What is the right choice?

The answer is altruism.

What is altruism?

The altruistic heart is defined in the book Heart: The noblest and most beautiful heart a person can have is the kind heart that cares for others, even if he sometimes sacrifices himself and does his best for others. Such a heart, in Buddhist language, is called "altruistic heart".

Actions motivated by altruism have a higher probability of success than actions without such motivation, and sometimes even produce surprising results beyond expectations.

Success is attributed to altruism.

Festinger, an American social psychologist, has a famous theory:

10% of life is made up of what happens to you, and the other 90% is determined by your reaction to what happens.

In other words, only 10% of life is force majeure, and the other 90% depends on our cognition and choice.

This is called Festinger's law, and the root of change lies in mentality.

For example, from 20 17 to 2020, I have been on the way to take the senior auditor exam. This is a very difficult journey. In addition to the failure of the 20 17 senior auditor's examination and the failure of the 20 19 senior auditor's defense, there are many artificial obstacles. When I want to give up, I think of my mother and son.

My mother is old and has been in poor health. My mother's future life and pension depend on my certificate. In addition, getting a license is an agreement between my son and me. My son is trying to take the postgraduate entrance examination. I can't give up. I will work hard with my son. Even if the textual research fails, this "never give up" fighting spirit can at least affect my son.

With this in mind, I stopped complaining, put down my complaints, calmed down, blocked other thoughts, and was in a state of ecstasy, concentrating on studying audit theory and writing, making no less efforts than anyone else. Therefore, in September, 2020, when I attend the defense of the senior auditor, I will talk to Kan Kan with unusual calmness. From June 5438 to February 2020, he obtained the certificate of senior auditor. 202 1, 1, my son passed the legal professional qualification examination. The result was unexpected, and I was surprised myself.

In retrospect, there is only one explanation: the purpose of obtaining the certificate is to ensure the mother's future life, not to lead a luxurious life for herself. No matter how many people put up obstacles, "filial piety comes first", because Xiaogan moved the world and God helped me.

As Mr. kazuo inamori said in the book Heart, "All success is attributed to altruism."

03 ? Extreme altruism is the key to the "treasure house of wisdom"

How should people live? What kind of mentality should people hold? These two questions have the same meaning. What you draw in your mind determines what kind of life you will lead.

If you are altruistic and do altruistic things, your fate will naturally improve. On the contrary, as long as you are good to yourself, you are narrow-minded, even kicking others down for your own benefit. People with such evil thoughts, even if they succeed for a while, will eventually decline.

Therefore, "thinking for others", that is, altruism, is particularly important. Because, the action initiated by altruism will bear good results and return to self sooner or later.

For example, when I am maliciously slandered or misunderstood by others, I can explain and let others know the truth, but the result will hurt her. For the sake of "knowing her heart", I chose silence. It doesn't matter what others think of my words and deeds. The important thing is that people who lead a totally clean life will lead a totally clean life.

I believe that good thoughts based on altruism will bear good results many years later. At least, with this choice, I feel at ease and happy.

The heart does not call for things, and things are not there. When you meet unpleasant people and things, you are attracted to yourself.

Therefore, in modern society, when massive information keeps pouring in, when intense work keeps chasing, the mind is full of ups and downs, and the mind can't keep calm. In this case, the fluctuation of uneasiness will be temporarily suppressed, creating an opportunity to enter a state of inner peace.

Meditation is ok, so is meditation. Spend a short time every day to calm your heart. Shield distractions, focus on what you like, treat others with kindness, sympathy, kindness and compassion, and live a life you like.