No matter at any age, the sign of personal growth is to get out of the comfort zone.

Why do people leave their comfort zone? Why do people grow up? This problem cannot be avoided, otherwise there will be no logical starting point.

Simply put, it is for a better life, for a better experience, and for a better relationship with others.

Comfort zone is a psychological concept, which is directly related to people's stress.

When people are in the comfort zone, they will feel very comfortable and feel no pressure. At this time, they have no desire to change the status quo and are unwilling to make too much effort.

Humans constantly invent new technologies and manufacture new equipment and facilities in order to make people's lives more comfortable and convenient and make production and life more efficient;

On the other hand, as a concrete individual, only by giving up comfort and leaving the comfort zone can we progress and grow.

It can be said that all actions that make people walk out of their comfort zone are anti-human.

What kind of comfort zone do we need to get out of? Do you have to make yourself uncomfortable and not embarrassed to grow up into your own comfort zone?

There is a branch of Buddhism, and practitioners are called ascetics. They are required to be uncomfortable from body to mind, unable to feel any beauty or enjoyment, unable to eat delicious food, unable to sleep comfortably, unable to wash sunshine and spring breeze, unable to see beautiful scenery, eyes, happiness and satisfaction, and even unable to stand and sit at will. They must be very uncomfortable and even deprived of food and water. In short, practitioners are required to suffer all the time.

When we talk about getting out of the comfort zone, it is obviously not what an ascetic does.

Scientific research has found that people's growth and progress need deliberate practice, and deliberate practice is to overcome some stress-free habits. These comfortable parts that affect growth constitute our comfort zone, and deliberate practice is to make the comfort zone form.

Keep fit and lose weight. If you need to set aside a fixed special time every day or week, you need to get up early, you need to get rid of laziness in bed and get enough sleep, you need to overcome the pain of your body muscles, you need to get rid of your eating habits, resist the temptation of delicious food and the challenge brought by hunger, stick to it once or twice, for a day or two, and finally form a habit and keep it, so as to achieve the goal of losing weight and fitness.

Losing weight is the most frequently used topic by people, especially middle-aged people, but how many people can do it? It may be similar to the proportion of making money from stock trading. In a word, most people can't do reasonable diet and long-term regular exercise.

Emotional control

As we all know, irrational emotions are harmful in interpersonal communication, and no one wants to be an emotional out of control.

In fact, every moment, out-of-control emotions are causing a lot of harm and loss to people. Why?

Emotion is instinctive and belongs to the amygdala. Respond to emotions quickly, naturally and comfortably. If you want to control it rationally, you must resist the physical reaction when the emotion erupts, hold back, exercise rational restraint, react slowly, or even suffer some immediate losses and lose some face. These are all preserved in the process of human evolution. If we want to be a rational person, we must overcome these instinctive reactions.

The physiological comfort zone is very wide, and people can obviously feel and appreciate it.

If the determination is big enough and the method is right, it can be done in time.

In non-physiological aspects, such as habits, ways of thinking, cognition, etc., the comfort zone is often hidden, not as obvious as hunger and pain. It is more difficult and difficult to grasp if you want to make progress and promotion.

For example, polite, generous, tolerant and helpful;

For example, look at problems from the other side's standpoint, such as giving success and fame to others, such as investing and doing things with long-term thinking.

In order to achieve these goals, we need to make a series of changes:

1, courtesy. Can we not litter? Walking without running a red light? Don't change lanes temporarily when driving? Hello, thank you, ok? No queue jumping, no traffic jams, no acquaintances going through the back door?

2. generosity. When paying and distributing with others, can the payable amount be increased by 10%?

3. Be tolerant and generous. Can you have no hatred in your heart, ignore the villain, and hold no grudges?

4. Help others. Can we spend 10% of our income every month to help others?

5. Look at the problem from the other side's standpoint and focus on the customer's experience. Customer dissatisfaction is not a qualified product, and everything we do is to improve customer satisfaction.

6. Give others the feeling of success. Don't always say "I", say "you, you, us", I really think so in my heart.

7. Do things with a long-term thinking and way. Simply put, it takes at least 3-5 years or even 10 years or even a lifetime to make plans and plans for yourself or others or companies, rather than just focusing on the immediate and temporary.

To get out of the comfort zone of thinking, cognition and habits, we need to constantly adjust and even subvert the experience, habits, rules and methods that we have worked hard all our lives. You can imagine how painful and uncomfortable it is, but only in this way can we grow and be reborn.

Leaving the current comfort zone means entering a higher comfort zone. When you get up early every day to exercise, you will be healthier and more comfortable, and you will be healthier, more confident and have a better quality of life.

When you can control your emotions freely instead of being blocked by water, you have reached a higher level.

When your civilized manners restrain yourself and influence others, you will find that being slow will not affect anything at all, but being kind to others will make you more relaxed.

When you are a little more generous than before, you will find that your inner entanglement and tension are less, and the world will be suddenly enlightened.

When you also participate in social charity relief work and make practical contributions, you will get more love in return and a beautiful bath of humanity.

When you often look at the problem from the other side's point of view, you will find that the satisfaction of the service industry is the first, and profit is only a by-product.

When you give all the credit to others, in fact, you have nothing to lose, and you will gain their respect and pay.

When you add a time dimension to your thinking or decision-making and use long-term thinking and methods everywhere, you will find that you not only have a pair of clairvoyance, but also a normal heart. You can be calm when you are in shock, calm when you are ups and downs, bear hardships and be a gentleman.

Getting out of the comfort zone is growth, long-term achievement and flow experience.

Is this the ultimate goal of our lifestyle? I don't know, at least one of them.