, when getting along with others, we should learn to grasp the distance and attitude. We should neither be too close and lose the respect of the other party, nor be too distant and make the other party feel dissatisfied and lonely.

From personal experience, I once had a friend who was too dependent on me. He had to contact me almost every day, and sometimes even shared some personal things with me. Although I always tried my best to maintain our friendship, as time went on I began to feel a little overwhelmed by the pressure, and there were times when I felt overwhelmed by her dependence. Ultimately, I chose to distance myself appropriately from her and return our relationship to a more healthy and balanced state. Although this was difficult to do, I think it was ultimately good for our friendship. Therefore, we should learn to maintain a good distance and attitude when getting along with others, so that we can establish healthy and long-lasting interpersonal relationships.