If I love you -

I will never be like a climbing flower,

showing off myself on your high branches;

If I Love you -

Never imitate the infatuated bird,

Repeat monotonous songs for the green shade;

You have your copper branches and iron trunks,

Like a knife, like a sword, and like a halberd;

I have my red flowers,

Like a heavy sigh, but also like a heroic torch.

We share the cold wave, wind and thunder, and thunderbolt;

We enjoy the mist, mist, and hauni.

Throughout the ages, countless influential people have left their own love stories, but I think that only the love between Yang Jiang and Qian Zhongshu achieved "I must be a kapok next to you, as a tree." The image stands with you. ”

1. The first encounter

In 1932, 21-year-old Yang Jiang studied at Tsinghua University from Soochow University. Here, she Met the love of his life - Qian Zhongshu.

Similar to the encounters between many talented people and beauties, at the entrance of Gu Yuetang of Tsinghua University, a young talent with a witty, humorous and gentle manner met a lively and lovely beauty.

The first meeting between the two was very beautiful, and they had a great time chatting.

Start with appearance, focus on talent, and be loyal to character. The first two encounters between Yang Jiang and Qian Zhongshu can be said to be extremely lucky.

And this seemingly accidental luck is also the inevitable result of the continuous efforts of two outstanding people.

Yang Jiang was born in a scholarly family in 1911 and had a strict upbringing. Her parents did not despise her because she was a daughter. Instead, they valued Yang Jiang’s education and allowed her to receive the same education as boys.

Yang Jiang is smart and determined. She originally planned to apply for the Foreign Languages ??Department of Tsinghua University, but because Tsinghua University did not have admission quota in the south at that time, she was admitted to Soochow University. However, Yang Jiang did not give up. Study hard and actively strive for the opportunity to study at Tsinghua University.

Qian Zhongshu, like Yang Jiang, also came from a scholarly family, and his tutoring was also strict. Qian Zhongshu himself is also very knowledgeable. Not only is he well-read, but his foreign language and Chinese scores are almost perfect. He is a famous figure in Tsinghua University at a young age.

Once two excellent people with the same interests meet, it is like the meeting of golden wind and jade dew. When they first meet, they will win over countless people in the world.

A Zhihu friend once shared that what he likes most about his girlfriend is that they are equally matched.

Love never comes out of thin air, and it is easier for two people who are evenly matched to meet love.

2. A perfect marriage

I never thought about getting married until I met you.

Qian Zhongshu and Yang Jiang got engaged half a year after they met, and got married three years after they met.

After marriage, Yang Jiang did not take care of her husband and raise children like many women at that time. She completely retreated behind Qian Zhongshu and became a housewife. On the contrary, she continued to create while taking care of her family. The two read each other's works and gave their own opinions.

When Qian Zhong wrote "The Besieged City", he would first let Yang Jiang read it. After Yang Jiang read it, he expressed his thoughts, and Qian Zhongshu revised it. In this way, after two years , and finally wrote a masterpiece that shocked the literary world.

Yang Jiang has also written many good-looking literary works: "What You Want", "Fake it True", "Playing in the World", "Invisibility Cloak", "We Three", "Coming to the Edge of Life" and so on.

Good love is the tacit understanding of "there is no colorful phoenix flying wings in the body, but there is a clear understanding in the heart".

3. Get along with each other tolerantly

Although Qian Zhongshu has a photographic memory and is erudite, he has a serious shortcoming: poor self-care ability.

During Yang Jiang’s pregnancy, he did housework at home and either soiled the landlord’s tablecloth or broke the door hinges at home, which was a waste of time.

Yang Jiang, who was pregnant, not only did not blame him, but gently comforted him, telling him not to be depressed, and that he could leave it to him if he couldn't figure it out, and he could properly solve these little troubles.

Looking back at the current situation, many people’s marriages and couples who are in love have quarrels over trivial matters such as who washes the dishes, who takes care of the children, who cooks, who manages the money, and so on.

The wife thinks that the husband does not understand her tiredness of taking care of the children and doing housework, and the husband thinks that the wife does not care about her depression at work.

In the end, the two parties drifted apart and had to end in divorce.

Everyone has his or her own temper, and friction is inevitable when couples get along. Only by tolerating and understanding each other can both parties go a long way.

4. A life of mutual support

Qian Zhongshu once praised Yang Jiang as "a unique combination of three incompatible people: wife, lover, and friend."

The mountain has no edges, the heaven and the earth are in harmony, so I dare to stand apart from you. In the blink of an eye, the love between Yang Jiang and Qian Zhongshu went hand in hand for sixty-three years!

In the past sixty-three years, they have experienced too many tests in life, including the joy of suddenly becoming famous and the hardship of being devolved.

After the publication of "Fortress Besieged" written by Qian Zhong, he became famous and many young female readers wanted to know him. However, Qian Zhongshu was not moved or had any ambiguity with others. He still loved Yang Jiang deeply. .

Around 1970, Qian Zhongshu and Yang Jiang were devolved at the same time. Their lives after devolution were a little difficult, but they did not complain about each other, and they were still in love as before. They seized every opportunity to get along, and there were rumors that A beautiful story about "meeting in the vegetable garden".

Good love is not about grandeur, luxury cars or mansions, nor obedience, but whether we are poor or rich, good times or bad, healthy or sick, we will get through it together, ** * share adversities, * share blessings, hold hands with children, and grow old together with them.