Meaning:

The first sophistication is a noun, worldly sophistication. The second is an adjective, dealing with things in a smooth and sophisticated manner. This sentence means that a person must know how to behave in the world and understand the ways of the world, but he will not become cunning and sophisticated because of this, and he will only know how to flatter others.

For example:

When you meet someone, you should only say a few words, but don’t give up everything. This is a famous saying in Zeng Guangxian's article, which is a summary of history. If you do this, it shows that you are sophisticated.

However, if you know how to listen to others from here, it means that you are "sophisticated". At the same time, you still sincerely help others and are not afraid of others letting you down, which means that you are "unsophisticated".

How to do it:

1. Don’t be inconsistent with what you say

The first sign of sophistication is that you begin to speak insincerely. What is insincere? It’s what we often call duplicity.

In the eyes of smooth and sophisticated people, this kind of insincerity actually comes from their compromise in life. They are afraid that others will dislike them if they speak their true voice, and they are even more afraid that their opinions that are different from others will be criticized by more people.

So choosing to tell lies is a survival strategy for them, and it is also a way for them to maintain seemingly good interpersonal relationships.

2. Don’t just know a little bit of everything

The second manifestation of being smooth and sophisticated is that he knows a little bit of everything. He can say a few words to you when dealing with all kinds of people. , but in fact he has no particularly outstanding areas, and is lackluster in every area.

Extended information

Celebrity examples:

During the Ming Dynasty, there was a warlock who said he could smelt scrap iron into gold and silver. After bumping into Tang Bohu's head, the warlock said one thing after another, which was very exciting.

Most people are easily obsessed with things and are fooled by petty gains. However, Tang Bohu was quick-witted and calm and asked, "Why don't you do this on your own and end up doing this to me?"

This The warlock also had a routine answer, so he said: "I hate my poor fortune! I have read many people, and my immortal style and spirit are not as good as yours."

This answer is simply irresistible, but the more Saying this, the more he exposes his deceptive nature. Tang Bohu could have exposed this person, but due to the compassion in his heart, he did not expose and ridicule the person in person. Instead, he took a fan and wrote a poem, saying:

"In the rag shirt" When you meet people, you tell them that you can burn silver. How can you not burn it yourself?" Avoiding unnecessary trouble is also a kind of mercy.